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It dawned on me though (hence the reason I am writing and the "post subject") that sometimes we become complacent in our search, in our dreams and goals. We tend to zone out and zombify in some senses as we wait. I urge you to stay vigilant and keep those dreams and goals in front of your face! Never stop fighting, and praying hard for what you want. Live this life if it will truly make you happy, but I ask you to sit there and question yourself honestly to make sure it is what you want. Too many peoples lives, and emotions are at stake in the end if you find out after having gone very far in this and realize you are not ready or do not want this. Do what makes you happy, live this life to its fullest and never look back with regret. Pray daily and really dive into God and see what He has for you!
these are just some thoughts I have had the past week or so and I am super glad I found an outlet for them to be. I hope that it helps and encourages even one person. 
That being said, one of the things that is jumping out to me a fair amount is just how many profiles demonstrate that several people are here looking for a good time, for new partners for sexual liaison or seeing the plural marriage pop culture boom and thinking it would be some kind of yolo adventure and that it might be cool for a while. That is what I see in the single women's profiles. In some of the couples profiles however it is far more of the predatory to desperate spectrum and I do not even slightly wonder at the fact that many are mystified by the lack of any response. In other couples profiles you will see the it is all about the ego stroke for the man equation being played out.
At the end of the day, personally I don't particularly care about being perceived as judgemental when so many are approaching plural marriage for all the wrong reasons. All that it will end up with is games being played, hearts being broken and families pulled apart.
Plural marriage is first and foremost a marriage. It is about love, permanence, giving each other support and the bonds of family. Plural marriage is not about jumping on the latest fad, it is not about your sexual fantasies or pumping up your ego.
Yeah yeah... standing on my soap box and preaching to an empty room. I know. Lame and pointless. It is frustrating though to browse through the site and see a handful of those who clearly take the idea of polygyny seriously and who are seeking their family or their new wife that are clearly having to wade through a sea of those who might be more suited to plenty of fish or some other hookup app.
This is supposed to be about love and family not being part of a fad.
I have long thought that flying in formation was a good metaphor for marriage.
Here are 8 specific points for you to consider:
1. How do they do it? The key is that there is one leader and the rest are followers. If there is no leader you are not flying in formation.
2. Due to advance communication everyone knows where they are going, but the leader leads and the followers have to keep a close eye on the leader.
3. The followers job is to position themselves correctly in relation to the leader.
4. The leader has to call the maneuvers so that the followers can expect the movements and react to them accordingly. They communicate constantly as needed.
5. There has to be at least two to fly in formation, but structurally you can add on more.
6. Not easily done. It takes intention and practice.
7. It is also mandatory for safety in aerial combat. Singles are picked off like sitting ducks.
8. You need someone to check your six. No individual has complete vision or situational awareness. But good teams are unbeatable in aerial combat.
When done well it is a beautiful thing. Formation flying is commonly seen at air shows for the appreciation of all.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuznBNZl6ME
There are actually so many challenges when you consider being in a polygamous relationship, that it would be great to just get a break every once in a while. For example, one of the most unpleasant situations that you could deal with when meeting people any other way rather than online would be being rejected when you tell them that you are looking for Sister Wives or that you are interested in having more than one loving partner. Rejection is the worst and can do a number on your self-esteem.
That is exactly why you should be thinking about choosing a far superior alternative to regular dating. The good news is that now you can decide to search for another woman or another man or maybe even a couple that you can start a new relationship with. It would be even better if you simply relied on a social network just like ours where you can find proper profiles of people that have similar interests. Especially when talking about your amorous beliefs, it is better to stay away from regular dating sites. This is how you can avoid disappointment after disappointment.
The individuals that do not have the same expectations and desires when it comes to their love life are not a good match, especially if they only believe in what is considered to be the norm – that a couple should be a connection between two persons and that is it. Most probably, you telling them that you are already in a relationship and that you want to add someone new in the mix is going to make them judge you and will hear all sorts of remarks. If you have tried this before on regular dating sites, you have probably already dealt with such a situation.
