How do you approach your family about eventually joining a family? from friendslikefamily's blog

I have often thought this lifestyle would be for me, but many discussions with my moms and dad, they often told me that this is a difficult way to live. They lived this lifestyle for many, many years and eventually ended the marriage. Even though their marriage might not have lasted, seeing other families around me that lived this lifestyle made me want to pursue this journey. It is very hard trying to find the right family to join, and since tensions are high in my family at the moment, no one is really talking to anyone. So, my question is, how would you approach your family to tell them that even though they have advised me not to do this, I am still wanting to pursue this lifestyle?

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JohnTaylorFortner
Jul 13
They can only offer suggestions, your life is your own and the way we live it often determines how it unfolds. You don't need to tell them you are making that decision, but you can share that you are. I would thank them for their advice and tell them that you are more conscious of what can happen now. You are not challenging their opinion, as you aren't trying to make them live the lifestyle, but you are choosing your life.They can only offer suggestions, your life is your own and the way we live it often determines how it unfolds. You don't need to tell them you are making that decision, but you can share that you are....See more
MarkNiwot
Jul 14
Bingo - monogamy has a generally dismal record (getting worse, arguably, as society swirls down the toilet...)
MarkNiwot
Jul 14
But the key is to do it for the right reason - and know what that is! Too many people today don't know the truth, and let other people, often by default, end up letting them decide FOR them. And, today especially, many are dying as a result. It's never been more important to know, and to choose. The question isn't just 'how' to tell them, but in many cases - whether.But the key is to do it for the right reason - and know what that is! Too many people today don't know the truth, and let other people, often by default, end up letting them decide FOR them. And, toda...See more
DrChris121573
Jul 20
My family doesn't agree with my decision but what ever is ordained by God can not be torn asunder I follow my belief not other people
Familyfocused
Jul 31
Not sure that we will have the best advice for you with respect to how to approach your family as each family will present their own hurdles. We have however been in the position that your parents are in, in that we were married with a third for several years and it ended. Her parents objected a Lot and worked on her the whole time to end the relationship and come home. That there was nothing that could not be fixed and that anything must be better than living in polygamy. Frustrating for several reasons and the big one being that they never were willing to get to know us and see whether their fears were founded in reality. We like to think they were not but who knows. The point of bringing it up is that it seems you do understand the need for honest communication with your parents but we just want to reinforce that the erosive nature of family constantly working against your decision can impact your relationship. We are big advocates of plural marriage generally speaking and want all of us who are sincere in our desire to find a new family/wife to succeed, so we hope you are able to find a way find common ground with your parents on the topic and hopefully support. It must have been cool to have grown up around polygamy. Jealous of that. Good luckNot sure that we will have the best advice for you with respect to how to approach your family as each family will present their own hurdles. We have however been in the position that your parents are...See more
HappyHome4Us
Sep 29
If I were approaching my parents about polygyny, and they had a previous negative experience similar to yours, I would point out that any relationship, monogamous or polygynous, is difficult and always has the possibility of not working out. However, there is no great reward without great risk, and the chance of a lifetime in a wonderful, loving family is worth the gamble. As I talk through it with them, I would keep my mind focused on patience, understanding and acceptance of their negative experience, my love for them, and my ultimate personal right to find my own happiness.

Our hearts go out to you in this struggle.
If I were approaching my parents about polygyny, and they had a previous negative experience similar to yours, I would point out that any relationship, monogamous or polygynous, is difficult and alway...See more
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