Poisoning the well from Noblequest's blog

As people who hope to see wholesome polygamous marriages being normalized we have a vested nterest in sites like this one and others that are less focused on the matchmaking aspect. What we have seen rather a lot of is people who are considering polygyny for what we would consider the wrong reasons. A few but certainly not all of the reasons that I would consider wrong are the couple's who simply wish to find their live in sex toy which will apparently spice up their intimate activities and cure all relationship woes, the horny husband with the grudging wife couples where she is clearly just going along to get along so to speak (lots of these woman are in the position they are in because their religious faith is being used as a lever to force them into agreeing to something they do not want) and the scammer; we have all seen the douchebag guys who will pretend to be anything that will get them at least short term sexual access to any woman, the pure scammer looking for money, the catfish who will pretend to be anything just to keep themselves entertained regardless of the emotional toll they might extract and the busybody who has decided that they know better than you what is right and moral for your family even though you are strangers. All of these will make people cautious about interactions that ideally should be perfectly safe, straightforward and wholesome. Because of the bad actors we all end up being cautious to one degree or another... I personally will council women to be quite cautious in dealings here just like on any dating site nut by the same token I tend to be cautious myself and recommend the same to other plural families. While our vulnerabilities are not the same as single women, nobody wants to get scammed, catfished or worst of all enter into a relationship that is doomed to fail because the person they fell for was approaching this lifestyle as a lark that sounds like fun for a while. Is there a solution? I wish I knew one. In a perfect world I would think that in-person mixers would be great. I like the idea of a large picnic or something of that nature. Lots of fun ideas occur to me but coordinating what amounts to a plural family convention and matchmaking festival. You would probably find me behind the bar.

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Noblequest
Sep 4
Good point, I probably should address the positive side of things rather than just rail against the negative.
Noblequest
Sep 4
Ugh... this site is annoying on a phone. Anyway, some positives for you.... *At its most basic it is marriage. A marriage should be a blessing. This is after all the person(s) you want to spend your life with. * The larger the marriage (within reason... it is up to you and the ladies to determine what is reasonable as mileage will differ) the more of a support network you have. This can take so many forms and I really wish I were on a better device for better formatting so it is easier to read... Anyway - More people means the potential multiple incomes as well as at least one person keeping the home or any number of combinations. - More parents there for the kids should it be for simple loving and guidance or homeschooling or if in the event of a tragic death of two parents then the children are still loved and raised by at least one parent. - More hands make for easier tasks - More minds make for better solutions. Really there are tonnes of good reasons to be a polygamist and that is just a sample really.Ugh... this site is annoying on a phone. Anyway, some positives for you.... *At its most basic it is marriage. A marriage should be a blessing. This is after all the person(s) you want to spend your l...See more
Noblequest
Sep 5
With respect to mono folks managing the same advantages as polygyny via a sister or two couples etc, I would posit that two couples will always have the interests of the individual couples placed above that of their close friends and could always have diverging interests given that they are only tied by friendship. The maiden sister that becomes live in aunt to children is dangerous though. The potential for proverbial accidents to happen between the husband and sister in law exist and could end up destroying a family. I would think it simpler if there is any potential there at all that it should be nurtured and allowed to flourish into a real and permanent relationship rather than being an under the surface risk. With respect to the scientific side, I would say that polygyny strikes me a quite natural in that respect. There are genetic studies demonstrating that the practice of polygyny was more prominent than monogamy until the last few thousand years. It is also seen time after time in the animal kingdom so I have never personally seen it as particularly odd. We are after all two side of a binary made up of broadcast and conservative fertilizers. Not saying the broadcast fertilizers ie us, the guys, can not be 100% monogamous and happy in that roll but it simply is not how we are designed. Some wish to get upset by that design and assign blame to men for the inability for some to keep it in their pants as it were but it seems to me that it is simply less efficient than embracing the feature, growing the family and enjoying the numerous advantages that come with practicing polygamy. Hells bells if nothing else the ladies at very minimum have another woman there to turn to on occasion just to complain about that thumb fingered, boneheaded jerk that she married. Yeah there is a bit of jealousy to deal with early on but the real world companionship and love out weigh it by far and the jealousy is in large part cultural training that can be shrugged off with a bit of time. I could yammer on at a bunch more length but this site on a phone makes for difficult formatting and even reviewing what one has written so I will cut it short. Should use the pc for this type of thing really...With respect to mono folks managing the same advantages as polygyny via a sister or two couples etc, I would posit that two couples will always have the interests of the individual couples placed abov...See more
Noblequest
Sep 5
Thank you. I am very happy to have the discourse. It is something truly lacking on the site.
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