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Love is meant to be multiplied not divided by jealousy. This is a calling not a lifestyle for everyone..

So I'm sitting here at the local truckers cafe writing this. You know when you renovate your home things get destroyed? Like your walls and suddenly your bathroom is in transition. What was ( and shortly will be again ) a home, is like a strange camping experience. We needed to do a renovation but I never knew the physical pain and the emotional struggle that redoing a house brought on. Austin is trying to get everything wrapped up, but the truth is, we are in limbo. We both work and the people who did the last renovation, well they shouldn't have been allowed to do anything. Wires put together with duct tape, Sheetrock over holes ( basically nothing between the exterior and that Sheetrock), and a lot of other things that even I, an amateur at this, can see is wrong. Who let these people add on to their home Willy Billy ? I mean they must have been drinking and getting bored and suddenly they remembered they had some lumber and Sheetrock outside. Anyway, we are correcting things and getting to put our personal touch on the house. Paint colors, bathroom redesign, adding a screened in patio which is my favorite. Going to turn the house into an oasis, as long as we can get on the same page with the design. It means that I have to give up some things like using wifi at home but hopefully everything will be put back together in the next couple months. The warmer weather will help. What colors look good with grey cabinets in the kitchen? I'm debating on a few but what do you think?

Ok, So we have been chatting with someone on this site for about a week. So she is in college supposedly. So i've been texting her and she tells me that i haven't talked to her in 3 days. Well I HAVE! Today she says, I have something to ask you, In school today my professor asked me to pay $550. So can you send it to me and i'll send you the information to where to send it. But I need it by Friday!. That way i can pay it and start my relationship with you. What The H...? Is this normal? I don't know this person except through some text messages. If she was here then I could see helping, or if we WERE in a relationship. But not only after just a week and not really knowing her. Has anyone else been faced it with this and how do you respond? I'm so lost....We have had nothing but bad experiences from these people. We want a honest, committed relationship and we just can't seem to find it in anyone to wont the same. Are we doing something wrong? We need help!

So I just have alot on my mind and i'm sure a lot of people probably wont read this post but I just need to get some things down in writing. 

So my fiance and I joined this site in search of a sister wife or more of a triad relationship. It seems like alot of people on here aren't serious about what they're looking for or message you once then you never hear from them again. We aren't here for a hook up or that "unicorn" We are very serious about our search for someone who will be long term. Part of our life forever. But where do we look? Should we just give up? We have been searching everywhere for quite some time and are getting a little frustrated.

Are there no girls out there that actually want to live the lifestyle we want? Are there no girls out there that are as serious as we are? We have so much love to share but can't find that "one" who wants what we do. It seems as though finding someone to share your life with is harder than we had planned. Everyone tells us to be patient but for how long? We have been looking for almost 2 years now with not really anyone that is serious.

Does anyone have any advice or some suggestions on what we should do?

Hi We have been talking about this for a long time and decided to see if we could find someone to join our family  I am 63 yrs old  and like to spend time reading or putting puzzles to gather, listening to music I myself like Country but I like 50's 60's and 70's rock and roll also.

I have long thought that flying in formation was a good metaphor for marriage.

Here are 8 specific points for you to consider:

1. How do they do it? The key is that there is one leader and the rest are followers. If there is no leader you are not flying in formation.

2. Due to advance communication everyone knows where they are going, but the leader leads and the followers have to keep a close eye on the leader.

3. The followers job is to position themselves correctly in relation to the leader.

4. The leader has to call the maneuvers so that the followers can expect the movements and react to them accordingly. They communicate constantly as needed.

5. There has to be at least two to fly in formation, but structurally you can add on more.

6. Not easily done. It takes intention and practice.

7. It is also mandatory for safety in aerial combat. Singles are picked off like sitting ducks.

8. You need someone to check your six. No individual has complete vision or situational awareness. But good teams are unbeatable in aerial combat.

When done well it is a beautiful thing. Formation flying is commonly seen at air shows for the appreciation of all.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuznBNZl6ME

To each their own and all...

That being said, one of the things that is jumping out to me a fair amount is just how many profiles demonstrate that several people are here looking for a good time, for new partners for sexual liaison or seeing the plural marriage pop culture boom and thinking it would be some kind of yolo adventure and that it might be cool for a while. That is what I see in the single women's profiles. In some of the couples profiles however it is far more of the predatory to desperate spectrum and I do not even slightly wonder at the fact that many are mystified by the lack of any response. In other couples profiles you will see the it is all about the ego stroke for the man equation being played out.

At the end of the day, personally I don't particularly care about being perceived as judgemental when so many are approaching plural marriage for all the wrong reasons. All that it will end up with is games being played, hearts being broken and families pulled apart. 

Plural marriage is first and foremost a marriage. It is about love, permanence, giving each other support and the bonds of family. Plural marriage is not about jumping on the latest fad, it is not about your sexual fantasies or pumping up your ego. 

Yeah yeah... standing on my soap box and preaching to an empty room. I know. Lame and pointless. It is frustrating though to browse through the site and see a handful of those who clearly take the idea of polygyny seriously and who are seeking their family or their new wife that are clearly having to wade through a sea of those who might be more suited to plenty of fish or some other hookup app. 

This is supposed to be about love and family not being part of a fad.

How has all three influenced your life?

Transparency is everything..it protects and builds all parties the entire time.

Thoughts?

I hope you and your loved and beloved ones have a beautiful and memorable day.