Isaiah 11:13. The envy also of Ephraim shall depart, and the adversaries of Judah shall be cut off: Ephraim shall not envy Judah, and Judah shall not vex Ephraim
This seems to be the primary source of contention within the poly household. It is also one of the biggest fears that can exist within the household. The first wife’s fear of being marginalized by the husband as his infatuation for a new wife overcomes his sense of decency and order. This coupled with the new wife’s inexperience in how to be a good wife to her husband and sister to her sister wife, tends to lend itself to a perspective and attitude that is destructive to the wellbeing of all parties and the household in general. It’s a perspective of selfishness that manifests as vexing the first wife. The first wife becomes jealous and envious of the second, and the second, misunderstanding and misconstruing her influence in the house, begins to build her own house by dividing his house.
This entire dynamic is completely and easily avoided, simply by the presence of a strong husband who clearly articulates his vision and boundaries to all the family, and secondarily by the women practicing and exampling the fruits of the spirit to each other.
Where
Can a Couple Seeking a Sister Wife Go?
Sister
wives aren’t really a common subject for discussion for people outside of the
polygamous scene, but thanks to various TV reality-shows and an expanding
internet database, they have started to become more accepted as a phenomenon.
Although the idea of having more than one wife might tempt some, when seeking a sister wife, one should understand that even though it might be a less than
traditional arrangement, certain rules still apply. That is why one is
recommended to do some serious research about what it means to have more than
one wife and how to handle such a relationship.
What
Are Sister Wives?
For
most people involved in traditional marriages, the idea of multiple spouses
might seem ridiculous, weird or even shameful to even discus. They might think
that being in a monogamous relationship is the only way things should be done
and any kind of alternative to this lifestyle is wrong. But what is for some
normal might not mean the same thing for somebody else. Thinking back to the
old days, arranged marriages were considered normal back then and parents
deciding their children faiths since birth was widely accepted. In some parts
of the world this is still the norm. But normality is relative to the
individual and his background, and that is why judging somebody for doing
things differently isn’t always the best course of action.
For
instance, sister wives might seem like a difficult concept for many people to wrap their head around,
but for others it makes perfect sense. In the world of polygamy this is a
normal thing. It refers to at least two women sharing the same husband and
acting as if they are sisters. There is nothing sordid or unnatural about it.
Although it might offend some people and go against some civil laws that
doesn’t mean that the act itself is bad by nature.
Sharing
the same husband, and even the same household, has been a common happening in
many cultures around the world. The man would marry multiple wives and even
have children with more than one of them. The views would take care of the
household together and even raise their children together. This was their
“normal”. They would behave as any other family and the husband would take care
to give each wife the same amount of attention.
Common
Misconceptions About Sister Wives
One
of the biggest misconceptions about a polygamous relationship is that it is
nothing more than accepted cheating. Some might argue that as soon as there are
more than two partners in a relationship, that relationship seizes to exist
because there is nothing intimate anymore. This is not the case with polyamorous
relations and especially with marriages with multiple spouses. All the people
involved in such a relationship are consenting adults that understand that they
need to communicate and share their love and affection for one another.
Although the relationship usually involves sexual relations with multiple
partners, that doesn’t mean that the people involved are cheating on one
another.
Another
myth about marriages involving more than two partners is that they usually
break the family apart and end in divorce. Although some of these marriages
does end in divorce, that isn’t a rule. Traditional marriages end in divorce as
well, and usually even more frequently than polygamous ones. Whatever reasons
people might have to enter or exit a relationship don’t necessarily have
something to do with the nature of the relationship. Firstly, nobody is forcing
anyone else to enter that relationship in the first place. Secondly, divorcing
someone doesn’t necessarily mean that you cannot continue to have a relation
with that person.
When
people decide to get involved in polyamorous
relations they usually do so after careful consideration and
extensive talks with their partners. The whole idea of bringing other people
into a relationship is to improve one another through shared experiences and to
have somebody to help you and be beside you when need be. Aside from the sexual
part of the relation, polyamorous relations are about communication, being open
minded and trying to improve your understanding of others.
What
to Know When Seeking A Sister Wife?
Anybody
who is seeking a sister
wife should understand couple of things before they rush to the altar. Firstly,
anybody looking to bring another woman into a relationship should know that
some major adjustments have to be made. A second wife isn’t just a live-in
friend for your first wife, or a permission slip to have sex with somebody
else. It means that you truly understand one another, are accepting of all your
qualities and flaws and agree on sharing whatever life might throw at you.
Bringing another woman into a marriage is a subject that should be discussed at
length with your partner and everybody should understand what is about to
happen.
Another
thing that is very important to understand when talking about multiple wives is
that finding one isn’t as simple as placing an ad in a paper. Polygamy already
has a sort of a bad reputation with the more traditionalistic crowd. You might
need to do a bit of searching before you find somebody that wants the same
things as you do. But, as in any marriage, finding your second significant
other takes time and patience.
Where
to Go When Seeking A Sister Wife?
Although
the alternative lifestyle scene has been getting more and more mainstream
acceptance, it isn’t really there yet. People still need some help if they want
to meet like-minded men and women. Luckily for them, there are people working
on providing them with the necessary tools to do so. People like the ones over
at sisterwives.com, which are building a
dedicated platform in order to build and bring together a
community of people looking for something different. Just as Tinder or other
dating apps, people that practice an alternative lifestyle have their options
when it comes to meeting others just like them.
For
the ones that prefer a more traditional approach to finding another “ball and
chain” there are always the well-known meeting grounds. Special clubs or other
meeting spots that are dedicated to enabling people to come together, without
having to be in the public eye, and indulge in their passions.
Published By: Christopher Alesich & Robyn Alesich
Matchmakers, Inc: Sisterwives.com
Since then we have dealt with dishonesty, lack of chemistry, differing views on raising children, ghosting, aspirations that needed to be chased, and outright psychopaths. We are exhausted but we know this is where our family is supposed to be. We want the stability for our children, the extra love. We want to share everything with someone. We aren't unethical "unicorn hunters". We're too old to be risking one night stands anymore, atleast on a regular basis.
My dilemma is how do we find this wonderful person? How do we find someone who wants what we want? I am honest from the get-go and yet we still have a miscommunication along the way. I am hoping for a resolution soon, to make someone happy with us.
Thank you for listening to my rant. I appreciate it.
I think we're hearing pretty much the same tune: you adjust to me, but don't expect me to do any adjusting.My statement to them is that you are joining a family already in process/ progress.
This was a conversation between a couple of my Poly male friends about potential SW’s wanting to join the family.
For those of you who are believers, or know anything about Christianity, Does Christ accept you as you are? Of course! Do you really want to remain in the condition you were in when He accepted you into His family?
If your answer is that you dont want Christ to change you to be more like Him every day, then I’d humbly submit that you have bigger Spiritual problems. In my mind, that means you do not understand Christianity at its simplest form. Our goal as believers is to be transformed into someone that He can present to His Father without spot or wrinkle. This is just our reasonable service Romans 12:1&2
Joining a believing family is much the same idea. As husbands, our primary job is to be able and willing to cover and shelter women who want to know and be more like Christ, and to help steward them to be more like Him, and to be fruitful and multiply, both physically and spiritually.
Who doesnt believe that theres a better version of you just waiting and longing to emerge? Your New Years resolution just told on you! God gave the world husbands to facilitate that incredible transformation into your best you.
Just my .02, and not every married man is a husband, just like not every married woman is a wife.
Peace, Love and all the Fuzzy Stuff!