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I never thought I would find myself wondering about polygamy. As a Christian, I grew up with one clear model of marriage: one man and one woman joined together before God. And yet, somewhere along my spiritual and personal journey, the thought of polygamy began to spark a deep curiosity in me.

At first, I wrestled with guilt just for being curious. Was it wrong to even ask these questions? But the more I leaned into prayer and reflection, the more I realized that curiosity itself isn’t sin — it’s an invitation to learn, to test what I believe, and to draw closer to God’s truth.

Polygamy is a topic that shows up often in Scripture. Abraham, Jacob, David, and Solomon all lived within polygamous arrangements at different times in their stories. Reading these passages with fresh eyes, I realized that while polygamy isn’t presented as the ideal in the New Testament, it is undeniably part of the broader biblical story. And that makes me wonder: what can we learn from it today?

For me, the draw isn’t about breaking rules or chasing something forbidden. It’s about the possibility of community, support, and expanded family. I imagine the richness of shared responsibilities, children growing up with multiple role models, and the depth of love that might exist in a network of devoted relationships. Of course, I know it wouldn’t be simple — human relationships never are — but beauty often shines brightest in the midst of complexity.

This journey of thought has been both humbling and exciting. I feel encouraged to continue asking questions, reading Scripture with an open heart, and talking with trusted mentors about what it means to follow Christ while remaining open to discovering perspectives that are new to me.

Whether or not polygamy ever becomes part of my lived experience, I see value in the courage to explore. For me, trying to understand polygamy isn’t about rebellion; it’s about seeking beauty, truth, and connection in the many ways love can take shape.

If you’ve ever been curious about something that seems outside the “Christian norm,” I want to encourage you: don’t be afraid to ask questions. Sometimes, the very act of seeking understanding can deepen our faith and expand our appreciation for God’s design in ways we never expected.

What are you considering?! Is it true that you are insane?!?

Alright, simply joking. As insane as this truly sounds to the world, or to anyone that is first dealing with this question, those of us who have been through the move and lived to tell have taken in a couple of things, and in all actuality on the off chance that you can ace your weaknesses and venture up to this way of life, you will be luxuriously remunerated. You will be all the more liberated to act naturally and to seek after your interests. You will share the highs and lows of your existence with more individuals that genuinely cherish you and need the best for you and are on your side. Furthermore, you will be free from the annoying trepidation that your better half will abandon you some time or another for another person.

There's a considerable measure to consider, a great deal of issues. Numerous advantages and disadvantages to be weighed. Take as much time as is needed.

On the off chance that you are as of now wedded, and you and your significant other have begun discussing this, DON'T accept that your better half is quite recently searching for more sex, or is exhausted with you, or in any capacity considers less you a man and as a spouse. We can't represent precisely what's experiencing your better half's brain, however consider the accompanying cases:

A lady who has had a child, and that infant is currently two or three years of age, may wind up needing another infant. It doesn't mean she doesn't love her first tyke. She simply needs a greater amount of what she has, and to the degree she is a decent mother and is generally benevolent, she simply needs to dispatch all the more balanced youngsters into the world.

A business person who has enlisted a worker, whose business is as yet developing, may choose to enlist another representative. It doesn't mean there is anything amiss with the execution of the main worker. It just implies that the business is developing and needs more hands to deal with the work process.

An undergrad who has a companion she invests a great deal of energy with may meet another companion—somebody fascinating and invigorating that she needs to become more acquainted with better and thinks might be a decent long haul companion. The 'old companion' could get desirous and possessive and attempt to undermine the new relationship, or she could value the new companion, maybe build up her own relationship, and to the degree them three all appreciated each other's conversation and delighted in doing things together, they'd all be wealthier for it.

