They don't even change the profile names much.
And, since this is a 'pay' site, I have to wonder why they are still on here.
Also, how many of you get messages from 'ladies' that consist of just 'Hi'? Or are just one liners that are fairly generic? Or seem to have the same general answers from different ladies?
Bots perhaps?
After years of searching (and succeeding) we have pretty much come up with the golden rules.
1) first mention of needing money, dump them.
2) no audio call, dump them.
3) no video, dump them.
4) no social media? dump them. Really folks - no single woman today does NOT have social media. If they say they don't, they are lying.
5) availability to communicate - if they have 'brown out times or blackout times or drop off abruptly, they have side games going, DUMP THEM.
I'm sure there are a few real women on here. I'm sure that they get swamped by messages (flies on excrement, pirahnas on a hot dog, etc etc). And lets face it: the swingers and party lifestyles and material enticements are what a lot of them are here for. The remaining .001% that are real and great catches run away as fast as they can.
Notice the one thing really missing here: real stories of real success and can be verified.
So, on the off chance this is read by a REAL lady that is looking, message us. If you are a scammer that we have dealt with or outed in the past, the internet never forgets.
On that note, we will NOT be renewing till we see a positive change. Don't hear anything about that anymore.... hmmm....
I only do a search about once a week, probably less as people close to me do not often join. I more often just read the profiles of people who have either looked at my profile, contacted me or in some cases, I have seen somewhere else on the site and my curiosity is piqued because it is a nice or curious picture.
Very rarely do I contact those people and if I do, it's most often a question about their profile.
Maybe a polite question could be unwanted, IDK, but I had a lovely reply from someone today and I felt a little stupid for not understanding her reference because it was quite simple,but you know, cultural differences are funny.
So, anyway I saw a profile on my dashboard today I have seen before, I am not sure why it is on there again because I am not what they are looking for and they are certainly not what I am looking for either though we have never contacted each other so I figured when you are not interested, why would you keep looking at their profile? Weird.
Maybe I missed something? I think, maybe there is a cool update? I click on it to see
'This user has chosen not to interact with you'
What the dickens? I have NEVER interacted with said user, are they preempting my non question? Are they blocking me in the hopes that I will never email them? What is the point of blocking someone who has literally zero interest in you? These couples are SO entitled they must think that they are irresistible to all single women and they need to be careful just in case their future rejection is not taken kindly.
Oh good grief......
I am looking for a single non religious man whose never been married or has kids and I keep running into the same problem here and in real life,the guys that stay there single on their page on here after talking finally say they are taken or have kids.
After meeting some of these couples I came to the realization polygamy is not for me anymore,so I changed my focus.
There are also hardly any guys close to my age on this site,the only guys that come my way are ones old enough to be my grand-dad or in other countries which is a no go for me.
What can I do to better my chances of finding a quality partner ?
Thank you for listening to my mini rant!!!
When I am feeling down, I just look at some beautiful vintage pictures, like this
Just look at Elizabeth Taylor's lovely, brown soulful eyes.
What's this you say? Elizabeth Taylor infamously had violet blue eyes that were her trademark? But....as you see in this picture, her eyes are very unviolet! Surely there is no such natural phenomenon that would make a woman with light eyes, appear dark in a photograph?
Recently I was greatly amused that someone accused a woman of being a fakety, fake, fake fake because she had the temerity of looking very different in many of her pictures. I had to laugh as I could see that it was the same woman, it's just the magic of womanhood (by magic read, tanning, hair extensions, lip fillers and yes, lighting.) Now I don't know if he had recently come across a real fake asking him for $200 because her gas/phone/electricity/car/medical bill needs paying and was projecting it onto the makeup magician but my pointing his error out got me chucked off of his Xmas card list.
This search is hard, SO hard and so frustrating. We wonder why this person who we contact doesn't bother answering back, or they do and they say no thank you. We wonder if we are not attractive enough for them, too short, too fat, too thin, too poor, too old. In my case, I am inevitably some of those things plus too liberal,too opinionated, too Jewish and most likely, too bloody far away!
So we have all of these insecurities about connecting with someone and then there's ALL the scammers and the weirdos to make the search in these communities just that little bit more intolerable.
No matter how thick you think your skin is, it will sometimes get you down, make you feel that it just isn't worth it and that 'everyone here is a fake' but it is not true, the search is not all that different from monogamy, it's just the proportions are different. There are still plenty of fakes in the monogamous personals, it's just so many of you who are married have very little experience in them. I can tell you as a single person, I've had more "Widowed Engineers who were born in Chicago but write English like a foreign speaker" then there are fakes in the Polygamy personals world.
If I just gave up entirely, I am giving up on the prospect of future marriage entirely, but those already married are just giving up on more of what they already have. Maybe that is why I am not losing any sleep over the fakes, single women cannot give up because of romance scammers, profile stalkers and men cheating on their wives. We have to keep on going in the hopes that at some point, someone will see our value in all our imperfections, our opinions and our differences and we will value them for the same.
Good luck to you all. xx
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