New Couples, New Singles.. from Plural4Life's blog

We have been on this site for two years now.


We have met a few potentials in person and talked to many others on here, and done a lot of video chats.


We have found that a lot of people are here for unspoken reasons.. in our opinion, for the wrong reasons.


We are not judging anyone we are just posting our experiance with this site.


This site is not responsible for the people it attracts, to make that clear.


But if you're looking for a real fit for your family you should take time to make sure its 100% or your in a world of hurt.


So many just want to escape their current living situtations or join a existing family because of their poor choices.


Ultimately its up to you, what you want..

Don't compromise on your views because if you do, you will lose in the end.


We have a newborn and nothing matters more than God first and second our home..


But to help couples, we would stress, be a unit and Vet everyone you talk too.


Don't rush into anything because your family will pay the price.


If your certain this lifestyle is for you, what's wrong with taking your time? You have everything to gain, but also evrrything to lose if your man, lays with this new addition and she becomes his wife.. If she leaves, say hello to 18 years of child support your man is liable for. 


In otherwords, be aware of the wolves wrapped in sheepskin.


If your not careful you could invite the devil in your home, with your children and your responsible in the Lord's eyes for those children He loaned you! So be wise and not foolish.


If your a believer of the Word of God, seek the Lord.


You know, scripture teaches us, the Lord BROUGHT Adam his wife.. Adam did not go looking, and that is something why we stopped 'looking' and if He brings another He does. If not, let it fall at the wayside and stay focused on the Lord.


We are guilty of making a mess and then wanting the Lord to sort and fix it. Bless Him for fixing it for us all, but we should learn and grow, not remain like babies, but mature like adults do.


We learn a lot from Solmon who the Lord said, Do not take women from these tribes.


In otherwords, do not take a women from another faith outside the Lord, for she WILL turn his, yours, and your children's hearts from the Lord.


Also,

Look for good characteristics..

How she dresses speaks volumes of character.

A lady is not a women because she is a women.

Just like the Virtues Wife is a true real lady!

Dressing in provocative ways shows many things.

But scripture says, we should not put stumbling blocks infront of our brothers or sisters.


What is she politically?

Are you a Conservative and she a Liberal?

Your in for conflict.. or if your Liberal and she is Conservative your looking at the wrong "tribe".


We believe the Lord holds high regard for the home and it must be a well organised unit, not full of chaos...

We deal with enough chaos already, why bring it into your home?


I am not saying this to stop anyone from doing what their God given rights are to do. But instead putting some advice out there for couples or singles to consider and decide together how they want to proceede. 


Its good to have a good family dynamic and system in place.


So when you finally find the 'Right' one for you, she isn't thinking you people are crazy lol.


Also get a good list of important topics that could or are deal breakers, you will save yourself so much time.


Instead of not having that, you or your other says or does something that person is not for and there is a conflict.


I remember the first lady we had over, I was talking to her about politics and beliefs and we got into a debate over the LGBT topic and I refuse to have a wife that supports such a Abomination, but she didn't see it that way.


I want to teach the children the Lord loaned me, that the Rainbow is a sacred covenant the Lord made with the world.

Not, its about gay and lesbian rights.

See the conflict there??

Sure I could have compromised on God, but I am not that way, im stubborn and I won't have a wife that teaches any of my children the opposite of what I want.


A house that is divided will surely fall, and a house that stands together will not.


The Word of God is pure truth and those who do not agree will find the truth out for themselves the easy or hard way, in this life or the next to come.


So, 

Wrapping this up and hopping off..

We hope that this helps you couples who are looking tirelessly and helps you.. for we wish someone helped us when we were 'new' to this lifestyle and the search.


May the Lord of Hosts guide us all, and give us open ears and eyes that truly see.


Peace be with you all.


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robynk
Jan 31
How you are so right about vetting people. There have been so many times I have talked to people about this. While we do have so many people that have matched from the site, there are others who have been through heartbreak as well. No one is exempt from this possibly happening it sucks and it hurts when it does. Your article is spot on about bringing people in and watching who u are courting it’s extremely important thanks for your blogHow you are so right about vetting people. There have been so many times I have talked to people about this. While we do have so many people that have matched from the site, there are others who have ...See more
theoneo
Feb 1
I think this also emphasises the point that it's important to have a full profile. Everyone should first consider what it is they're looking for. If there's anything that you wouldn't compromise on or that's super important to you, then that's what should really be in your profile. I see too many profiles that say just "I'm a nice person who would make a good wife. Ask me if you want to know more." and it's not really helpful either to filter or to start a conversation.I think this also emphasises the point that it's important to have a full profile. Everyone should first consider what it is they're looking for. If there's anything that you wouldn't compromise on or...See more
Plural4Life
Feb 4
Grateful you guys have gotten something from that post. Really is subjective to the person(s) who reads it, but hopeful it helps mitigate some of the errors we made when looking. Really you can sum up most with little words. Like said, knowing what you want and posting it in your profile is a big help and indicator to whom your talking too.Grateful you guys have gotten something from that post. Really is subjective to the person(s) who reads it, but hopeful it helps mitigate some of the errors we made when looking. Really you can sum up...See more
Plural4Life
Feb 4
Vetting is super crucial too, we all get caught up on the 'end goal' we don't realise the problems we are going to have because we were not thinking clearly about it in the first place. If you stick around this site long enough you will see the tides of new comers come, and go quickly. That speaks a lot in its own self but you will find, people are either in it for the right or wrong reasons. Those reasons are subjective to each their own. So im not saying one way is better than another but what works for you and yours, works best! Hope your all having a blessed day! May God bless you all. ☺Vetting is super crucial too, we all get caught up on the 'end goal' we don't realise the problems we are going to have because we were not thinking clearly about it in the first place. If you stick a...See more
didijawoto
Feb 17
@Plural4Life: thanks for the reminder and recommendations...
kimandfer
Mar 1
Thank you so much for taking the time to share such powerful message. I hope everyone reads it and takes it to heart.
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