Clearly none of these cases hits precisely being a spouse. In any case, each in its own specific manner hits a piece of being a spouse. Regardless of whether it's the arrangement and insurance that a spouse offers a wife and a mother offers a youngster, or the feeling of cooperation and fellowship that describes solid business connections, or the basic fraternity of a decent companion, none of these connections is essentially debilitated by the expansion of more connections. When they're set well, "the more, the merrier".

In the event that you are thinking about turning into a man's second or third spouse, your circumstance is comparable in some ways, and diverse in others. You're measuring whether to surrender trusts and dreams in some relationship that hasn't happened yet; the primary spouse is managing feeling deceived, similar to some person changed the arrangement on her without inquiring. You're feeling sort of exceptional that your man would need to add you to his family; she's fondling somewhat utilized and dismissed that he would need to add you to the family, which is her family, as well, coincidentally. In any case a similar question presents itself: Where does your self-esteem originated from? What makes you like yourself and gives you seek after what's to come?

That is a ton to consider. Gone up against with the likelihood that what God needs for your life is drastically not quite the same as what you have been directed to expect, it's reasonable this would be a troublesome and some of the time enthusiastic process. Be that as it may, don't stop. Try not to surrender. What you're experiencing now will pass. Concentrate on what's valid about the affection for God and the will of God, "and reality might make you free".

hi there everyone.

i'm going to try to share a little about me on this blog, so you all can gain a better understanding of who i am, my past, and why it's lead me to be the person i am now and my desire to be a sister wife.

I'll try to write a little each day in an ongoing way, but let me start by saying a grew up in a very liberal and highly educated household. I love my parents deeply. They raised me in the things they believed, which were things like compassion for those less fortunate, empathy, and honesty.  They are feminists and also more left-learning, but they never demanded I be so as well.  They encouraged me to keep core values of love and faith, but to allow them to manifest however my beliefs evolved.

As it became clear to me, as i tried hard to fit in as a hair-under-the-armpits feminist that it just wasn't for me, they supported my decisions to become more involved in the christian church, to seek strong men who set the tone for me and our relationship, to be more conservative in my politics, and eventually to find my journey here, where i hope to find a loving Husband and His alpha wives where i can serve in a beta role. While they are proud of my career and support me, i don't think this is where they anticipated their daughter ending up.  But they love and support what i choose to be. And what i choose to be is a subservient and devoted wife to a King who can ensure my role is cherished but also i doing things in my proper place, at the feet of the Man i'm devoted to.

"Man, you should be some sort of pimp!"

"I don't know how you do it. I can scarcely take great care of one!"

Those are the two sorts of reactions (other than the clear gaze) that are run of the mill when a man is 'turning out' to somebody about having a plural family. The littler gathering essentially accept that it's about the sex. The bigger gathering comprehends the duty that a Christian man has for the individuals from his family.

For the most part, in their reactions to the subject of polygamy, both men and ladies uncover something of what they consider the way of marriage and its expenses and advantages. Also, the truth of the matter is, you can't appreciate the diversion unless you concede to the tenets, and there's no reason for belligerence the relative benefits of polygamy with somebody that has a totally extraordinary esteem framework and comprehension of what marriage is than you do.

So in case you're engaging this nutty thought, be prompted that you would be advised to have your own particular esteems cleared up. A few people will acknowledge what you're doing on the grounds that they simply couldn't care less in particular, some have an "incline toward toleration" logic, and some will love you enough to at present love you notwithstanding when they think you've truly lost your brain. Yet, then again, some will believe you're odd funkily, some will believe you're irregular scarily, some will believe you're risky, and some will detest you.

All in all, our families and families we know have been tossed out of houses of worship, disregarded in their nearby groups, lost kids in care fights, had first spouses leave after it gets hard, been undermined with criminal arraignment (no feelings yet, express gratitude toward God), had developed youngsters cut us off, and in one case even had a demise risk. Not everyone, not in any case the vast majority, will despise you and attempt to hurt you. Simply enough individuals to keep it truly intriguing.

