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theoneo
I hope you and your loved and beloved ones have a beautiful and memorable day. 
theoneo Feb 14 '19 · Tags: valentines
JingoFamily
As people who hope to see wholesome polygamous marriages being normalized we have a vested nterest in sites like this one and others that are less focused on the matchmaking aspect. What we have seen rather a lot of is people who are considering polygyny for what we would consider the wrong reasons. A few but certainly not all of the reasons that I would consider wrong are the couple's who simply wish to find their live in sex toy which will apparently spice up their intimate activities and cure all relationship woes, the horny husband with the grudging wife couples where she is clearly just going along to get along so to speak (lots of these woman are in the position they are in because their religious faith is being used as a lever to force them into agreeing to something they do not want) and the scammer; we have all seen the douchebag guys who will pretend to be anything that will get them at least short term sexual access to any woman, the pure scammer looking for money, the catfish who will pretend to be anything just to keep themselves entertained regardless of the emotional toll they might extract and the busybody who has decided that they know better than you what is right and moral for your family even though you are strangers. All of these will make people cautious about interactions that ideally should be perfectly safe, straightforward and wholesome. Because of the bad actors we all end up being cautious to one degree or another... I personally will council women to be quite cautious in dealings here just like on any dating site nut by the same token I tend to be cautious myself and recommend the same to other plural families. While our vulnerabilities are not the same as single women, nobody wants to get scammed, catfished or worst of all enter into a relationship that is doomed to fail because the person they fell for was approaching this lifestyle as a lark that sounds like fun for a while. Is there a solution? I wish I knew one. In a perfect world I would think that in-person mixers would be great. I like the idea of a large picnic or something of that nature. Lots of fun ideas occur to me but coordinating what amounts to a plural family convention and matchmaking festival. You would probably find me behind the bar.
JingoFamily Jan 21 '19 · Comments: 4
dwc
I am looking to starting in the polygamy lifestyle. It’s Something that I have always wanted and dreamed of. I think the bigger the family unit is the better. All members can contribute to the greater good of the family. It’s not about sex persay it’s about the family and the love that can be shared. I look forward to hearing from you.
dwc Jan 3 '19 · Comments: 1
bethandjames
my husband and i have been looking for a sister wife for a long time now our problem is that we live in central ohio and cant seem to find anyone any suggestions
bethandjames Nov 27 '18
loveandgratitude
How many people (families or singles) do you talk to at one time? At what point is it disrespectful to keep adding people? Think about it. (If anyone even reads this.) Think about yourself and also make sure to think about others! After all, we as a community are full of so much love. I need to focus my own love right now. I’ll keep you posted.
loveandgratitude Sep 22 '18 · Comments: 1
loveandgratitude
When you feel alone, you probably aren’t. When you don’t feel great about yourself, there is surely someone else who is there, too. If you have questions, remember there is indeed an answer. Also remember it may take a while to find it. Live your truth and everything will be okay.
loveandgratitude
What are red flags? Yellow flags? White? Do we create issues that aren’t even there because we are scared? Think about it. Everyone has a goal. A relationship they seek. Is it ok to go into the world blind in this lifestyle? What do people truly need to prepare? Do extended families need to know the plan? What secrets must you keep from the world in order to live a polygamist or polyamorous life? Is everyone on the same page or do some people not know their own page? What is self sabotage? I always question doubts. My own. Those of others. At what point does everyone go forward in the same direction? I agree that communication is everything. I think we all do.
loveandgratitude Sep 21 '18 · Comments: 2
loveandgratitude
Love is freedom. We are not adjusting to the confines of what other people want us to be anymore. Life is air. I am finally starting to breathe.
loveandgratitude
Do you ever talk to potential mates you really like and wonder how it really went? Do you ever think of whose “criteria” will match? I have a hard time prioritizing the list of what matters most in a relationship. Is it having things in common? Level of optimism? Lifestyle? Is it the feeling in your gut? Age? Looks? Location? Is it everything? Sometimes I get the feeling that people (including myself) focus on the minutia and not the big picture. If you really like someone, you will make a way to accommodate a new partner or partners. I mean there are only a relatively small number of “us” out there. Do we move mountains to be together or get stuck on silly details? Forever-love doesn’t come easily. I just wonder how stubborn we should be when it comes to qualities in a mate/mates. Maybe someone has the answer. I don’t. Love is a river, not a lake.
loveandgratitude
Just kidding. Blah blah blah to come! Hmmm. I would like to start a blog about the experiences of a single woman who puts herself out there for love. There are a lot of us. We are doubted my many. Those who have come before us have broken a lot of hearts. We are questioned, even often interrogated. I suppose self-doubt is normal all the way around. Can you imagine things growing organically and openly? If you can, that’s great. Really, this needs to be done with resumes. People say things like about telling them your hobbies and how they will benefit the family in order to be “considered.” I just think it sounds funny. Considered. A job. Being a sister wife or in any form of polyamory is a job. We might as well be sitting in a waiting room with our lists of recommendations. And that goes on on both sides. I can try to wish it were different, but I guess this is our reality. Let’s do it with more warmth. Easier said than done. We get pressured. Sometimes we are inundated by emails. Sometimes we have zero. That almost compounds the feeling of pressure. On ourselves to be successful in love, loneliness. It’s like ”Hey wait, I am cute. Where did everybody go? How do I prove myself? Do I need to be cuter? Have more money? Where have I gone wrong?” It’s a silly thing, but so many of us feel it. Hmmmm. Plural love. Plural marriage. I was at dinner with the in-laws (if you read my profile, you’ll see I’ve been widowed 14 years. But the in-laws are always in-laws!). They started talking about polygamists in Utah. The typical talk: Disgust over FLDS. I looked over to my 17 year old daughter (who knows all about my beliefs and my search), and I opened my eyes widely to speak to her. I shaked my head. I thought, “Will you Stop speaking about the stereotypes from tv? This is different. What will happen when I meet the right family? Will they think I am even more of a weirdo? Will they talk about the Bible and monogamy? Will I have to go further into polygamy being normal in the Bible or keep my mouth shut? Will I just present it as ‘none of your business?’ Will they be disgusted?” That’s the internal pressure. Let. Me. Breathe. Love is freedom. Allowing oneself to believe in abundance. No limits to joy. Giving oneself the freedom to just live. Just be. Be love. Sigh. I know I am a romantic. But I am indeed alone. Climbing the rungs of self knowledge to the heights of sharing lives together. Those are my thoughts of the day.
loveandgratitude Sep 13 '18 · Comments: 1
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