The same happens when you meet people the regular way, in a restaurant, on your way to work and so on. The hard part here is telling them that you prefer polygamous relationships. Fortunately, when you visit our website, you know exactly what kind of persons you will comes across here. Forget about them judging you for your preferences and be yourself. You will feel so relaxed knowing that there does not need to be an elephant in the room. Here everyone already know a bit you and what you want because these bits of information are available on your profile.
If you are interested in being one of the Sister Wives that are already involved in a relationship or would like to find one, you can sign up on our website and create a profile. After sharing a bit about yourself, you can perform a simple search and see which of the existing members could be a perfect match. It might take a short while before you find exactly what you are looking for, depending on your preferences. Nevertheless, the entire process of chatting with all kinds of new people will be more than exciting and fun.
When it comes to Polygamy, you need to set some basic rules based on what you want and share them with the people that you meet. The best part about looking for these new matches online is that the entire process is simplified. Of course, the most important advantage in this case is that every single person that you are going to find on our website is looking for a polygamous relationship, one way or another. Some will be interested in starting a relationship with another woman or another man, while others will want to do that with a couple.
Another major advantage that you will enjoy when you look for dates online, on our website would be the fact that you can flirt regardless of your location. You can be in the same country as the person that you are contacting or you can be half a world away. It does not really matter. Our site will allow you to talk to them for as long as you want. If you are wondering how you can get started, you should know that it is as easy as 1 – 2 – 3. 1 – Visit our website and create your account, 2 – Edit your profile and add a photo, 3 – Perform a search and contact the members that you like.
You might also want to keep in mind the fact that you can keep up with your notifications such as any messages that you might have received from people who you have already talked to or that have just contacted you for the first time. You would just need to log into your account on our social network on a daily basis. Regardless of your current location – you might be at home, at work, on the train or even in a park. As long as you have an internet connection, you can flirt away.
It is interesting to know that one of your soulmates might be a few clicks away. The question that you have to ask yourself is: why wait? Instead of wasting any more time that you could otherwise spend having amazing conversations with people that understand you, it would be a much better idea to just create your account. You will not believe just how many dating opportunities you will have once you have the option of contacting our members.
At the same time, you might not even finish editing your profile and might get contacted by someone that shares your Polygamy values. Truth being told, the chances of finding love here are much greater than anywhere else. Why? Because in today’s society it is much easier to find someone who understands your principles if both of you meet in a place that was specifically created for individuals just as open minded as you are. Even if you have tried other social networks, you should give ours a try and see for yourself what makes us so different. If you have any additional questions regarding our social network, do not hesitate to leave us a message!
I do not disagree with this person in the slightest in their assessment that the site...and all of the others are likely to be the same realistically... is full of fakes and aggressive men.
The fakes are frequently just simple scammers and honestly you have to be a full on lumphead to fall for the kind of obvious cut and paste from a translator bot message that will pop up. Seriously... does anybody really think that a bunch of girls from Ghana are clambering to get into plural families in the states? Anyway, scams happen all the time and this is the internet boys and girls, it is part of the environment. The actual troublesome ones are the fakes from the point of view that they are not serious and are just looking to get an ego stroke or to jack with those plig weirdos or whatever. Tonnes of them on these sites.
With respect to the aggressive guys, I can just assume that they are the assholes who are either trying to larp polygamy because of some fantasy and again ego stroke issue or they are the sort of douche that has managed to bully or convince their frequently unwilling wives into this search with claims that God is talking to them directly in a big booming voice so he can use her faith against her or some other scam perhaps involving fear of losing financial support for her and her kids. The reason being in the end that he wishes to have regular sexual access to another woman. This sort of beta dickhead is not really going to come in many flavors but aggressive is certainly one of the most popular .
Now don't get me wrong... I am not white knighting the girls on here at all. They leave so much to be desired that it makes me all the more thankful that I met and married one of the few real gems that really was looking to be part of a plural family.
The vast majority of woman on here are just simply ill mannered brats that I would not have at all. While a man is absolutely the head of the family, a man should not be forced to reraise a woman he has married and try to undo all of the apparently shoddy work that her parents did in teaching her the bone basics of how to treat people.
I know that just about every serious couple on here who is seeking a sisterwife has experienced the ghosting treatment from the singled women (presuming that they are A. Single B. Women ((what the hell is wrong with people that they have nothing better to do?)) C. Seriously looking for a family instead of screwing around.). They exchange a few messages and or emails and then puff of smoke and the girl is gone. No warning, no 'Thanks but I don't think we are a match' or anything.
