While special needs children can be challenging, they are worth every gram of effort put into them. Many times, parents just need a loyal friend to help them. Choosing to join a family with special needs makes you a rare person indeed. Toomany parents run away, leaving those children. But let me tell you that you as a parent get far more from your children, than they get from you.
Even if the Lord does not open up the door for a future wife, I hope that I can be an encouragement to others.
We have so much love to share and would take good care and show much love to our sister wife. We feel like part of us is missing. Does anyone have any advice or success stories they can share with us?
Imagine that everyone is standing on a personal sized iceberg with ropes connecting them. The ropes are not unlimited and can fall off the icebergs if not held onto. When two people pick up the rope connecting them, if they do nothing else, they will remain that distance to each other. If one starts pulling, they will slowly come closer. If they both pull, the they will quickly come together. If one let's go and the other pulls, they will drift apart and the rope will run out. If one throws the rope away, same thing, only no chance of picking the rope up again.
Once the two are together, they simply need to maintain it until the icebergs become one. If the two become complacent and let the rope go, they will drift apart again. It could be fast or slow, but they will need to pull together again to not lose each other.
This scenario can work for any amount of people, such as a relationship of three people. The more they all pull together, the more unified they will become. It must be noted that even with relationships containing more than two people, that each individual relationship must be nurtured. You can love any number of people, but if you do not pull together on both ends, it can be difficult.
Those that desire the love pull the rope. Those that don't truly care, don't even hold the rope. Those that reject the love throw the rope away. And those that want it, but limit their effort, merely hold the rope and there is no progression in the relationship.