That is the awful news. The uplifting news is that this will improve you a man, a superior spouse, and a superior father. A superior sibling to other men in the collection of Christ. A more mindful adherent of the lessons of Jesus and a superior audience to the still, little voice of the Holy Spirit. In the event that you need this way of life to work—implanted in 21st century Western culture, with its open antagonistic vibe to and mistreatment of conventional parts and connections—you have no other decision.

hi everyone, and i'm pleased to be back.  

i'm not breaking any new ground when saying that this has been a very hard year.  i won't even get into politics, i promise :). it's been hard because it's been isolating, and things like depression can take over. i was active here in the spring, when at least as we emerged from the hard times of April, i felt some sense of hope, but then we had waves of challenges here in FL and other southern states, and it honestly made me withdraw.

that was a hard thing to do, and not the right thing either.  i could protect myself, but in doing so, i harmed myself by not allowing the exploration of the loving relationship with a Man and my sisters that i so deeply crave, and need, and that God has told me is the way to live.  it was humbling to admit that alone i do not have the strength, but in partnership with a Man and my sisters, i can find strength.

And so, here i am again!  i remain all the things i've come to know myself to be: smart and caring, humble and submissive, a believer in God and His way, and ready to be in service to my Husband.

Hello I would like to introduce myself my name is Monique and I am brand new to the site I have been thinking about this for a while after I got divorced five years ago because lately I’ve been kind of the second will in a relationship so why keep such a gem a secret when she can be out in the open.

If you come onto a site specifically designed for people seeking a plural-marriage relationship, I believe your mindset and communication should reflect the seriousness of what you’re looking for.

I’m already married. My wife knows why I’m here, understands what we’re seeking, and is in agreement. I’m not here looking for hookups, casual entertainment, or somebody to message whenever they’re bored. I’m looking for another woman who genuinely wants to build something meaningful and understands the type of family structure she’s considering.

That’s why communication matters to me.

I’m not saying a woman owes a man her phone number immediately. I’m not saying somebody has to respond to every message within five minutes. People have jobs, families, responsibilities, and lives outside of a dating site.

But there is a difference between having a life and showing very little reciprocity.

If we’re supposedly getting to know each other, but every conversation consists of one or two short messages followed by one- or two-day gaps, how exactly are we supposed to determine whether we’re compatible? If I constantly have to initiate, ask the questions, restart the conversation, and push things forward, then we’re not mutually getting to know each other—I’m carrying the interaction.

Polygyny isn’t simply monogamous dating with another woman added later. You’re considering entering an already-established marriage and helping build a larger family structure. That requires maturity, communication, patience, honesty, compatibility, and serious conversations from everybody involved.

It also doesn’t mean rushing intimacy or ignoring a woman’s boundaries. If you’re uncomfortable giving out your number immediately, I can respect that. But there still needs to be another way for us to communicate consistently and actually get to know one another.

I’m a direct man. I’m intentional. And I’m not interested in chasing somebody into wanting the same thing I want.

If you’re interested, show interest.

If you need time, communicate that.

If you’re cautious, say why and let’s work within boundaries that make everybody comfortable.

And if you’re not interested, that’s okay too. Say that and we can respectfully go our separate ways.

But what doesn’t work for me is indefinite, low-effort communication where one person is expected to keep pursuing while the other occasionally responds.

A plural family requires more communication, not less. More transparency, not less. More intentionality, not less.

If we’re serious about building something different, then we have to communicate differently too.