Now don't get to thinking I am just being butthurt that some girls ghosted me. A. Noooope. See the profile. Not looking for another wife. Maybe someday but right now we are just trying to network with the community. B. As i previously mentioned, I would not have the ones with such bad manners gift wrapped. I do not wish to spend my life in a contentious marriage with a brat I have to reeducate on courtesy and consideration for others as opposed to the shallow narcissist who can not be bothered considering the time or feelings of others. There are some couples here who really get ahead of themselves emotionally after a few exchanges and while that is not some random girls fault, she should be aware of the effect just blowing them off has. Lots give up just because some woman was not interested in thinking beyond the end of her nose. I/we have been happy to meet and chat with women here but we sure are not going to come out of the gate as anything but plain old friendly and certainly not flirty or whatever.
Yeah I know... 'but a lot of guys are assholes and won't take a polite no'... or 'I get so many emails I am overwhelmed' etc etc. Yeah? Is this your first time on the internet as a female? These are such common issues with such common solutions that I don't see them as valid complaints. Just part of the equation with online seeking of any kind.
So to my mind the couples who get ghosted by the women with bad manners, just move along and be glad. Glad that you found out about this character flaw after a couple of notes back and forth. Imagine how much worse it would be if it seemed to work out only to have the rug pulled out much further along... I mean that genuinely. It could be so so much worse. Nobody is here, whether it is as a single woman or a couple, to get their emotional guts ripped out.
We have met a few potentials in person and talked to many others on here, and done a lot of video chats.
We have found that a lot of people are here for unspoken reasons.. in our opinion, for the wrong reasons.
We are not judging anyone we are just posting our experiance with this site.
This site is not responsible for the people it attracts, to make that clear.
But if you're looking for a real fit for your family you should take time to make sure its 100% or your in a world of hurt.
So many just want to escape their current living situtations or join a existing family because of their poor choices.
Ultimately its up to you, what you want..
Don't compromise on your views because if you do, you will lose in the end.
We have a newborn and nothing matters more than God first and second our home..
But to help couples, we would stress, be a unit and Vet everyone you talk too.
Don't rush into anything because your family will pay the price.
If your certain this lifestyle is for you, what's wrong with taking your time? You have everything to gain, but also evrrything to lose if your man, lays with this new addition and she becomes his wife.. If she leaves, say hello to 18 years of child support your man is liable for.
In otherwords, be aware of the wolves wrapped in sheepskin.
If your not careful you could invite the devil in your home, with your children and your responsible in the Lord's eyes for those children He loaned you! So be wise and not foolish.
If your a believer of the Word of God, seek the Lord.
You know, scripture teaches us, the Lord BROUGHT Adam his wife.. Adam did not go looking, and that is something why we stopped 'looking' and if He brings another He does. If not, let it fall at the wayside and stay focused on the Lord.
We are guilty of making a mess and then wanting the Lord to sort and fix it. Bless Him for fixing it for us all, but we should learn and grow, not remain like babies, but mature like adults do.
We learn a lot from Solmon who the Lord said, Do not take women from these tribes.
In otherwords, do not take a women from another faith outside the Lord, for she WILL turn his, yours, and your children's hearts from the Lord.
Also,
Look for good characteristics..
How she dresses speaks volumes of character.
A lady is not a women because she is a women.
Just like the Virtues Wife is a true real lady!
Dressing in provocative ways shows many things.
But scripture says, we should not put stumbling blocks infront of our brothers or sisters.
What is she politically?
Are you a Conservative and she a Liberal?
Your in for conflict.. or if your Liberal and she is Conservative your looking at the wrong "tribe".
We believe the Lord holds high regard for the home and it must be a well organised unit, not full of chaos...
We deal with enough chaos already, why bring it into your home?
I am not saying this to stop anyone from doing what their God given rights are to do. But instead putting some advice out there for couples or singles to consider and decide together how they want to proceede.
Its good to have a good family dynamic and system in place.
So when you finally find the 'Right' one for you, she isn't thinking you people are crazy lol.
Also get a good list of important topics that could or are deal breakers, you will save yourself so much time.
