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Chris
Hello Everyone,

As most of you guys Know, me and Robyn Own and Run Sister Wives.


A Problem we run into while matchmaking, is Games....

Listen, I will be the first to tell you, we are not immune to anything at all. The facts are, A Lot of Couples and Groups met their match here on sister wives, it makes us happy to know that we do help the community, and Help many people seeking a sister wife find their matches...


Anyways I will share some of our Professional Advice with you guys to help minimize heartache. 


Ready?


Note: THESE are Time Frames everyone should be aware of.


1. If He/She will not Hop on a Phone Call with you within a Day or 2, STOP Wasting Your Time. NEXT.


2. VIDEO Chat, by 2 or 3 days of Talking, 1 week max, if He/She will not video chat, STOP Wasting your Time, You Might be getting Cat fished or played.


3. This is the Big one, If He or She is not willing to Meet you within 1 Month, STOP Wasting your Time, By now there will be some heartache, but you can not have a virtual relationship. It is time to move to the next step in the relationship, and that includes proper courting/dating.


and Finally the Last

4. By 2 - 6 months if He or She is not willing to move closer, or at least plan to... You Probably Wasted your Time. Sorry


I base this off my relationship, and in my experience with poly matchmaking.



Best of Luck to you all.




Chris Jan 25 '18 · Comments: 3 · Tags: seeking sister wife, polygamy match making, matchmaking
LifeInCostaRica
Join me and Nikke as we go for our morning walk.  

I'll take you go one of my favorite places and show you WHY I like this spot so much.


I hope to see you soon!  Comment and let me know what you think about the Off Grid Homestead in Costa Rica!Would you enjoy being here?

LifeInCostaRica Nov 11 · Comments: 2 · Tags: allen, allen richard, off grid homestead
LifeInCostaRica


Hi, I'm Allen.


I decided to do a few videos so you can get to know me and find out what I am doing.

Feel free to bookmark my profile, comment and follow along.  I'm sure you will enjoy learning about my Costa Rica Off-Grid Homestead

LifeInCostaRica Nov 8 · Comments: 2 · Tags: allen richard, allen
Polywifen

I have never ignored a message on a Poly site, even ones that are frustratingly void of any sort of intro, badly spelled and clearly not having read my profile, I have always answered, because I am polite, have I received the same courtesy?  No I haven't and the way I look at it now (and what I told a couple recently who told me that I am 'The ONLY one who answered them'  it is that 'No response is a no'  I do not like it, I hate it in fact, but no one deserves a response from an unsolicited interaction I suppose, much the same as someone who tries to chat you up in the street, I do believe it is probably for the best if you ignore them.  But if you engage in a nice interaction, what happens then, I am pretty sure people IRL don't behave how they do on the internet.


So, being on a fair few internet groups, personals sites and forums, I have written a lot of profiles, some are long, some are a bit shorter but generally when it comes to polygamy personals I make it clear that I am looking for POLYGYNY, that is a man who has separate marriages all under one family.  I am committed to the sister wife way of life and have no desire to be the filling in a couple sandwich.  (Sorry, not sorry).


So imagine my surprise when I was contacted by a couple who I know are looking for a triad, I should have known something was up because after me writing to them telling them I read their profile, five minutes later they asked me if I had read it.  So, these people are obviously not very observant, but I figured they just wanted to chat to people in Europe as most of the people on this site are American.  I love their country too, I have been a couple times and I am hoping to go again soon to seek out some family history so I was very happy to talk to them about where they live.


Then came the 'So are you looking for a triad'?  So I said 'Nope, I am only seeking polygyny'   (I mean, it's literally the first line of my 'Who I want to meet' paragraph) 


So their reply was 'This is not what we want, sorry we didn't read your profile before'  


Now, I do believe yes, they should be sorry, because it is bloody stupid to contact people with the information you want RIGHT THERE (and on that front, for pete's sake people, put this information in your profile) but am I writing this just to cathartically rant over people not reading profiles?


No, I don't see the point, I was contacted by a guy 20 years younger then me the other day, gleefully ignoring my age requests, people (mostly men, let's be honest) not reading profiles properly is a daily occurrence in my life.  


What piqued me and brought about this screed was what they did right after, they blocked me....


