Are you bombarded when you sign up? Is it a casual event or more intense? What things do you find enjoyable, what things do you find intimidating?
Are there things that you would say, as a single looking for a plural relationship, to couples about their approach? Is there something you wish they would do better?
From women I have talked to it is quite a mixed bag but one thread that seemed to run through a great number of them was that the relationships being proposed might be more at home on a site focused on peoples bedroom kinks than one with marriage as the entire point.
It will be interesting to see what the women have to say.
I don't know about the rest of y'all but while yeah intimacy within a relationship is great and important, I really don't think it is the first thing people should be considering. I am more interested in whether or not I am on the same page on so many other topics with a woman before it seems appropriate to discuss nookie. At least figure out if you genuinely like like someone first.
It's kinda funny, in heterosexual monogamous dating if one party started talking about sex at first the other party would find that creepy, well unless it happens to be Craigslist porn type dating site. Gay and lesbian dating sites would seem to lean towards the sexual side of things but I wouldn't want to say that categorically. I don't know about that area but I can see where there would be a genuine desire to meet people for long term relationships and figure the sex out later.
It seems that with the dating world of polygamy that the idea of bisexual starts to put sex first and it appears to become an issue when bisexual and non-bisexual mix. It's just another hurtle both sides have to overcome to get what they desire in a relationship.
That being said, communication is always key...and that does not just mean saying a lot of stuff but doing a lot of listening and asking questions and counter questions. By not asking questions, making assumptions or drawing conclusions without following up then both sides might well miss out or worse people get together too soon and then discover in person that they don't work. Worse even still is if there are children as part of the equation.
Can not bang that drumb enough...communication is just huge. No communication is probably going to equal no success. Both the ladies side and the couples side.
What makes a man valuable enough to give him the right to call more than one woman a wife?
This directs everything away from the sexual aspect that we all know is inherent to the relationship. Also, as a bonus, I get to learn new things where I might be lacking as a husband lol. Yes, the sex is important to foster additional connectivity. But it should not be the foundation ever. Thats a house built on quicksand for sure!