Instead of not having that, you or your other says or does something that person is not for and there is a conflict.
I remember the first lady we had over, I was talking to her about politics and beliefs and we got into a debate over the LGBT topic and I refuse to have a wife that supports such a Abomination, but she didn't see it that way.
I want to teach the children the Lord loaned me, that the Rainbow is a sacred covenant the Lord made with the world.
Not, its about gay and lesbian rights.
See the conflict there??
Sure I could have compromised on God, but I am not that way, im stubborn and I won't have a wife that teaches any of my children the opposite of what I want.
A house that is divided will surely fall, and a house that stands together will not.
The Word of God is pure truth and those who do not agree will find the truth out for themselves the easy or hard way, in this life or the next to come.
So,
Wrapping this up and hopping off..
We hope that this helps you couples who are looking tirelessly and helps you.. for we wish someone helped us when we were 'new' to this lifestyle and the search.
May the Lord of Hosts guide us all, and give us open ears and eyes that truly see.
Peace be with you all.
What are you considering?! Is it true that you are insane?!?
Alright, simply joking. As insane as this truly sounds to the world, or to anyone that is first dealing with this question, those of us who have been through the move and lived to tell have taken in a couple of things, and in all actuality on the off chance that you can ace your weaknesses and venture up to this way of life, you will be luxuriously remunerated. You will be all the more liberated to act naturally and to seek after your interests. You will share the highs and lows of your existence with more individuals that genuinely cherish you and need the best for you and are on your side. Furthermore, you will be free from the annoying trepidation that your better half will abandon you some time or another for another person.
There's a considerable measure to consider, a great deal of issues. Numerous advantages and disadvantages to be weighed. Take as much time as is needed.
On the off chance that you are as of now wedded, and you and your significant other have begun discussing this, DON'T accept that your better half is quite recently searching for more sex, or is exhausted with you, or in any capacity considers less you a man and as a spouse. We can't represent precisely what's experiencing your better half's brain, however consider the accompanying cases:
A lady who has had a child, and that infant is currently two or three years of age, may wind up needing another infant. It doesn't mean she doesn't love her first tyke. She simply needs a greater amount of what she has, and to the degree she is a decent mother and is generally benevolent, she simply needs to dispatch all the more balanced youngsters into the world.
A business person who has enlisted a worker, whose business is as yet developing, may choose to enlist another representative. It doesn't mean there is anything amiss with the execution of the main worker. It just implies that the business is developing and needs more hands to deal with the work process.
An undergrad who has a companion she invests a great deal of energy with may meet another companion—somebody fascinating and invigorating that she needs to become more acquainted with better and thinks might be a decent long haul companion. The 'old companion' could get desirous and possessive and attempt to undermine the new relationship, or she could value the new companion, maybe build up her own relationship, and to the degree them three all appreciated each other's conversation and delighted in doing things together, they'd all be wealthier for it.
Clearly none of these cases hits precisely being a spouse. In any case, each in its own specific manner hits a piece of being a spouse. Regardless of whether it's the arrangement and insurance that a spouse offers a wife and a mother offers a youngster, or the feeling of cooperation and fellowship that describes solid business connections, or the basic fraternity of a decent companion, none of these connections is essentially debilitated by the expansion of more connections. When they're set well, "the more, the merrier".
In the event that you are thinking about turning into a man's second or third spouse, your circumstance is comparable in some ways, and diverse in others. You're measuring whether to surrender trusts and dreams in some relationship that hasn't happened yet; the primary spouse is managing feeling deceived, similar to some person changed the arrangement on her without inquiring. You're feeling sort of exceptional that your man would need to add you to his family; she's fondling somewhat utilized and dismissed that he would need to add you to the family, which is her family, as well, coincidentally. In any case a similar question presents itself: Where does your self-esteem originated from? What makes you like yourself and gives you seek after what's to come?
That is a ton to consider. Gone up against with the likelihood that what God needs for your life is drastically not quite the same as what you have been directed to expect, it's reasonable this would be a troublesome and some of the time enthusiastic process. Be that as it may, don't stop. Try not to surrender. What you're experiencing now will pass. Concentrate on what's valid about the affection for God and the will of God, "and reality might make you free".
