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Why is it so hard to find a woman who is serious about joining our family. So many times we have came across fakes and spam bots. were is the lady for us.

So I just have alot on my mind and i'm sure a lot of people probably wont read this post but I just need to get some things down in writing. 

So my fiance and I joined this site in search of a sister wife or more of a triad relationship. It seems like alot of people on here aren't serious about what they're looking for or message you once then you never hear from them again. We aren't here for a hook up or that "unicorn" We are very serious about our search for someone who will be long term. Part of our life forever. But where do we look? Should we just give up? We have been searching everywhere for quite some time and are getting a little frustrated.

Are there no girls out there that actually want to live the lifestyle we want? Are there no girls out there that are as serious as we are? We have so much love to share but can't find that "one" who wants what we do. It seems as though finding someone to share your life with is harder than we had planned. Everyone tells us to be patient but for how long? We have been looking for almost 2 years now with not really anyone that is serious.

Does anyone have any advice or some suggestions on what we should do?

Can someone please tell me why it is unlawful in US and Canada to conduct polygamy. To me, it makes no sense. Aren't their special interest groups out there to abolish this unnecessary law?

To some extent, I can understand if the parliament does not want to consider the second spouse with regards to rules around child benefits, taxation etc. but having a law that prohibits polygamy seems so unnecessary.

Religiously speaking, polygamy is allowed in Islam and probably also allowed in other religions at least Christianity.

It seems like doing the right thing is frowned upon but the state does not find any problem with having strip clubs sand brothels.

We used to do weekly group chats, Is anyone interested in doing these please let me know what days and times work so we can plan accordingly

To each their own and all...

That being said, one of the things that is jumping out to me a fair amount is just how many profiles demonstrate that several people are here looking for a good time, for new partners for sexual liaison or seeing the plural marriage pop culture boom and thinking it would be some kind of yolo adventure and that it might be cool for a while. That is what I see in the single women's profiles. In some of the couples profiles however it is far more of the predatory to desperate spectrum and I do not even slightly wonder at the fact that many are mystified by the lack of any response. In other couples profiles you will see the it is all about the ego stroke for the man equation being played out.

At the end of the day, personally I don't particularly care about being perceived as judgemental when so many are approaching plural marriage for all the wrong reasons. All that it will end up with is games being played, hearts being broken and families pulled apart. 

Plural marriage is first and foremost a marriage. It is about love, permanence, giving each other support and the bonds of family. Plural marriage is not about jumping on the latest fad, it is not about your sexual fantasies or pumping up your ego. 

Yeah yeah... standing on my soap box and preaching to an empty room. I know. Lame and pointless. It is frustrating though to browse through the site and see a handful of those who clearly take the idea of polygyny seriously and who are seeking their family or their new wife that are clearly having to wade through a sea of those who might be more suited to plenty of fish or some other hookup app. 

This is supposed to be about love and family not being part of a fad.

We have been on this site for two years now.

We have met a few potentials in person and talked to many others on here, and done a lot of video chats.

We have found that a lot of people are here for unspoken reasons.. in our opinion, for the wrong reasons.

We are not judging anyone we are just posting our experiance with this site.

This site is not responsible for the people it attracts, to make that clear.

But if you're looking for a real fit for your family you should take time to make sure its 100% or your in a world of hurt.

So many just want to escape their current living situtations or join a existing family because of their poor choices.

Ultimately its up to you, what you want..

Don't compromise on your views because if you do, you will lose in the end.

We have a newborn and nothing matters more than God first and second our home..

But to help couples, we would stress, be a unit and Vet everyone you talk too.

Don't rush into anything because your family will pay the price.

If your certain this lifestyle is for you, what's wrong with taking your time? You have everything to gain, but also evrrything to lose if your man, lays with this new addition and she becomes his wife.. If she leaves, say hello to 18 years of child support your man is liable for. 

In otherwords, be aware of the wolves wrapped in sheepskin.

If your not careful you could invite the devil in your home, with your children and your responsible in the Lord's eyes for those children He loaned you! So be wise and not foolish.

If your a believer of the Word of God, seek the Lord.

You know, scripture teaches us, the Lord BROUGHT Adam his wife.. Adam did not go looking, and that is something why we stopped 'looking' and if He brings another He does. If not, let it fall at the wayside and stay focused on the Lord.

We are guilty of making a mess and then wanting the Lord to sort and fix it. Bless Him for fixing it for us all, but we should learn and grow, not remain like babies, but mature like adults do.

