Communication....know thyself! from Polywifen's blog

Can we just ponder the irony of someone claiming how important it would be to have good communication to make a relationship work and that SAME person will block you for not a) seeing and b) responding to a message to them after THIRTY MINUTES!!!?  It really does make you wonder how self aware (and lack thereof) some people are who advertise themselves here.  For better or worse, I know myself pretty well,  I can be blunt and very sarcastic, I generally think I balance the line between funny and I am very careful not to offend those who might do something innocent or in jest.  In other words, I try to not let my words hurt UNLESS I want to, which is goes back to my bluntness and inability to ignore when I think something is wrong.  

But that's a long story and trying to learn to ignore better is a process I am working on. ;o)


Regardless,  as I said, I know myself, know my limits, know my wants and what I can and cannot handle.  I wonder how many people have really pondered how they really behave, how they are in and out of relationships, how they argue and indeed, how they communicate.


Or do they, as so many people who sign up in these groups do, feel that 'everything will work out fine with the RIGHT person'  thereby leaving the onus on the other person to fill in those relationship skills gap that these people invariably have.


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Iceport
Jan 10
I wholeheartedly agree. We all have our flaws, if we are open to admit our flaws then first can we start either mending them, accept them or at least try to find a middle ground. We learnt many years ago that open and honest communication along with respect, understanding and a heaped spoon of love is the key to a successful relationship. We are soon coming up on 17 years together and the togetherness and love just grows, and we have had our share of trials in life. This is also where I think poly can give us an even better relationship as you always have someone to act as a referee and a conflict resolver. We personally welcome criticism, if you don't know the problem how are you supposed to fix it?I wholeheartedly agree. We all have our flaws, if we are open to admit our flaws then first can we start either mending them, accept them or at least try to find a middle ground. We learnt many years ...See more
PluralMarriageFamily
Jan 12
? That is too true! I appreciate Iceport’s comment as well. It’s visible in the longevity of a persons other relationships, just how much they prioritize communication. People are not perfect but if their intentions are to be attentive, flexible, and cooperative (on both sides) that’s when a harmony can be found. Personal faith in God’s law of eternal progression also plays a part in the evolution of communication. It’s important that criticisms and concerns are addressed from a mutual desire to improve, as a team/partnership. Good luck in your searches!? That is too true! I appreciate Iceport’s comment as well. It’s visible in the longevity of a persons other relationships, just how much they prioritize communication. People are not perfect but if t...See more
PluralMarriageFamily
Jan 12
Consider the irony pondered! :)
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