I don’t care how ready you think you are, when someone finally comes along that actually has the potential to fit in your family it creates labor pains in every one of the parties involved.
Wives that are previously reserved but accepting of poly have to re-examine their trust in their husbands judgement and commitment to them and the family. That’s not a poly thing, that’s a people thing. For example, a wife that’s totally ok with one particular lady joining the home, may be reserved initially about a different lady or completely resistant to another.
And don’t get me started on the wives that fit the bobblehead category. When their crucible hits, Katy bar the door!
Husbands that are totally convinced that they’ve got it figured out find out that understanding theory and a commitment to being the greatest husband is just the nose under the tent flap.
Prospects that think they know exactly what they want realize (maybe) that they really have no clear idea of how to make it happen even when they’ve found the “perfect” family! It reminds me of the neighbors dog chasing cars, he wouldn’t know how to drive it if he caught it!
The point is that the metamorphosis for everyone is a litmus test of IF you can succeed at poly for life.
And butterflies aren’t made overnight. . . .
Thoughts from Minko Yakaba
However since we do hold this conviction yet are in a geographic location where polygamy is pretty much unheard of, especially Christian polygamy, I am looking for like minded friends. If God clearly leads us to someone one day, that would be a blessing, but honestly our primary objective right now is just to make a few more lasting friendships.
I'd love to hear the story of your faith journey and how polygamy became acceptable and desirable to you. If you are in a polygamous relationship I'd love to hear your story and how things are going. So whether you are a couple or man or woman, feel free to look me up and introduce yourselves.
judging by whether or not i am able to connect with people, obviously, determines whether or not i remain as a paid member ... i expected to be having lots of inviting and intelligent conversation ... in fact i came here looking for consensual relations, to build my family and to enlighten anyone that i can as per my experience, study and perspectives ...
so then, using my subscription and taking a forward step towards meeting people, seems like a good idea to me ...
I retired from dealing with fake versions of people. I only want your authentic self, nomater how dark or deep it is. I dont expect perfect from myself or you, but I do expect real, I do expect honest.
To ones moving for a poly family, Sometimes, moving gives you the total freedom and fresh start you deserve.
Dear (Brian)