Looking to add to our family... from Texasfarm's blog

We've started the process of looking for another wife to add to the family. The last one as the concensus is that four is a perfect number.

So far we've started talking to three different ladies with the typical results. Two fakes/flakes/scammers, one princess. 0 for 3.

We tend to be practical (rural farm family) and, since we have been thru the process a few times before, have gotten pretty good at spotting the fakes, flakes, frauds, scammers and con artists.

The first (not from here, Brittany) wanted assurances and $2000 per month guaranteed income, paid apartment (living in a suite in the farmhouse not good enough), separate phone (not part of family plan), car, etc. In other words a paid mistress. I'm not going to repeat the wives comments....

The second and third were the typical damsels in distress. These types always have horrible stories about their horrible lives. So much so that they have gotten to be 'over the top' - you'd think they were auditioning for Springer. And, they almost always say 'I'm not looking to be rescued'. What they all seem to have in common is that they want to go slow (not a problem) and have all sorts of things that keep them from being able to actually relocate or consider relocating soon. Times tend to vary but they are always looking at 3 to 9 months. They don't like talking to the wives - independently or as a group, but will always chat up and often get a bit risque with me. Then, when they realize that 1) we are REAL, 2) we compare notes, 3) they will have to interact with all of us, 4) we won't 'help them' with bills etc. while they are dithering, 5) want to verify their existence thru other means, 6) ask point on questions about leases, debt, family ties, stuff to be moved, etc., they ghost and block.

Both #2 and 3 were from here. H & J.

I'm not sure why these folks seem to pop up in poly so much. But they do... they seem to be a very active bunch, and put in quite the effort.

Anyway, we are here for the long haul. We will succeed eventually - despite the catfishing cretins. And we will have tons of fun identifying the chaff.

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Comments

Apr 19 '20

Polywifen

Flakes, catfish and fraudsters have been around forever, there will always be people around trying to get something out of nothing. What concerns me though is your stating that they cannot move 3-9 months as some sort of red flag. Moving into someone's home as a spouse in LESS time than that is a massive red flag to me, the desire to rush things and get another wife on lockdown, plus the insistence on a particular ideal number before you have even had your first plural wife, is also running into unrealistic territory. Don't look to woman gather, take your time, many months to get to know someONE, stop thinking of ideals and start relating to the woman as individuals. You might still get fakes and scammers, but you will probably get less frustrated by it. Good luck!! xFlakes, catfish and fraudsters have been around forever, there will always be people around trying to get something out of nothing. What concerns me though is your stating that they cannot move 3-9 mo...See more

Apr 20 '20

Polywifen

Btw, the 'thinking of an ideal number before getting your first plural wife' was obviously not about you but people who often do that. I know a bloke who decided that he was going to have five wives, before he even married one! He spent years ignoring the wives he had in an attempt to get to that number by spending his time talking to other women, not his wives. It was sad.Btw, the 'thinking of an ideal number before getting your first plural wife' was obviously not about you but people who often do that. I know a bloke who decided that he was going to have five wives, ...See more

Apr 21 '20

Texasfarm

Our number was derived not long ago but rather after a bit of discussion several years after the last expansion. Our husband only performs initial vetting by and large and usually spends very little time at it. Everyone is different.....

Apr 22 '20

Polywifen

I can't move somewhere all that quickly, I am not a fake, catfish or unsure. I am a woman with responsibilities and I need to sort all those out even WHEN I am sure that this is my family, I would hope that my future family would have the patience to wait for us because forever is a long time.I can't move somewhere all that quickly, I am not a fake, catfish or unsure. I am a woman with responsibilities and I need to sort all those out even WHEN I am sure that this is my family, I would hop...See more