We try to put a lot of effort into chatting and getting to know folks to see if they are a good match.
But, the vast majority are not actually here looking to become a sisterwife. I don't know about the couples, but I am beginning to suspect that a lot of the couples are not either- just swingers searching for the next bit of 'fun'.
The latest scammer was purportedly from Northwest Ohio. She literally started asking for $20 within 2 hours of starting to chat. "living with my parents and they won't feed me".
A video chat showed the reality: she has a wedding ring, a child, and lives in an apartment. Later she started pushing for us to send money for a bus ticket - claimed she had no ID and had to buy it so she could use the eticket - the usual scammer nonsense.
I don't bother to name names - they always change them anyways.
Speaking of which: when they are identified they don't get deleted. And when they come back, they don't get deleted. So, you end up with the same ones again and again.
At least there is now a 'willing to relocate' info on profiles now. Not that folks will be honest about that either, but it does help a bit.
Some of the things that have become glaringly clear to us in the last 3 months about the women looking:
1. Several of them are mentally disabled. They are either low IQ, or have other significant issues and in several cases have 'caregivers' or are in treatment centers.
2. Several are serial seekers. They go from family to family and in many cases are already chatting up several 'next stops' for when they decide to move on. A variety of motivations fuel these ones but I'm betting that deep down they are looking for the fairy tale and or big score.
3. Outright scammers - send me money for a ticket, etc.
4. Bored and lonely. Unhappy at home, lie about living circumstances, usually grossly obese, etc.
5. Academics - these folks are researching the lifestyle and documenting the real folks on here and their responses to 'chats' for use in research papers and/or articles. They are fake and are 'playing the part' to draw out the 'answers' they want.
6. Knights in Armor - looking for low hanging fruit for prosecution "I have a 17 year old daughter with me that is interested in the lifestyle too", or just disrupt a lifestyle that they KNOW is wrong. So far, every one of these I have seen is quickly and decisively deleted by the admins (wonder why they don't do that on the others?).
Most of these can be eliminated by ID verification. Not sure why it hasn't been implemented. But it sure would help.
Constantly vetting the scammers gets depressing. And is a waste of time for paying users.
Hopefully things will change...