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southernsass May 29 '19
I'm not concerned about weight but when someones profile says 160 lbs. I don't expect to get a picture of a 250lb. woman.
theoneo May 29 '19
Maybe the photo is old?  Or perhaps the profile is fake....   Either way, I'd ask them rather than post it on a forum but, of course, if you ask about the weight itself it will probably come across to them as horribly judgemental and probably put them off if they aren't fake.

If you're really interested, I'd perhaps be asking if they have a more recent photo or even video chat?  That way they have an opportunity to say things like they may have been on an extreme diet recently or had surgery or some such.

The Forum post is edited by theoneo May 29 '19
southernsass May 30 '19
Don't u think it makes more sense to be honest from the beginning?
theoneo May 30 '19
How have you come to the comclusion that they're being dishonest?  In my experience people are complicated beings that can't be summed up in a profile or dismissed by discrepancies.
southernsass May 30 '19
Because   I had a supposed want to be sister wife lie . Her profile said 165lbs and then she it is really more like 250. So u tell me.
theoneo May 31 '19
Like I said before, I can't tell you.  You have to ask her.  There are plenty of believable reasons for it but I would only be speculating.  Jumping to a position of an accusation of dishonesty is a bit premature, in my opinion.  What I can tell you is jumping to conclusions is a direct impediment to understanding. :-)
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vegemite Sep 23 '19
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littlebitofnc Nov 12 '19
Honesty is always the best policy. After all, if the person is going to not be truthful in the beginning how can trust be established.  Without trust, a stable foundation can not be built.  TIP:  Use the caption option to note the date/year of photos.  Especially when they are not recent photos.
Polywifen May 23 '20
Wow, what a sad judgemental post.  FWIW different people hold weight in different ways.  A 165lb woman CAN look like she is much heavier if she is 4'11.  A tall woman can be much more heavier than she looks, also ethnicity and muscle mass play a part since muscle is much heavier than fat.

At the end of the day, yes, ask, because posting a post about it, especially if that person you viewed can read it and know what you wrote about them, is in very poor taste.

Imhopie Jun 6 '20

Quote from southernsass Don't u think it makes more sense to be honest from the beginning?
Yes, I totally agree. 
LovingCouple Dec 14 '20
Advocating starting a relationship as complex as a sister wife relationship on a lie... some of you people need to check your morals. OP, I completely agree with you. If one is willing to hide such obvious information from someone else, what else is one willing to hide?
Polywifen Dec 16 '20

Quote from LovingCouple Advocating starting a relationship as complex as a sister wife relationship on a lie.

Can we stop using 'sister wife relationship' unless we are talking about  the women married to the same man?   Men don't have 'sister wives'  women do, therefore if the man is writing about a woman he is talking to, he is talking about a 'potential WIFE' not a 'sister wife'.  Men don't have sister wives.

And as has been said before, if you are going by a profile stating one thing and her picture ON her profile looking another thing, I think no one is hiding anything, it is what one states compared to how someone else appears to look.  But as I wrote about, a woman who is 4'11 could look like she is 250lbs because she is short.  No one actually KNOWS how much someone weighs unless they are her scales or her Doctor.

We can start being more moral by being less presumptuous and judgemental.  

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