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It was not easy to come to this path in life. Some people do it for the "excitement" factor and that can never last. How long can physical relations go ? True relationships are built on common values, common interests and a common vision.
We are a pretty calm bunch. We were married in April, my original plans were to open a small museum here locally, but no long after getting settled, my wife's headaches got to bad we went to the doctor. The short version is she has damage from an old car wreck. It causes her sometimes to have a hard time with sentences or directions. Sometimes she does not notice simple things others might. She can fall too and that is scary for me.
We love each other very much, but came to the conclusion quickly that both of us really need a sister wife. Somebody to grow with, do stuff with and share life with. Both of us are technically disabled, but I stay active in business with some travel. She often has visits with doctors and it is difficult for me to always be there to go along.
There is no real drama between us, I have more arguments with fast food people not getting stuff right than her. We are really good together in temperament, plans, vision, and morals. We are both believers in leave things as they are if you can't improve the situation for sure. Do no harm has real meaning here. This home is violence free among relatives.
Drop us a line if you want to correspond more.
Dave and Tera
"If you can't do monogamy, then you won't be able to do polygamy."
As tortological as it sounds, this person touched on an important point. Some people come to polygamy from a desire to be freer than they would get from a monogamous relationship; to have less to do, less to consider or commit to, and more independence.
In polygamy there are more people and a tighter bond between them, which means yes, there are more people who can and will love you, and more people who can and will help you through anything, but that also means more people to care for, more people to be considerate of, more emotion, and more lives to contribute to. This true for everyone, including the husband.
Many successful monogamous relationships have the same qualities that polygamous relationships do, and many failures of marriages are similar whether they be monogamous or polygamous.
This means, unfortunately, that women suitable for polygamy are probably already in monogamous relationships. The good news is that this also means there are more women suited to polygamy in the general population than seek it out. So don't hide your polygamy from people you trust just because they're happily monogamous.
If you're a natural giver, listener, and communicator, then you will find polygamy much easier than monogamy, and you probably already know this from the close friendships you nurture already. :-)
The place is called Grounds for Sculptures or Sculpture gardens. I had mentioned to him a few weeks back that a friend told me about the place and that I wanted to go. It was a lovely surprise.
Later he took us to Newtown, PA where we stayed overnight at a historic hotel and enjoyed time at the outdoor bar. Good food and excellent conversations.
Personally, I really look forward to wonderful loving woman that will join our family and we can take such excursions together and enjoy our life.
xox, Wifey
I do not disagree with this person in the slightest in their assessment that the site...and all of the others are likely to be the same realistically... is full of fakes and aggressive men.
The fakes are frequently just simple scammers and honestly you have to be a full on lumphead to fall for the kind of obvious cut and paste from a translator bot message that will pop up. Seriously... does anybody really think that a bunch of girls from Ghana are clambering to get into plural families in the states? Anyway, scams happen all the time and this is the internet boys and girls, it is part of the environment. The actual troublesome ones are the fakes from the point of view that they are not serious and are just looking to get an ego stroke or to jack with those plig weirdos or whatever. Tonnes of them on these sites.
With respect to the aggressive guys, I can just assume that they are the assholes who are either trying to larp polygamy because of some fantasy and again ego stroke issue or they are the sort of douche that has managed to bully or convince their frequently unwilling wives into this search with claims that God is talking to them directly in a big booming voice so he can use her faith against her or some other scam perhaps involving fear of losing financial support for her and her kids. The reason being in the end that he wishes to have regular sexual access to another woman. This sort of beta dickhead is not really going to come in many flavors but aggressive is certainly one of the most popular .
Now don't get me wrong... I am not white knighting the girls on here at all. They leave so much to be desired that it makes me all the more thankful that I met and married one of the few real gems that really was looking to be part of a plural family.
The vast majority of woman on here are just simply ill mannered brats that I would not have at all. While a man is absolutely the head of the family, a man should not be forced to reraise a woman he has married and try to undo all of the apparently shoddy work that her parents did in teaching her the bone basics of how to treat people.
I know that just about every serious couple on here who is seeking a sisterwife has experienced the ghosting treatment from the singled women (presuming that they are A. Single B. Women ((what the hell is wrong with people that they have nothing better to do?)) C. Seriously looking for a family instead of screwing around.). They exchange a few messages and or emails and then puff of smoke and the girl is gone. No warning, no 'Thanks but I don't think we are a match' or anything.
Now don't get to thinking I am just being butthurt that some girls ghosted me. A. Noooope. See the profile. Not looking for another wife. Maybe someday but right now we are just trying to network with the community. B. As i previously mentioned, I would not have the ones with such bad manners gift wrapped. I do not wish to spend my life in a contentious marriage with a brat I have to reeducate on courtesy and consideration for others as opposed to the shallow narcissist who can not be bothered considering the time or feelings of others. There are some couples here who really get ahead of themselves emotionally after a few exchanges and while that is not some random girls fault, she should be aware of the effect just blowing them off has. Lots give up just because some woman was not interested in thinking beyond the end of her nose. I/we have been happy to meet and chat with women here but we sure are not going to come out of the gate as anything but plain old friendly and certainly not flirty or whatever.
Yeah I know... 'but a lot of guys are assholes and won't take a polite no'... or 'I get so many emails I am overwhelmed' etc etc. Yeah? Is this your first time on the internet as a female? These are such common issues with such common solutions that I don't see them as valid complaints. Just part of the equation with online seeking of any kind.
So to my mind the couples who get ghosted by the women with bad manners, just move along and be glad. Glad that you found out about this character flaw after a couple of notes back and forth. Imagine how much worse it would be if it seemed to work out only to have the rug pulled out much further along... I mean that genuinely. It could be so so much worse. Nobody is here, whether it is as a single woman or a couple, to get their emotional guts ripped out.
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