I see things that way as well, Its ok for others to have a different opinion, I was just curious, If someone were to say that a child at 17 only had 2 months to find a Poly husband and if not one would be arranged for her would you feel that would be appropriate for your children? TO me I would think that Olive had a choice in her life over Monogamy or Poly? Just curious really is all.
I have a question for all of the couples, When joining a family, How many of you believe that the men/ husband of the house makes all the rules, and how many believe it should be a combined discussion for decisions? I understand this world, My question is when you know its not a match you walk away, but im curious to see what couples believe as to who makes the rules if anyone?We believe that all major life decisions should be made together. Just like any other marriage.
I think it is funny that most people believe choosing you partner is so great when I see so many people who have screwed up their life by doing so. That said, it is the norm here and now so you do the best you can with it.
My wife and I make major decisions together. One or the other may take the lead on something, but we get consent before we move forward. We always work it out somehow. Often we begin in agreement. Sometimes we agree to go with the one who feels stronger about it. Often it leads to more research, and frequently means we find a third option we have not considered which we are both more happy with than our own idea.
From years in business I have seen more input makes better decisions. It takes longer, so it isn’t worth the time for every decision, but for the bigger ones it is. As for children getting a say in them, this is something I haven’t had to confront. My gut tells me they should be heard, but don’t get a vote. They often don’t have the perspective and background to make complex decisions.
I have a question for all of the couples, When joining a family, How many of you believe that the men/ husband of the house makes all the rules, and how many believe it should be a combined discussion for decisions? I understand this world, My question is when you know its not a match you walk away, but im curious to see what couples believe as to who makes the rules if anyone?It's a combination in my estimation. It's important to discuss the issue, and the wife's opinion will sway a good husbands opinion on any given subject, as long as it's reasonable. Ultimately, I do think a 50/50 split partnership needs a tie breaker, and that tie breaker tends to be the man. Which, given the biblical implications, seems reasonable