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They don't even change the profile names much.
And, since this is a 'pay' site, I have to wonder why they are still on here.
Also, how many of you get messages from 'ladies' that consist of just 'Hi'? Or are just one liners that are fairly generic? Or seem to have the same general answers from different ladies?
Bots perhaps?
After years of searching (and succeeding) we have pretty much come up with the golden rules.
1) first mention of needing money, dump them.
2) no audio call, dump them.
3) no video, dump them.
4) no social media? dump them. Really folks - no single woman today does NOT have social media. If they say they don't, they are lying.
5) availability to communicate - if they have 'brown out times or blackout times or drop off abruptly, they have side games going, DUMP THEM.
I'm sure there are a few real women on here. I'm sure that they get swamped by messages (flies on excrement, pirahnas on a hot dog, etc etc). And lets face it: the swingers and party lifestyles and material enticements are what a lot of them are here for. The remaining .001% that are real and great catches run away as fast as they can.
Notice the one thing really missing here: real stories of real success and can be verified.
So, on the off chance this is read by a REAL lady that is looking, message us. If you are a scammer that we have dealt with or outed in the past, the internet never forgets.
On that note, we will NOT be renewing till we see a positive change. Don't hear anything about that anymore.... hmmm....
We try to put a lot of effort into chatting and getting to know folks to see if they are a good match.
But, the vast majority are not actually here looking to become a sisterwife. I don't know about the couples, but I am beginning to suspect that a lot of the couples are not either- just swingers searching for the next bit of 'fun'.
The latest scammer was purportedly from Northwest Ohio. She literally started asking for $20 within 2 hours of starting to chat. "living with my parents and they won't feed me".
A video chat showed the reality: she has a wedding ring, a child, and lives in an apartment. Later she started pushing for us to send money for a bus ticket - claimed she had no ID and had to buy it so she could use the eticket - the usual scammer nonsense.
I don't bother to name names - they always change them anyways.
Speaking of which: when they are identified they don't get deleted. And when they come back, they don't get deleted. So, you end up with the same ones again and again.
At least there is now a 'willing to relocate' info on profiles now. Not that folks will be honest about that either, but it does help a bit.
Some of the things that have become glaringly clear to us in the last 3 months about the women looking:
1. Several of them are mentally disabled. They are either low IQ, or have other significant issues and in several cases have 'caregivers' or are in treatment centers.
2. Several are serial seekers. They go from family to family and in many cases are already chatting up several 'next stops' for when they decide to move on. A variety of motivations fuel these ones but I'm betting that deep down they are looking for the fairy tale and or big score.
3. Outright scammers - send me money for a ticket, etc.
4. Bored and lonely. Unhappy at home, lie about living circumstances, usually grossly obese, etc.
5. Academics - these folks are researching the lifestyle and documenting the real folks on here and their responses to 'chats' for use in research papers and/or articles. They are fake and are 'playing the part' to draw out the 'answers' they want.
6. Knights in Armor - looking for low hanging fruit for prosecution "I have a 17 year old daughter with me that is interested in the lifestyle too", or just disrupt a lifestyle that they KNOW is wrong. So far, every one of these I have seen is quickly and decisively deleted by the admins (wonder why they don't do that on the others?).
Most of these can be eliminated by ID verification. Not sure why it hasn't been implemented. But it sure would help.
Constantly vetting the scammers gets depressing. And is a waste of time for paying users.
Hopefully things will change...
We've been a poly family for a decade or so - three of us. During the last 3 or four years we have been looking off and on.
We realized from the start that we have several things that limit our potential match pool. First of all, is the 'rural' issue - we are 35 miles from a city. We own our farmstead, so our 'match' needs to be willing to relocate. Additionally, we are in Texas, have kids, and dogs. We don't have huge disposable incomes and are the opposite of 'glamourous'. We are much more 'prepper' and 'off-grid'. Also, we are not into the party/drug/booze/swinging lifestyles. The one bright spot in our searching is that we are not set on a specific 'look' or age.
So, our potential match pool is pretty small no matter how you look at it.
Over the years we have learned that the vast majority of single women profiles are garbage. First off, there is a significant number that are outright fake - for whatever reason. These folks could be easily eliminated by the sites by ID verification, IP tracking, and text/phone verification. That would effectively eliminate duplicates and stop the majority of scammers, once identified, from starting over. But, that would reduce the number of 'members' which in turn is believed to reduce the incentive for couples to pay.... So no dating sites have really cracked down on it. In fact most of the software packages have 'fakes' bundled. Of the ones that are 'real', many are shopping for the best deal they can get and move from family to family. Others want to be 'pillow princesses'. And then there are some that are outright psycho or even mentally disabled that have seen the 'sisterwives' shows and feel that that is what they want. Some are even looking to actively attempt to destabilize existing poly families for personal gratification or the 'get even' for previous failed relationships (hell raisers).
About the term 'pillow princess' - both of the wives use this term to describe the women that feel that they can 'join' without bringing (or doing) anything other than playing in the bedroom. They expect to be taken care of - room, board, etc - yet contribute nothing to the family. If they work outside, they typically keep everything they earn and spend it on themselves (car, clothes, etc.)
We have run into every one of these many times. Yet, we still keep looking.
