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One thing I’ve noticed on “dating” or “meet people” networks over some period of time is that it’s SO easy to “write people off”:
too much this, not enough that.
This site certainly has one major advantage: For those of us who understand the Biblical basis of marriage, and that without question (except by those who mostly won’t be here anyway!) Scripture permits a man to have more than one wife – one of those major hurdles is removed.
Which doesn’t mean there aren’t others. Such as, is this person even REAL? Not just bots or fakes, of course, but scams. And while that’s part of the mix anywhere (perhaps even more so, given an arguably wider audience of dupes) – it’s a major issue when the pool of candidates is smaller, and the real ones are thus even more discerning.
Which is, obviously, both a good thing, and the opposite. But it does mean we have to be more selective, not less.
Which takes me back to where I began.
How much MORE important, then, to not write off the real ones? (After all, we all have our flaws, and are capable of working on them anyway).
On a more personal level, that observation leads me in a different direction. And I hope the connection will be clear.
There are, without question, many here who aren’t looking for marital partners based on an understanding of what I would consider THE most important, even vital, considerations, but something arguably opposite. (Personally, I don’t see the appeal; prostitutes, gay bars, and palaces for ‘pans’ are all over, especially in the cesspool cities some of us have escaped from, so why bother sorting through bots?)
I/we came to an understanding of Scriptural marriage in parallel with realizing that “we have inherited lies from our fathers.” Most of what I’d been told in sun-god day skool was bunk, from Him having “done away with his own Law” (perhaps the biggest lie in human history, right up there with “you can be like god,” and “you will not die”) to having changed His sabbath and feast days that He said over and over again He would not do.
Eventually I realized His mama NEVER called him ‘jesus’ (that word didn’t even exist in the English language until after 1600 AD) and then what Paul (Shaul) was warning about only a few decades after He had walked among us: that they were then, and are still, pushing “another jesus whom we have not preached” (check that out for yourself in II Corinthians chapter 11 if you find that shocking).
If ‘jesus’ “did away with” his own law (actually, “torah” is the real word; it means instruction) and “nailed it to the cross” - then that one is a “liar and the truth is not in him.”
Which makes the point I was leading up to.
I was – like many of us – angry with what I still call the ‘whore church’ (the Bible does, too!) for just how Big that Lie turned out to be. And the lies about marriage (and the curses we now see in societies that swallow them) are just one big part of that.
It’s why I now spend so much time teaching His Word, “as Written,” and advise all with “eyes to see,” and “ears to hear” to “come out of her.” (Revelation 18:4)
But it took me/us quite a while to get from there, and the lies we had inherited, and so much of the baggage of ‘xtianity’ to a place where we understand what He means by “return to Me.”
It’s not easy. And a whole world which literally HATES Him, and all that He Wrote, is making it harder by the day. He says “choose life!” (Deuteronomy chapter 30) - the world demands a choice of death. (Think I’m kidding? Tune into any of my news shows. Today, they want to poison kids under the age of 5. Before they ‘groom’ them, or get them to mutilate their genitalia and destroy their immune system and sexuality utterly. And from the 'poison poke' to the biggest economic meltdown in history, to the planned famine and next plandemic, the intent is to kill tens of millions.)
I understand that what He is asking us to do is not easy. It never was. But as the world literally becomes a ‘hell on earth’ - it will get far harder. And it was always a matter of life and death.
SO:
I/we aren’t looking for a ‘wife’ that already “knows it all.” I don’t claim to, but I do understand what “study to show yourself approved” means, and more than a bit about how that applies to everything from what is ‘money’ (hint: not fiat FRNs, but the Hebrew word ‘qesef’ means BOTH money and silver, just as the Constitution says, too) to what is ‘marriage’. And what’s coming, because He has given us no small amount of warning.
Most importantly, what we need to do now.
I suspect that the concentration of good women who understand that is probably higher than any other such platform around. Understanding something about polygyny is a good start. But only that. A belief in ‘Jesus’ as messiah can be, too, but He is much more, and that’s probably why Paul says “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.” (Philippians 2:12. After all – if saying a prayer once and getting dunked was all it took, why would Yahushua Himself say the “path is narrow, and FEW there be that find it”?)
