User blogs

Love is a funny thing to describe. We all think we know what it is, yet it always seems difficult to explain. Some say that love in a relationship is either there or it isn't. From personal experience, that is the lazy approach. 

Imagine that everyone is standing on a personal sized iceberg with ropes connecting them. The ropes are not unlimited and can fall off the icebergs if not held onto. When two people pick up the rope connecting them, if they do nothing else, they will remain that distance to each other. If one starts pulling, they will slowly come closer. If they both pull, the they will quickly come together. If one let's go and the other pulls, they will drift apart and the rope will run out. If one throws the rope away, same thing, only no chance of picking the rope up again.

Once the two are together, they simply need to maintain it until the icebergs become one. If the two become complacent and let the rope go, they will drift apart again. It could be fast or slow, but they will need to pull together again to not lose each other. 

This scenario can work for any amount of people, such as a relationship of three people. The more they all pull together, the more unified they will become. It must be noted that even with relationships containing more than two people, that each individual relationship must be nurtured. You can love any number of people, but if you do not pull together on both ends, it can be difficult.

Those that desire the love pull the rope. Those that don't truly care, don't even hold the rope. Those that reject the love throw the rope away. And those that want it, but limit their effort, merely hold the rope and there is no progression in the relationship. 

I am looking to starting in the polygamy lifestyle. It’s Something that I have always wanted and dreamed of. I think the bigger the family unit is the better. All members can contribute to the greater good of the family. It’s not about sex persay it’s about the family and the love that can be shared. I look forward to hearing from you.

my husband and i have been looking for a sister wife for a long time now our problem is that we live in central ohio and cant seem to find anyone any suggestions

How many people (families or singles) do you talk to at one time? At what point is it disrespectful to keep adding people? Think about it. (If anyone even reads this.) Think about yourself and also make sure to think about others! After all, we as a community are full of so much love. I need to focus my own love right now. I’ll keep you posted.

When you feel alone, you probably aren’t. When you don’t feel great about yourself, there is surely someone else who is there, too. If you have questions, remember there is indeed an answer. Also remember it may take a while to find it. Live your truth and everything will be okay.

What are red flags? Yellow flags? White? Do we create issues that aren’t even there because we are scared? Think about it. Everyone has a goal. A relationship they seek. Is it ok to go into the world blind in this lifestyle? What do people truly need to prepare? Do extended families need to know the plan? What secrets must you keep from the world in order to live a polygamist or polyamorous life? Is everyone on the same page or do some people not know their own page? What is self sabotage? I always question doubts. My own. Those of others. At what point does everyone go forward in the same direction? I agree that communication is everything. I think we all do.

Love is freedom. We are not adjusting to the confines of what other people want us to be anymore. Life is air. I am finally starting to breathe.

Do you ever talk to potential mates you really like and wonder how it really went? Do you ever think of whose “criteria” will match? I have a hard time prioritizing the list of what matters most in a relationship. Is it having things in common? Level of optimism? Lifestyle? Is it the feeling in your gut? Age? Looks? Location? Is it everything? Sometimes I get the feeling that people (including myself) focus on the minutia and not the big picture. If you really like someone, you will make a way to accommodate a new partner or partners. I mean there are only a relatively small number of “us” out there. Do we move mountains to be together or get stuck on silly details? Forever-love doesn’t come easily. I just wonder how stubborn we should be when it comes to qualities in a mate/mates. Maybe someone has the answer. I don’t. Love is a river, not a lake.

Just kidding. Blah blah blah to come! Hmmm. I would like to start a blog about the experiences of a single woman who puts herself out there for love. There are a lot of us. We are doubted my many. Those who have come before us have broken a lot of hearts. We are questioned, even often interrogated. I suppose self-doubt is normal all the way around. Can you imagine things growing organically and openly? If you can, that’s great. Really, this needs to be done with resumes. People say things like about telling them your hobbies and how they will benefit the family in order to be “considered.” I just think it sounds funny. Considered. A job. Being a sister wife or in any form of polyamory is a job. We might as well be sitting in a waiting room with our lists of recommendations. And that goes on on both sides. I can try to wish it were different, but I guess this is our reality. Let’s do it with more warmth. Easier said than done. We get pressured. Sometimes we are inundated by emails. Sometimes we have zero. That almost compounds the feeling of pressure. On ourselves to be successful in love, loneliness. It’s like ”Hey wait, I am cute. Where did everybody go? How do I prove myself? Do I need to be cuter? Have more money? Where have I gone wrong?” It’s a silly thing, but so many of us feel it. Hmmmm. Plural love. Plural marriage. I was at dinner with the in-laws (if you read my profile, you’ll see I’ve been widowed 14 years. But the in-laws are always in-laws!). They started talking about polygamists in Utah. The typical talk: Disgust over FLDS. I looked over to my 17 year old daughter (who knows all about my beliefs and my search), and I opened my eyes widely to speak to her. I shaked my head. I thought, “Will you Stop speaking about the stereotypes from tv? This is different. What will happen when I meet the right family? Will they think I am even more of a weirdo? Will they talk about the Bible and monogamy? Will I have to go further into polygamy being normal in the Bible or keep my mouth shut? Will I just present it as ‘none of your business?’ Will they be disgusted?” That’s the internal pressure. Let. Me. Breathe. Love is freedom. Allowing oneself to believe in abundance. No limits to joy. Giving oneself the freedom to just live. Just be. Be love. Sigh. I know I am a romantic. But I am indeed alone. Climbing the rungs of self knowledge to the heights of sharing lives together. Those are my thoughts of the day.

