Hi COLEandSARA, we hope you have found some better luck since your original post! Honestly we are new to this and we don't know what exactly to expect, though it is not a huge surprise to hear of your experiences; I suspect that it is much like finding the right (house, career, best friend) in life; it's not necessarily going to be the first person you come across but when it finally happens, WOW!!! You know it and it changes your life forever! If anyone else has any advice beyond being patient, honest, and understanding, we'd love to hear it too! We remember when we met each other (on an online dating site); He went on dates with 3 women and married 2 of them (not at the same time!) but she dated at least a dozen before she found him. So some people get lucky earlier in the game, others take a longer journey. It's much like life and when you are already established and feel like you have a lot to offer someone, it's tough that it takes so long. Does anyone know the ratios of the different types of people looking? How many couples are looking for singles and vice versa? We highly suspect that the number of couples looking for a sisterwife greatly outnumbers the single women looking for a couple. It seems that way across other poly dating sites as well so it's not like Tinder where it's a nice 50/50 division.