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JingoFamily Feb 23 '19
Paint for us all who will be reading here on the site a picture of your ideal future and how a plural marriage plays its role in that picture.

It could be how you imagine your relationship with your spouses (shouldn't the plural be spice? Hmm) and whether you are living under one roof or living in  multiple homes. It could be the number of adults and children... if doing kids then hit us with names you have in mind. It could be how you imagine spending a day twenty years from now. Maybe just what you think it would be like when the whole clan loads up for a big shopping adventure or maybe how you see a vacation.

For me I don't have a particular number of women in mind. Maybe we will meet someone new some day who meshes with us and maybe not. No particular number of children but I do know that since we have gotten started on that road I am enjoying being a father and do want more kids. We like all sorts of names but just not the modern made up ones that are so hip currently. We are under one roof now but maybe that will change as we grow. In fact, I saw an interesting couple of houses for sale in Oklahoma recently that got me to thinking. It was a couple of large older homes in the historic district of this town that had a very nice breezeway constructed between the homes so as to connect them. It seemed an interesting notion. Privacy and personal space for each wife but still very much connected. I have also thought that an apartment of a thousand square feet or so with its own living room and kitchenette as separate wings coming off of a primary hub of the main body of the house might work out well also. 

For me, regardless of the specific configuration, I would like for it to be on a few acres away from town a bit with room for several children to run and play and be kids without as many of the concerns associated with them running wild in the cities. I grew up on a fair amount of land and I would like for my kids to have the same sort of freedoms that I enjoyed only with several siblings and a handful of loving parents .

So hit us with your vision. Paint that picture for us.

JingoFamily Feb 15
Now that we have a few more people chatting and making some noise I thought I would try injecting a bit of new life into a few old posts.

So, since I wrote the original post we all have no doubt had some life changes...lot of weird has gone on since February 2019. For us it it has not been nearly as bad as for some. Being in Texas meant that we did not have as many restrictions in the last couple years but being someone who pays a lot...seriously a lot...of attention to politics, current events and how the world is changing, the vision of a plural marriage future has changed direction a bit.

Now the vision is far more focused on getting away from the metroplex and finding the right piece of land with a home and existing infrastructure (surface water/well/potential for a well, outbuildings, fencing/cross fencing...the list of considerations is too big for this blurb) within a looong commute from my work. Longer term changing jobs to telecommute. If all parties who were going to work for a normal paycheck were to take telecommuting jobs then that would allow for an enormous amount of additional benefits. Just top of my head we have home schooling an army of rug rats and crumb crunches, growing/raising a large portion of our own food, working together to build something more authentic and satisfying than can be casually had in an apartment or a suburban neighborhood. 

I imagine us learning and refining skills that are more what we would associate with our great great grandparents. Not full ludite mind you, I still want accest to information and to be able jump online and order parts for a broken windmill or what have you but perhaps pulling back a bit from the current year version of modern life.

I would like to give my wives and especially children a bit more depth in their life with a closer connection to the land that the majority have lost or never experienced. 

How about the rest of y'all who are participating?
Paint us a picture of how you see life in a plural marriage/family 

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