Why?


Did they think that I was so enamoured with our 5 minute conversation about the beauty of the Netherlands that I would harass them until they had changed their mind about Unicorn hunting?   


Did they believe that banning someone means they will no longer turn up in their searches?  (Ooooh they are SO mistaken on that one!!) 


Or are they, simply, selfish people, wanting it make it clear that now that 'they' are not interested in you, that you are undeserving of any sort of response to them, even if it is simply.  'Not a problem, good luck with your search with a little emoji at the end because I am nice like that


I wasn't interested in them already, I had read their profile, so why does it seem like they wanted to punish me for them not having done the same?  

Polywifen Jul 15 · Comments: 2 · Tags: polygyny, courtesy, manners, triads, unicorns
texasfarmcouple
I figured that I'd start chronicling the adventures here at the farm - especially in regards to our search for a sisterwife.


We've been a poly family for a decade or so - three of us.  During the last 3 or four years we have been looking off and on.


We realized from the start that we have several things that limit our potential match pool.  First of all, is the 'rural' issue - we are 35 miles from a city.  We own our farmstead, so our 'match' needs to be willing to relocate.  Additionally, we are in Texas, have kids, and dogs.  We don't have huge disposable incomes and are the opposite of 'glamourous'.  We are much more 'prepper' and 'off-grid'.  Also, we are not into the party/drug/booze/swinging lifestyles.  The one bright spot in our searching is that we are not set on a specific 'look' or age.  


So, our potential match pool is pretty small no matter how you look at it.


Over the years we have learned that the vast majority of single women profiles are garbage.  First off, there is a significant number that are outright fake - for whatever reason.  These folks could be easily eliminated by the sites by ID verification, IP tracking, and text/phone verification.  That would effectively eliminate duplicates and stop the majority of scammers, once identified, from starting over.  But, that would reduce the number of 'members' which in turn is believed to reduce the incentive for couples to pay....  So no dating sites have really cracked down on it.  In fact most of the software packages have 'fakes' bundled.  Of the ones that are 'real', many are shopping for the best deal they can get and move from family to family.  Others want to be 'pillow princesses'.  And then there are some that are outright psycho or even mentally disabled that have seen the 'sisterwives' shows and feel that that is what they want.  Some are even looking to actively attempt to destabilize existing poly families for personal gratification or the 'get even' for previous failed relationships (hell raisers).


About the term 'pillow princess' - both of the wives use this term to describe the women that feel that they can 'join' without bringing (or doing) anything other than playing in the bedroom.  They expect to be taken care of - room, board, etc - yet contribute nothing to the family.  If they work outside, they typically keep everything they earn and spend it on themselves (car, clothes, etc.)


We have run into every one of these many times.  Yet, we still keep looking.  

texasfarmcouple Mar 9 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 2
michaelk

Dear Friends, If you are interested in poly, you might wonder how everything actually works out. There is a lot of theory out there and many people have opinions, but what is it really like to live it day by day? 


The truth is, most of the time poly families are pretty much like extended or blended families you might find through divorces, except the people get along and love each other.  Multiple women share the house work (if you are in one home) and birth parents have the primary responsibility to care for and discipline children. Moreover, some stay home and some work out.  Usually the man is the main bread winner with some or all of the girls holding down full or part time jobs. 


The main things that comes into play that are different are sleeping arrangements - it works best if each woman has a set day.  What goes on during the mornings is open for whomever wants, but having a set time does bring some order and gives the woman a sense of security. 


If everyone gets along, date nights or vacations can be done together.  However, often times the wives desire some alone time with their husband while the other girls hold down the fort. All in all, a lot of "living poly" boils down to common sense and a desire for everyone to work together for the common good. 


One thing that a man needs to do is be as fair as possible so that each woman has the perception that she is being considered and cared for.  Sometimes this does not work out, but most women understand that if a man is making an good faith effort, perfection in that area isn't required. 


In the end, promoting a sense of family and "we're all in this together" is essential.  If everyone is on board, most of the details will work themselves out. In our family, since we are spiritual filled, christian believers, we try to practice God's Love towards each other.  It is His love from above that is part of the Tabernacle Experience.  This way, it is not just us doing the loving, but God loving each other through us. 