Which leads me to the ‘big finish’. Moses wasn’t so much the “meekest” man ever (‘anav’ in the original Hebrew) – I suggest he was the most “teachable.”
He had a lot to learn. So do we.
And that’s what we’re looking for.
I don’t play games and I would like to meet sooner rather than later but you need to be prepared to travel to me first. If things click then I will travel to you.
I’m not retired because I did that once and felt like I still had much to offer. I’m a professional that has been scammed before but not again.
That’s it for now!
I just finished my regular live Thursday radio show and podcast, which I've been doing for many years, called, "Come out of her, My people," from the admonition in Revelation 18:4. It's about why, and especially HOW, we should be preparing to do that, in many ways - physically, spiritually, economically, and from a so-called 'church' that is more about religiousity, and in too many cases just plain paganism, than it is His Word, as Written. And the same goes for those that still think we have a Constitution in AmeriKa-with-a-K.
There are SO many things that are literally "coming to a head" THIS WEEK.
The suggestion I make, and the evidence to support that, is the subject of the show.
It has never been more important to be aware, and prepared, for what has BEEN coming, but is now HERE, in any of our lifetimes.
This may be the most important "Come out of Her" Show I've done:
"Come out of her, My people" Show for 10 March, 2022
https://hebrewnationonline.com/come-out-of-her-my-people-show-mark-call-weekly-130/
We've been a poly family for a decade or so - three of us. During the last 3 or four years we have been looking off and on.
We realized from the start that we have several things that limit our potential match pool. First of all, is the 'rural' issue - we are 35 miles from a city. We own our farmstead, so our 'match' needs to be willing to relocate. Additionally, we are in Texas, have kids, and dogs. We don't have huge disposable incomes and are the opposite of 'glamourous'. We are much more 'prepper' and 'off-grid'. Also, we are not into the party/drug/booze/swinging lifestyles. The one bright spot in our searching is that we are not set on a specific 'look' or age.
So, our potential match pool is pretty small no matter how you look at it.
Over the years we have learned that the vast majority of single women profiles are garbage. First off, there is a significant number that are outright fake - for whatever reason. These folks could be easily eliminated by the sites by ID verification, IP tracking, and text/phone verification. That would effectively eliminate duplicates and stop the majority of scammers, once identified, from starting over. But, that would reduce the number of 'members' which in turn is believed to reduce the incentive for couples to pay.... So no dating sites have really cracked down on it. In fact most of the software packages have 'fakes' bundled. Of the ones that are 'real', many are shopping for the best deal they can get and move from family to family. Others want to be 'pillow princesses'. And then there are some that are outright psycho or even mentally disabled that have seen the 'sisterwives' shows and feel that that is what they want. Some are even looking to actively attempt to destabilize existing poly families for personal gratification or the 'get even' for previous failed relationships (hell raisers).
About the term 'pillow princess' - both of the wives use this term to describe the women that feel that they can 'join' without bringing (or doing) anything other than playing in the bedroom. They expect to be taken care of - room, board, etc - yet contribute nothing to the family. If they work outside, they typically keep everything they earn and spend it on themselves (car, clothes, etc.)
We have run into every one of these many times. Yet, we still keep looking.
...and single mothers with children, especially young ones...
Hopefully by now you can see what's coming. Myself and others have been warning about it for a long time now, and we're there.
You have probably already seen empty shelves. It will get worse - much worse. And if you thought the riots were bad before, wait until this country sees genuine widespread hunger for the first time in its history. The major cities will be a nightmare.
Which is why I am thankful many here are able to see the benefit of a larger loving family. ESPECIALLY in a more rural area - and the further from major populations, the better.
I also encourage people to understand the fragility of the power grid (as an electronic engineer, this has been on my mind for well over a decade now). It's why we are 100% off-grid here, in every way (solar, primarily).