There are actually so many challenges when you consider being in a polygamous relationship, that it would be great to just get a break every once in a while. For example, one of the most unpleasant situations that you could deal with when meeting people any other way rather than online would be being rejected when you tell them that you are looking for Sister Wives or that you are interested in having more than one loving partner. Rejection is the worst and can do a number on your self-esteem.

That is exactly why you should be thinking about choosing a far superior alternative to regular dating. The good news is that now you can decide to search for another woman or another man or maybe even a couple that you can start a new relationship with. It would be even better if you simply relied on a social network just like ours where you can find proper profiles of people that have similar interests. Especially when talking about your amorous beliefs, it is better to stay away from regular dating sites. This is how you can avoid disappointment after disappointment.

The individuals that do not have the same expectations and desires when it comes to their love life are not a good match, especially if they only believe in what is considered to be the norm – that a couple should be a connection between two persons and that is it. Most probably, you telling them that you are already in a relationship and that you want to add someone new in the mix is going to make them judge you and will hear all sorts of remarks. If you have tried this before on regular dating sites, you have probably already dealt with such a situation.

The same happens when you meet people the regular way, in a restaurant, on your way to work and so on. The hard part here is telling them that you prefer polygamous relationships. Fortunately, when you visit our website, you know exactly what kind of persons you will comes across here. Forget about them judging you for your preferences and be yourself. You will feel so relaxed knowing that there does not need to be an elephant in the room. Here everyone already know a bit you and what you want because these bits of information are available on your profile. 

If you are interested in being one of the Sister Wives that are already involved in a relationship or would like to find one, you can sign up on our website and create a profile. After sharing a bit about yourself, you can perform a simple search and see which of the existing members could be a perfect match. It might take a short while before you find exactly what you are looking for, depending on your preferences. Nevertheless, the entire process of chatting with all kinds of new people will be more than exciting and fun.

When it comes to Polygamy, you need to set some basic rules based on what you want and share them with the people that you meet. The best part about looking for these new matches online is that the entire process is simplified. Of course, the most important advantage in this case is that every single person that you are going to find on our website is looking for a polygamous relationship, one way or another. Some will be interested in starting a relationship with another woman or another man, while others will want to do that with a couple. 

Another major advantage that you will enjoy when you look for dates online, on our website would be the fact that you can flirt regardless of your location. You can be in the same country as the person that you are contacting or you can be half a world away. It does not really matter. Our site will allow you to talk to them for as long as you want. If you are wondering how you can get started, you should know that it is as easy as 1 – 2 – 3. 1 – Visit our website and create your account, 2 – Edit your profile and add a photo, 3 – Perform a search and contact the members that you like.

You might also want to keep in mind the fact that you can keep up with your notifications such as any messages that you might have received from people who you have already talked to or that have just contacted you for the first time. You would just need to log into your account on our social network on a daily basis. Regardless of your current location – you might be at home, at work, on the train or even in a park. As long as you have an internet connection, you can flirt away.

It is interesting to know that one of your soulmates might be a few clicks away. The question that you have to ask yourself is: why wait? Instead of wasting any more time that you could otherwise spend having amazing conversations with people that understand you, it would be a much better idea to just create your account. You will not believe just how many dating opportunities you will have once you have the option of contacting our members. 

At the same time, you might not even finish editing your profile and might get contacted by someone that shares your Polygamy values. Truth being told, the chances of finding love here are much greater than anywhere else. Why? Because in today’s society it is much easier to find someone who understands your principles if both of you meet in a place that was specifically created for individuals just as open minded as you are. Even if you have tried other social networks, you should give ours a try and see for yourself what makes us so different. If you have any additional questions regarding our social network, do not hesitate to leave us a message!