Big hugs and lots of love,


Michael


michaelk Dec 15 '20 · Comments: 2
Loveme1
Just a quick topic has anybody met they significant other on this site
Loveme1 Nov 12 '20 · Comments: 2
countryfamily08
Many like my family have been looking for a special person to join there family. Before I came into the family my husband and sisterwife had a lot of heartache. Before I joined the family as a single female I ran into one heartache. What was I looking for? I was looking for a man that was gentle, romantic, a protector and someone that would be there for me when I was at my lowest. It's not what's on the outside, But what's in the inside for me. I can't say that's everyone's mentality. We have come across women that didn't like how my husband isn't athletic or poke fun of how he looks. Some women have poke fun at mine or my sisterwife looks. Why? Should men or women be cookie cutter? Are looks better than how someone treats others? The first family I found I thought was my forever family. They were slim. He wasn't bad looking. But his and his wife's attitude toward me wasn't what I was looking for. I was told I needed to communicate more. I did but when I did I was torn down. I needed not only to work but help on the tiny farm. I did that wasn't acknowledged.  I did nothing in their eyes. I helped in the house that wasn't acknowledged either. I helped with the kids and I did that all wrong. There was nothing I could do right. I left because I was being torn down constantly. My self esteem was gone. I hated myself. I didn't see my self-worth. I didn't give up as you can see. If you go off of looks you will not find what you are looking for. If you go off of what's on the inside you will. I get pollical views, religion and smoking/drinking is a deal breaker for some. That's a healthy deal breaker but looks is not. For a reference for single women and families don't judge someone on their appearance judge them on something that is more important to judge on. I don't know what the future hold but hopefully we will find the right person to join the family. Good luck to everyone on their search.   
countryfamily08 Nov 7 '20 · Comments: 2
Polywifen
I have had a couple of conversations about religion recently that has rather put me on the spot.  Truth is, this is a large cultural difference that can be hard for Americans especially to get their heads around.  Fact is, we in Europe are usually very secular, those who are religious tend to practice our faith in a much more private way.  As I do, you have to know me really well to know of my religion at all, I don't talk about it unless asked, I am not coy about it, it is just not at the forefront of my mind all the time.


We don't feel that everyone needs to be religiously involved in everything we do, any more than our family needs to be involved in our hobbies for example.  It is a bonus, not an imperative.  I know that is strange for really religious people to understand, but it is not unusual here to have interfaith relationships, it can be quite common. 


I haven't put religion as something that is an important match factor, it isn't important that my future spouse thinks the same as me, what IS important is that he knows I don't share his faith and to respect that, this is all.


I won't appreciate being preached to, being expected to take part in worship, listening to nightly readings from a religious book I don't believe in or attempts to convert me (I won't work regardless and will just upset us both).  So, just be aware, if sharing a faith is important to you, we will not be a good match, if sharing a life in all other ways is more important to you, if having a wife fully devoted to you and the rest of the family is, than please contact me.  


x

Polywifen Apr 26 '20 · Comments: 2
LetsdoLove
Hello Everyone, hope you are all keeping safe during these uncertain times. Just wanted to briefly say a few words about community building and friendships with those who seek this similar life of polygamy. Polygamy is found more in nature than monogamy (which barely exist). This means nature has a reason why this life of polygamy is innate and effective, However, we have for thousands of years been influenced by many philosophies and social behaviours that might not aid in a polygamous life. Many times the women or men we meet on here just do not work out because of those philosophies and social behaviour.  Don't expect to always find someone quickly. Build a mental community. Build bonds with people who know that you like this life. Figure each other out and get to know ways in which you can create a new path from the many different paths you are all coming from. My wife and I came from different paths, and we are able to be fully united and free from arguments because we got to know each other's path and form a new path. Monogamous relationships sometimes are painful and a lot of that has to do with the influence of society. Society transforms us into what it wants and oftentimes that conflicts with nature. This brings the many complex problems relationships face today. Polygamy is a beautiful but nature strategic way of living. It can be powerful, it can be effective, but should be done with joy and patience as we learn this new/old and natural way of living. 
LetsdoLove Apr 23 '20 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 2
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