We learn a lot from Solmon who the Lord said, Do not take women from these tribes.

In otherwords, do not take a women from another faith outside the Lord, for she WILL turn his, yours, and your children's hearts from the Lord.

Also,

Look for good characteristics..

How she dresses speaks volumes of character.

A lady is not a women because she is a women.

Just like the Virtues Wife is a true real lady!

Dressing in provocative ways shows many things.

But scripture says, we should not put stumbling blocks infront of our brothers or sisters.

What is she politically?

Are you a Conservative and she a Liberal?

Your in for conflict.. or if your Liberal and she is Conservative your looking at the wrong "tribe".

We believe the Lord holds high regard for the home and it must be a well organised unit, not full of chaos...

We deal with enough chaos already, why bring it into your home?

I am not saying this to stop anyone from doing what their God given rights are to do. But instead putting some advice out there for couples or singles to consider and decide together how they want to proceede. 

Its good to have a good family dynamic and system in place.

So when you finally find the 'Right' one for you, she isn't thinking you people are crazy lol.

Also get a good list of important topics that could or are deal breakers, you will save yourself so much time.

Instead of not having that, you or your other says or does something that person is not for and there is a conflict.

I remember the first lady we had over, I was talking to her about politics and beliefs and we got into a debate over the LGBT topic and I refuse to have a wife that supports such a Abomination, but she didn't see it that way.

I want to teach the children the Lord loaned me, that the Rainbow is a sacred covenant the Lord made with the world.

Not, its about gay and lesbian rights.

See the conflict there??

Sure I could have compromised on God, but I am not that way, im stubborn and I won't have a wife that teaches any of my children the opposite of what I want.

A house that is divided will surely fall, and a house that stands together will not.

The Word of God is pure truth and those who do not agree will find the truth out for themselves the easy or hard way, in this life or the next to come.

So, 

Wrapping this up and hopping off..

We hope that this helps you couples who are looking tirelessly and helps you.. for we wish someone helped us when we were 'new' to this lifestyle and the search.

May the Lord of Hosts guide us all, and give us open ears and eyes that truly see.

Peace be with you all.

I just found this site today after trying others. Please don't anyone judgeme. Like I said I'm very new to this and still learning. On another site I did begin to talk to another couple. I started having feelings for the husband. Then I had a wake up call. It was not the marriage for me and I almost came close to packing up my bags and moving out of state to be with them. The reason I said it was not for me because that marriage was not about me being equal to the husband and first wife. Joining there family would have required me to change myself completely to fit what they desired and for me to be miserable because basically I had to fake it to be with them. It seemed like with the husband it was more about sex. I was considered selfish and unsubmissive if I didn't perform sexually the way he wanted. The wife....i was required to stay home, clean, cook and tend to their children while they worked. That's not what I had planned for myself, even in a monogamous relationship. I wss considered selfish and unsubmissive for not wanting to. Also I had to change my eating, my physical appearance, etc to suit him. I was not allowed to go anywhere outside the house without a family member. The excuse was that wanting to do things on my own was saying I didn't want to be with family. I felt like that was an excuse for just keeping me under watchful eyes. I mean every marriage is different. Some might be willing. I woke up and realise I felt like it was controlling, they was selfish, I was going to be a sex slave, maid and nanny. I was just a grown child. I had no say so, no compromising so I could be happy, nothing about that relationship included me in it. I might be wrong for feeling that way but I experienced other couples only about sex and wanting me to be bisexual. So can someone teach me the true marriage of Poly and set my mind at ease that this is the right thing for me. That all couples are not like that. 

My fiance and I decided about 1 year ago that we have a lot of love to share and that we would love to find a sister wife to find her forever family. We have been searching ever since. We weren't sure where to look at first but finally came across this website. But we just arent having any luck. We've tried many different apps and sites since but still it seems like we may be doing something wrong.

We have so much love to share and would take good care and show much love to our sister wife. We feel like part of us is missing. Does anyone have any advice or success stories they can share with us?

I am just me dont pretend to be anybody else just me... I have just about to give up on finding the one for me... I have been on many dating sites and I tell you there are a lot of fakes liars perverted u name it !!! I been single almost 14 years I have dated here and there but just never worked out which I always put my kids first and I raised them on my own I was the mother and dad and it wasn't easy but I did it and now they are older doing their own things without mom lol but its lonely so I have thought about this a lot so I am finally trying and see where it goes !!!!

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