Seduction was on my mind today. Is it the same for men and wemon? To seduce in its basic definition is to attract powerfully. Our understanding and subsequent caring out of this seduction usually interacts with sex in some shape or form. We are taught that in order to utilize seduction effectively, actions that are rooted in sexuality must be weaponized to achieve a goal. Usually that goal is realized by getting another human being to comply with our wishes by motivating them sexually , be it sincere or not. Seduction isnt bad , I'm just reflecting on what we call in to make it happen.
I believe the ability to weaponize sexuality with is auxiliary components like good looks is like a privilege in a way. And since many privileges are advantages not shared by all. In a society that tries it's best to make us feel bad about ourselves and our life style choices, appearances , status and personality. The ability to feel you are ABLE to seduce is lost to many.
I think that attracting powerfully is more than sex and that if we had a heavier for who we are as people , feeling like one has the ability to seduce would fall more so in the nuances of the human experience .
Would you wrather call on the fleeting aspects of your existence or with who you are as a person.
Your amazing, I'm amazing. Let's all be swayed by those who are dope, kind and are trying to make the world brighter
Brian (Dear)
I'm certain love will post her own intro later
I'm 6'2 35year old bear of a man. I can talk about anything from astrophysics to child psychology to the perfect pokemon deck but I'm in finance by trade. I love 80s movies and black and white movies from like the 40s. Though i look quite intimidating, I'm very gental. I'm an anime gamer nerd daddy dom 3rd dan in judo
I've been told I'm not what someone would have expected in a dom. There are many misconceptions about BDSM and kink. I have no tattoos or piercings and I don't wear leather. Primarily I'll be blogging about my experiences that brought me to BDSM and kink. I claim no expertise only experience and what it means to be a daddy dom.
You will have to get through Love to talk to me until you connect enough. After all you sisters must get along. But I might say hi
TTFN
One of the massive changes in my family’s life was that we were unwelcome in a church that we loved, and were actively participants in, and I had a large role teaching adults in.
We were summarily given the left foot of fellowship, simply because I had been studying this “taboo” topic, and had concluded in favor of it. Not because we were looking for another wife or anything like that. Simply studying it and accepting it as a theoretically, Biblically acceptable family structure was enough for people I’d considered friends for over a decade to do a Jekyl/Hyde transformation. Only one person actually tried to look at the Bible with me over it and that was not the Pastor or Deacons.
My point with all of this, is that most of the time, for single Christian women who are hoping to marry into a family with a God fearing christian man, the possibility of continuing to be an active member of a church while being a plural wife is a very slim to none possibility. At least if you are public about it in the very least.
There are definitely alternative solutions to this issue, many home assemblies are ok with it, and many christian men who are poly for biblical reasons are a cut above most Corporate Christianity nodders, and should be more than capable of leading you into a closer walk with the Saviour.
Don’t let this discourage you from your search, just understand that there are more life changes to this than sharing a great man!
We don't feel that everyone needs to be religiously involved in everything we do, any more than our family needs to be involved in our hobbies for example. It is a bonus, not an imperative. I know that is strange for really religious people to understand, but it is not unusual here to have interfaith relationships, it can be quite common.
I haven't put religion as something that is an important match factor, it isn't important that my future spouse thinks the same as me, what IS important is that he knows I don't share his faith and to respect that, this is all.
I won't appreciate being preached to, being expected to take part in worship, listening to nightly readings from a religious book I don't believe in or attempts to convert me (I won't work regardless and will just upset us both). So, just be aware, if sharing a faith is important to you, we will not be a good match, if sharing a life in all other ways is more important to you, if having a wife fully devoted to you and the rest of the family is, than please contact me.
x
i'm going to try to share a little about me on this blog, so you all can gain a better understanding of who i am, my past, and why it's lead me to be the person i am now and my desire to be a sister wife.
I'll try to write a little each day in an ongoing way, but let me start by saying a grew up in a very liberal and highly educated household. I love my parents deeply. They raised me in the things they believed, which were things like compassion for those less fortunate, empathy, and honesty. They are feminists and also more left-learning, but they never demanded I be so as well. They encouraged me to keep core values of love and faith, but to allow them to manifest however my beliefs evolved.
As it became clear to me, as i tried hard to fit in as a hair-under-the-armpits feminist that it just wasn't for me, they supported my decisions to become more involved in the christian church, to seek strong men who set the tone for me and our relationship, to be more conservative in my politics, and eventually to find my journey here, where i hope to find a loving Husband and His alpha wives where i can serve in a beta role. While they are proud of my career and support me, i don't think this is where they anticipated their daughter ending up. But they love and support what i choose to be. And what i choose to be is a subservient and devoted wife to a King who can ensure my role is cherished but also i doing things in my proper place, at the feet of the Man i'm devoted to.
I met my poly family on there when I was still new and ignorant.
At this point I would usually make a joke about it 'not ending well' but tbh I think it ended fairly well, I went through a lot of negatives, but I also learnt a lot, grew and I have an even more enriched life now than I might have had, had I not gone through it so for that, I would say. It went well enough.
Back to the polyweb then, not ready to seek but more in an advisory role while I healed and recovered. I put most of my energy into my family and having a happy life.
So now, many years later, I consider myself a bit of a single woman poly advocate, I am the loudmouth who challenges the anti polygamist narrative that claims that women are brainwashed into polygamy and they don't 'love themselves'. I also advise couples against couple privileged behaviour which can be othering towards us single Potentials and leads to the destruction of healthy polygamous relationships (been there.....) If I say or have said anything to you, please don't take it badly, I see things from a singleton's point of view and it is important to know our mindset and how things might look to us, I am trying to help, not upset anyone.
I am very close to my extended family although we live in separate countries, I hope you would want to meet them though, I have lived in many places in my Nation (UK) and also spent a significant amount of time in the United States and my family live in Central Florida, if you are a great lover of the Disney/theme park experience, you will definitely be getting those holidays with me. That being said, I do prefer staying on this side of the Atlantic for myriad reasons, but will move if the person/people and conditions are right. I am especially fond of Canada, PNW and NZ sooooo I must have a thing for rain. ;o))
What I am seeking ideally is a classic polygynous relationship with a husband and wife/ves. Or a single poly minded man who I could be a first wife to and we can then build up our polygamous family from scratch. I have zero interest in bedsharing or threesomes so no triads at all please. I am not materialistic, I don't care if you are a bin man or a business man, I am not after riches, I am after a man who is strong, passionate, kind and likes to laugh. Loves and emotionally invests in his family, child friendly and treats women and children with respect, not as slaves of his household.
I am 5'10 and full figured/curvy, so you have to be into that I daresay. I am not necessarily looking for a man taller, but it is a benefit because I like to look up to a man, but with all else being equal, I don't really care that much. I tend to go for quite pale men, the ones who go red in the sun, with blue eyes and a warm smile. If during the summer you get lobster comparisons, we might be a match! Mentally fit and more positive than negative as I am a bit sensitive to emotions and find depressives draining. Honesty is of extreme importance to me, so if you are in the habit of lying to avoid confrontation, please pass me by. I don't mind facial hair, a receding pate or beer gut, I am not looking for Adonis, I am looking for a good man and with confidence comes sex appeal.
For my part, I love to treat my man like a King, to indulge and please him, tempered by a bit of lighthearted teasing j to keep him honest! ;o) I like to go out and experience cultural things or family things. Not really much of a club type/nightlife. I prefer to spend time together in the evenings, talking together, eating and drinking in the mediterranean style manner into the late evening. My hobbies include historical reenactments, costuming, watching films and geeky culture. I love historical cooking too, though only plant based so no, the wild boar will not be on the menu!!
I think spending time in each dyad is important though, but I am flexible with how those dates go, doesn't have to be night time, doesn't have to be something romantic. It's just about building on our emotional intimacy and touching base. Going out to eat, see a film or walking around a museum is fun for me, things need not be too structured or expensive, I just would like to spend time with you.
With regards to sister wives I do consider myself a woman's woman. In that I value female friendships and crave that emotional connection in my life and family. I am somewhat extroverted but not emotionally overbearing, I have cultivated a very useful model to process jealousy and I would hope you have done some work with that yourself so as not to make it a big issue. I am also into clear, honest communication. There will be no expectation of telepathy with me, no giving the cold shoulder or dropping passive aggressive hints. I will always be honest with you and expect the same in return. I like spending time doing girlie things, I will paint your nails or dye your hair if you asked, I will gladly mix cocktails and watch that terrible romcom he didn't want to watch with you OR if you just want to sit and read your book alone, I will respect that, it is about respecting the woman YOU are, not trying to force you into being the woman I want!
What I love seeing in profiles
'Honesty is important' 'Love children' 'not looking for a specific type, just the right person' 'loyal' 'equality'.
What I dislike seeing in profiles
'Seeking a female' 'want a third' 'why is it so hard to find a woman?' 'looking to add to are (our) relationship' 'no kids/divorcees/single mothers' 'must be willing to have children for us' 'you must send me a full length picture and an essay on why i should pick you to be considered to be a part of my harem' and finally 'I am in charge of this profile, you must please me before I will let you talk to my husband because I can't trust him to make good decisions'......
Plus those who are racist, sexist or any ist who thinks just because I value a traditional type of relationship myself, that I insist that all women should be forced to live a way that doesn't suit them. Any indication that your woman is not into polygamy and you are forcing her into it by threats of infidelity and a history of such with her making her fear a recurrence of such behaviour. Any desire for hierarchy amongst the wives, I have no interest in junior/secondary wife status or being treated as a concubine. I will forever be grateful to a first wife who was so kind as to want to share an amazing man with me, she would be a true Queen, but our status in the home will be equal, even if she will get the outside legal validation.
So anyway, I hope this helps you understand me a bit, I am rather a big mouth poly woman on social media but don't let that scare you, I am just a woman who is open, passionate and a bit sarcastic, but most of it is tongue in cheek. If anything connects with you, please do say hello.
Kind regards,
Natasha
2020
In quarantine black mirror episode
London, UK
xx
I am not an addition.
Please be aware of the language you use, you are objectifying us and you don't even know it.
xx