Hello world… What is Biblical Polygyny(BP)? Biblical Polygyny is one man having multiple wives. The reason it is important to have the correct definition is because there are many other forms of multiple/poly relationships/lifestyles and not to confuse the reader. There are many different beliefs, denominations, religions surrounding the Holy Scriptures that some people call the Bible. For those people who say they believe in the Holy Scriptures to be The Truth, my question to them is can they show ONE Biblical law that says Biblical Polygyny is a SIN? No, you cannot … because it is not a sin according to the Biblical laws. 1 John 3:4 Sin is breaking the law. Matter of fact, the Biblical law required Biblical Polygyny under certain circumstances; and in other cases it made provisions for it to be executed (Exodus 21:10, Deuteronomy 21:15-17, Deuteronomy 25:5-10, Deuteronomy 17:17, and Genesis Chapter 29-30. If Biblical Polygyny was a SIN, The Most High (God) would have made a law forbidding it in lieu of supporting its practice. Be fruitful and multiply. Biblical Polygyny was an Eastern custom and societal practice for the Hebrew Israelites all through the history of the Holy Scriptures. Today in this Western culture we practice under a religious Roman Catholicism/Christianity custom which is FORCED monogamy. In 1563 the Roman Catholic Church Council of Trent Canon ll Said it is unlawful to have several wives. Again, Man’s Religion has set these Western culture traditions that are practiced today that came from Rome. Here are some of the men in the Holy Scriptures who practiced Biblical Polygyny: Abraham (The father of faith)Genesis 16:3, Moses (The person that gave us The Law/Torah) Exodus 2:21, Exodus 18:2-5, and Numbers 12:1, Jacob (who had 4 wives and without them we would not have the 12 tribes of Israel or Jesus (Yahshua) who came out of his linage Genesis 29, Genesis 30:4-9, king David (A man after God’s own heart had multiple wives) 1 Samuel 30:5, The Most High gave David his masters wives and if that were not enough He would have given more 2 Samuel 12:8, Elkanah had two wives 1 Samuel 1:2, Gideon Had many wives Judges 8:30, Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines 1 Kings 11:3, Joash did that what is right in the sight of the Lord and took two wives 2 Chronicles 24:1-3, and the list goes on and on. Hopefully you see my point. And my last point about Biblical Polygyny is The Most High (God) had two wives. Ezekiel Parable chapter 23, Israel an Judah Jeremiah 3:6-14, I was a husband unto them Jeremiah 31:31-32. Why would The Most High use this analogy of two wives for Himself if Biblical Polygyny was a Sin.  Even Jesus (Yahshua) himself uses a parable of the 10 virgins not condemning Biblical Polygyny, but affirming it’s practice though a parable in Matthew 25:1-13. Jesus (Yahshua) also spoke on Levirate Marriage which can at times require Biblical Polygyny. Deuteronomy 25:5-6, Mark 12:18-24, Matthew 22:24-29, and Luke 20:28-35. I hope this fines you well as you do your own research and as you seek The Truth….

Asian couple here and looking for a female to connect with. Anyone here have any experience with this website? 

After reading through a few blog posts on the site, I noticed that they all seem to come back to this idea that it's god's will or Christ's teachings that are guiding people to this path.  That's all fine and good, but I'm curious if there are others out there that are looking at this type a family unit from a more reasoned approach.  Just for clarification, I'm not suggesting that making choices based off of religious doctrine is impractical or unreasonable or whatever, but more that you are following a path that has been laid out before you.  Not having ever been religious, nor athiestic, I only have a layman's understanding of religion, so I can't and won't judge others based on their beliefs.

As for the practical side of things, I'm refering to basic pros and cons of this type of family.  The biggest appeal to me is the idea of 'more'.  More members of your tribe.  More real coonections.  More skills and ideas in your household.  More people to back you up and for you to back up.  More family members to share the challenges/burdons of child-rearing, home-ownership, and general living.  Now, the 'more' I speak of sounds self-serving, but it's a means to an end.  It allows you to have more time to devote to your loved ones, raise you children into better people, enjoy life, and help your family, friends, neighbors, and even strangers to enjoy their lives more too.  With mre people, each of you requires less time to devote to the ratrace of life, and therefore, more time to devote to yourself and each other.

In a world filled with societies that are seeming more and more predatory, there is strength in numbers, in unity.