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I am not looking to be 'added' to someone's life, I am not an extra or a thing.  I am a person, I have a life and family, I want a connection, I want a blending and joining together.  You will be brought into MY family just as much as I am brought into yours.

I am not an addition. 

Please be aware of the language you use, you are objectifying us and you don't even know it.

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Why is it so hard to find a woman who is serious about joining our family. So many times we have came across fakes and spam bots. were is the lady for us.

Why is it so hard to find a woman who is serious about joining our family. So many times we have came across fakes and spam bots. were is the lady for us.

We hope that everyone is staying safe with this virus that is going around, especially those in the most infected areas.  we are doing good and my wife tested negative for her test and we are waiting for my results to come in..  Once again we hope that everyone is staying extremely safe.

Its absolutely amazing how with things falling apart, people are all of a sudden discovering that rural life might not be such a bad thing.

We're about 7 miles from the nearest 'c-store' - it has 2 pumps, 2 coolers, 6 types of smokes, 20 types of candy & gum, and coffee.  Population in a 10 mile radius is maybe 500 folks.  The cows outnumber people 20 or 50 to one.

We can see the Milky way EVERY night it isn't cloudy.  And have great sunsets.

If the stores start getting empty, well, we only go once a month and have a bit saved up. And a huge garden.  Might be shooting for the pot (rabbits all over the place) and eating our own cornbread, but it'll be all we can eat, not rationed.

No rent, so less worries.

And, with the internet & TV we still have ringside seats for the big show.

With that in mind, we are still looking for another wife.  Funny thing is that quite a few folks are aware that we practice polygyny; several of the mainstream culture women that had been a bit 'critical' of this have actually mentioned to the wives that their perspectives have changed a bit. A couple have even gone as far as to ask questions that would make me think that they might even want to be courted....

I suspect that in the coming weeks, with unemployment rising, debts accumulating, and urban unrest increasing, our little oasis of quiet may seem like paradise in comparison!

Websites like this gives us the opportunity to build networks and relationships with people who are like minded with us. It is understood that we are here to find a match first and foremost, but we also have an opportunity to build networks and give support to each other. Don't be afraid to reach out to someone just to say hi, how is your search going? Platonic friendships here can also go a far way and lead to powerful relationships. 

As I look at the animals with the closest DNA and realise they all reject monogamy, then I look at most creatures in nature and even plants and realise that polygamy is the preference of nature, I feel blessed to be pursuing something so amazing. Then I looked at history and realised that most human societies practiced polygyny; I feel for sure that this is the right way. So many people in monogamy cheat and have secret affairs or flirting episodes (when they are already in a committed relationships) that it makes me realise that as the desire for polygamy grows in North America; we have an opportunity to create something special and beautiful. Polygamy would allow us to fix those parts of relationships that monogamy consistently lets us down. We have the opportunity to build better families, better man and woman dynamics, better understanding of sexuality and functionality. We would have less families experiencing dysfunctions and breaking up. There would be a lot of pains that could be avoided. As polygamy grows in this new world; we have the chance to live better lives. Let us make use of this current opportunity. 

how much can u love two people at the same time? depends on how much love you receive back i suppose. i love my girlfriend more than anything. i want someone to help me love her as much as she loves me which i know is more and i still have not figured out how she does

We've started the process of looking for another wife to add to the family.  The last one as the concensus is that four is a perfect number.

So far we've started talking to three different ladies with the typical results.  Two fakes/flakes/scammers, one princess.  0 for 3.

We tend to be practical (rural farm family) and, since we have been thru the process a few times before, have gotten pretty good at spotting the fakes, flakes, frauds, scammers and con artists.

The first (not from here, Brittany) wanted assurances and $2000 per month guaranteed income, paid apartment (living in a suite in the farmhouse not good enough), separate phone (not part of family plan), car, etc.  In other words a paid mistress.  I'm not going to repeat the wives comments....

The second and third were the typical damsels in distress.  These types always have horrible stories about their horrible lives.  So much so that they have gotten to be 'over the top' - you'd think they were auditioning for Springer.  And, they almost always say 'I'm not looking to be rescued'.  What they all  seem to have in common is that they want to go slow (not a problem) and have all sorts of things that keep them from being able to actually relocate or consider relocating soon.  Times tend to vary but they are always looking at 3 to 9 months.  They don't like talking to the wives - independently or as a group, but will always chat up and often get a bit risque with me.  Then, when they realize that 1) we are REAL, 2) we compare notes, 3) they will have to interact with all of us, 4) we won't 'help them' with bills etc. while they are dithering, 5) want to verify their existence thru other means, 6) ask point on questions about leases, debt, family ties, stuff to be moved, etc., they ghost and block.

Both #2 and 3 were from here. H & J.

I'm not sure why these folks seem to pop up in poly so much.  But they do...  they seem to be a very active bunch, and put in quite the effort.

Anyway, we are here for the long haul.  We will succeed eventually - despite the catfishing cretins.  And we will have tons of fun identifying the chaff.

In this time of uncertainty; My wife and I are wishing all of you safety and freedom from sickness and the Coronavirus. This polygamy community is important to us and we want you all to be well in this time. Stay safe everyone.