Be thinking now about what is coming, and what you are able to accomplish. By the time most people wake up to what has already happened, it will be too late.
Blessings...
It was a study of marriage that was primary to my coming to see that, not only may a man take more than one wife, but we "have inherited lies" in a number of areas, as the prophet Jeremiah said we would one day come to understand. And as the Messiah, Yahushua (or Yeshua, but His mother never once called him 'jesus' -- and neither did anyone else on planet earth for about 16 centuries) put it - what we have "heard it says," is too often really not at ALL what He actually Wrote.
And the way we can discern the 'truth from the lies' about what the Bible really says is CONSISTENCY. If we see what looks like a contradiction, it's either our misunderstanding, or even the translator's, but not His. Often those 'apparent contradictions', BTW (as in the case of marriage) are where we can find the greatest insight into distinctions we might otherwise miss.
Much of the 'twisting', however, is deliberate. Too many men in positions of power (even if not real Authority) believe they know better than the Author of Scripture what He SHOULD have written, if He was as smart as they think they are. That's the history of much of the 'sunday church' -- that outlawed and changed much of what He Wrote. Prohibition of polygyny about 800 years after they killed Him was followed by 'priestly celibacy' less than a century later, for obvious reasons, that have now reaped a nasty fruit.
And all of that, by the way, is why the whole world is such a
Steenkin' Mess today - it's not just society having utterly twisted the
concept of marriage, but everything from diet to what is "money" (and
what is not - which is why we have the biggest debt bubble and coming
collapse of the 'global reserve currency' in human history.) Yeah,
ultimately they call evil, 'good,' and good, 'evil'. They're proud of
it, too.
Some, hopefully even many, here, may understand that they have been "called to polygyny by God," which might well be true. If so, then He will also call you to study and understand the rest of what He Wrote for us as well. The tremendous beauty of that is, once you see how the "pieces fit together" - they will ALL fit together! Every "yod and tittle", from Bereshiet or "In the Beginning" of the Book to Maps at the end...
For anyone who's gotten this far - I do a number of radio shows every week, both live and podcasted later. One is a daily news summary and commentary, from a Scriptural perspective; the are Torah/Bible teachings, and my longest-running show, called "Come out of her, My people". (All available at: www.hebrewnationonline.com )
Many here might find a teaching I did recently from the Book of Exodus particularly interesting, even challenging, but it will certainly make this whole topic more clear:
Back to Slavery - but NOT the Exodus 21 Kind!
COVID has literally changed everything in this world. It has shown us just how quickly the world can change with supply shortages, violence, and the breakdown of society. For our family living on our ranch, it is obviously critical that our family build in numbers to reach self sufficiency in our ability to grow food, take care of animals, teach children, secure our land, and have additional children. A family in our situation must become a pride, or tribe of sorts. The ability to have additional wives multiplies the number of children and creates an environment where no wives or the husband is overwhelmed with responsibility. The adults literally bear one another’s burdens. The needs of companionship and help are met for everyone involved. Wives have each other’s back and complete loyalty. The joys of life are also multiplied many times over for everyone as long as there is no jealousy but rather in place, we all have complete selflessness and consecration.
