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VV76


I think we're hearing pretty much the same tune: you adjust to me, but don't expect me to do any adjusting.

My statement to them is that you are joining a family already in process/ progress. 
When someone comes into the theater and the movie is already started, they just need to absorb what they can and get with the flow. The movie isn’t going to stop and start over for them. 

You want to join my family? Bring a full toolbox so that you can adjust yourself to fit.



This was a conversation between a couple of my Poly male friends about potential SW’s wanting to join the family.

For those of you who are believers, or know anything about Christianity, Does Christ accept you as you are?  Of course!  Do you really want to remain in the condition you were in when He accepted you into His family?


If your answer is that you dont want Christ to change you to be more like Him every day, then I’d humbly submit that you have bigger Spiritual problems.  In my mind, that means you do not understand Christianity at its simplest form.  Our goal as believers is to be transformed into someone that He can present to His Father without spot or wrinkle.  This is just our reasonable service Romans 12:1&2


Joining a believing family is much the same idea.  As husbands, our primary job is to be able and willing to cover and shelter women who want to know and be more like Christ, and to help steward them to be more like Him, and to be fruitful and multiply, both physically and spiritually.  


Who doesnt believe that theres a better version of you just waiting and longing to emerge? Your New Years resolution just told on you! God gave the world husbands to facilitate that incredible transformation into your best you.  


Just my .02, and not every married man is a husband, just like not every married woman is a wife.


Peace, Love and all the Fuzzy Stuff!

VV76 Jul 3 '20
James1958
Been looking for a long time all I've running in to allot of head gamers & gold digger liers. 

I'm Just keeping faith she'll come our way and wants a family that can offer her lots of love and compassion.someone hung up on  in exterior looks but really seriously settling down and growing ❤ together. As a family.

Growing together spiritually as one big happy family.

LetsdoLove
Its great to see consistent new faces on this site. That means the movement is alive and well. Plural relationships are the best...simply the best. In plural relationships we get a chance to work as a team. Teamwork...true teamwork is not a strength of monogamous relationships. Looking forward to seeing plural relationships dominating the future of our world!
LetsdoLove Jun 1 '20
VV76
Not many want to metamorphosize! Even fewer realize that this path demands it!


I don’t care how ready you think you are, when someone finally comes along that actually has the potential to fit in your family it creates labor pains in every one of the parties involved.


Wives that are previously reserved but accepting of poly have to re-examine their trust in their husbands judgement and commitment to them and the family. That’s not a poly thing, that’s a people thing. For example, a wife that’s totally ok with one particular lady joining the home, may be reserved initially about a different lady or completely resistant to another.
And don’t get me started on the wives that fit the bobblehead category. When their crucible hits, