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Take a moment of reflection. Close your eyes and truly envision the picture of your relationship happiness. Hang onto that. I have my vision and I hope one day that a family will have the same one.
I am not complaining, as this goes for ALL of us —Please reflect. Everyone.

I wonder how many single women begin talking to families to ultimately only find out that the couple isn’t ready and now knows it.
I don’t like being anyone’s experiment.
I am not practice.
I wish I could count how many times in the last two years I’ve been told, “you’re an amazing beautiful woman and you deserve a couple who can commit to you.”
How about this one: “We have realized we aren’t ready for this lifestyle now. But we wish you the best and we’d like to stay friends.”
Oh gosh I have so many examples by now. I open up and become vulnerable only to find out a month in, that they don’t want a third.”
People...Families...Please please make sure you know what you want. Or give it a chance before suddenly dropping it with some epiphany that you don’t want another woman in the relationship.
My favorite *sarcasm* is when people admit their own insecurities and never think of mine.
“We are too busy to pursue this kind of relationship.”
Oh gosh I could go on and on.
I Still allow myself to stay open and vulnerable. It’s difficult. I am exhausted by the same story almost every time (outside of a very painful breakup with a more long term relationship).
Some of my friends and family wonder why I would keep looking. I know 100% what I want and seek. I wish everyone did. My feelings get hurt most when I feel like a trial run.
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Never give up on your pursuit of this natural way of living. Monogamy is really not even seen in nature. For thousands of years humans lived polygamy. Recorded history shows that most human society have been polygamous. Rome forced the world into monogamy and today we are seeing so many relationship problems...as one young lady said to me " monogamy is just not working...what's out there is clearly not working". Normalisation is a process and soon rights will come but don't wait for that to live your freedom and to live what makes you happy.  

hy my husband and me are Polygam and would be very happy if we can found a girl that be with us ^^ , but pls . we looking only for girls ,  that wants to join our poly relationship , we realy looking only for a second girl in our relationship :)    #lookingforamate   #lookingforapartner

i am very intrested about learning about pologamy

Reflecting as an adult on my childhood, I think my parents had two separate only children rather than two children, siblings.  My parents showered us both with a lot of love and attention, meeting all our needs.  Certainly that was a fantastic experience but left me unprepared in some ways for the cruel world and independent adulthood, where there is not always someone there to help you and fulfill your wishes.  There is an old saying that if you give a child and a pig everything they want, you will end up with a good pig.

What does this have to do with polygamy?

Do we have multiple independent husband and wife relationships, or a sharing, or both?

The two shall become one of Genesis implies a singularity of pairing, exclusive of others.  Extending that to polygamy would imply multiple one flesh pairings, each unique in its bonding.

But what of sister wives?

The name itself implies a relationship between wives.

How many women raised in western society really want the sister aspect of polygamy, rather than engaging in a tug of war with the other wives, the objective being to secure the greatest share of the man's time, energy and resources?

Is the maths simply 1+1, and another 1+1, and so on, an additive process?

Or are there synergies, sharings, benefits, where 1+1+1 = more than 3?

In chemical terms, the synergy would be covalent bonding with the women the atoms and the male the electron.

Surely the highest and best form of polygamy is where each person seeks to bring out the best in the others, being true agape.

Something to think about.

I am new to the site ,, I don't really no where to start and kinda nervous. My husband gave me the idea to try this site after so many fumbles on other dating sites(looking for a girlfriend is hard smh), from women only wanting me to some only wanting him . Now I just hope to make at least a friendship out all this. So hit me up?

On this site u have to have a lot of forgiveness in your self and others or it won't work. You have to be willing to say I'm sorry! If it works , great. If not , move on. Their are other fish in the sea. You can't be Judgemental or mean on this site and get any where!

I was reading a Q&A site recently about polyamory.  In the middle of the response the answerer wrote:

"If you can't do monogamy, then you won't be able to do polygamy."

As tortological as it sounds, this person touched on an important point.  Some people come to polygamy from a desire to be freer than they would get from a monogamous relationship; to have less to do, less to consider or commit to, and more independence.

In polygamy there are more people and a tighter bond between them, which means yes, there are more people who can and will love you, and more people who can and will help you through anything, but that also means more people to care for, more people to be considerate of, more emotion, and more lives to contribute to.  This true for everyone, including the husband.

Many successful monogamous relationships have the same qualities that polygamous relationships do, and many failures of marriages are similar whether they be monogamous or polygamous.

This means, unfortunately, that women suitable for polygamy are probably already in monogamous relationships.  The good news is that this also means there are more women suited to polygamy in the general population than seek it out.  So don't hide your polygamy from people you trust just because they're happily monogamous.

If you're a natural giver, listener, and communicator, then you will find polygamy much easier than monogamy, and you probably already know this from the close friendships you nurture already. :-)