Another facet in which plural marriage can be a benefit is that more women who wish to be loved and honorably married in this day and age have the chance. I’ve witnessed over the past 16 years in my line of professional work how many women are objectified by society in such a way that they are dehumanized and used for self gratifying pleasure. Many younger guys as well as an increasing number of older guys have been conditioned by modern society that having feelings for a woman and/or marriage is somehow a weakness. I’ve heard many women in their 20’s and 30’s complain that they can’t even get a guy to ask them out on a formal respectful date, yet he will not hesitate to ask her for physical benefits, or compromising pics/videos in a virtual only relationship. I’ve heard story after story about how many younger women reluctantly endure disrespectful and unnatural acts during sexual intimacy in a friends with benefits type of relationship. Pornography, the fashion industry, and Hollywood have poisoned the natural and loving behaviors between men and women in this modern and perverse world. It has caused unrealistic expectations in the way guys view the bodily aesthetics of a woman, and how he thinks her body should function sexually. Many of these women won’t admit to being used and mistreated while it’s happening, because there’s a part of her that is selfless and giving in hopes at some point that the guy will grow feelings toward her in return, as she allows him to do what he does. In most cases, him developing feelings for her and the chance at marriage never occurs. Inevitably, the guy moves on once she expresses her disappointment and hurt. She is dismissed in his mind as somehow being crazy or overly emotional. He cannot understand that sex is a powerful expression of love within her natural brain construct in which he has recklessly toyed with that powerful and divine set of emotions. This is not without consequence. It’s a vicious and cruel cycle of playing with fire. There is a simple antidote however… A component of true plural marriage is a man who clearly sees the realities of how men and woman should naturally interact lovingly and therefore, he’s in a more mature state of mind. A man who seeks plural marriage is deeply committed to the holy and sacred institution of marriage. His commitment to her is forever. He sees womanhood and motherhood as the most noble and sacred of all. He is capable of having and replicating feelings of true love. He is therefore respectful and willing to treat women as queens through marriage of each one. Every woman who wishes for the true happiness of love, marriage, and children in this world should have that chance. Every woman should have someone to protect and take care of her needs. Plural marriage can be a counterbalance to increase her chances of true love and honorable marriage due to the inability or lack of willingness in so many younger men now days.
In our deep and connecting conversations, my wife Natalie expressed her desire to have sisters in which she could share her life and husband with. For her, it’s a loyal support group of women necessary to combat life and this daily world together, while also supporting each other’s individual talents, needs, interests, and even careers. She has a very giving heart. She is full of sisterly love.
For myself, it’s the ability and need to love additional wives equally at 100%. It’s the desire to connect with the divine female mind and experience the lovely and diverse personality of each one. I love deep intellectual conversations with people as it is. Having multiple wives where I can share my thoughts, hear her thoughts, and discuss the universe with each one is a joy. For myself, it’s also the joy of making a woman laugh, to see the happy look in the eyes of each wife knowing she feels loved, safe, cherished, adored, and realize daily for certain that she is literally a queen in the eyes of her husband.
As my wife, and soon to be wives travel down this path, we have come to the realization that there will be some people who cannot or will refuse to understand why we choose to have our family in this seemingly non-traditional arrangement. Most within even my own faith cannot comprehend plural marriage despite it being an inseparable part of our history and still a core part of our doctrine. Additionally, the biblical roots of plural marriage are undeniable. It’s indeed interesting and troubling that so many in this world can disparage, mock, and be critical of plural marriage while also being hypocritical in championing affairs with multiple partners and groups involving any gender or declared gender.
What cannot be mistaken however is the proper and moral method of plural marriage. As with all good and holy things, this world will find ways to corrupt and cause counterfeits. Polygamy is a general term which is often used to describe any poly relationship. It does not however properly describe biblical plural marriage. As my wife and I discussed the rules of how we go about this, we assured one another that we would have strict standards of which we are both unanimous. We recognized that the only way would be specifically to practice “polygyny” which involves the husband and each wife to be strictly heterosexual. Polygyny is not one marriage where everyone is married as a group, but rather one marriage per wife and a different marriage bed per wife. Each marriage is between one man and one woman with the same husband in each marriage as the common factor as head of the family. Not to be a ruler but to be a leader and protector with each wife as equal. It is a Godly inspired order of patriarch and matriarch(s). Unfortunately this is a foreign concept today even though it has been the ways of God from the beginning.
Despite what the world and select friends/family may think in ignorance, our desire to practice plural marriage is not a result of some perverted mid life crisis to “spice up our marriage” as a group with a girlfriend or two. I did not pressure my wife Natalie into accepting plural marriage. She had more vision and understanding of it than even myself. She was quicker to adopt living this way than I was because she understands it so well. I on the other hand was more reserved in my timing to actually put it into motion. I married a very mature, wonderful, and wise woman beyond her years! I love being married to her ❤️
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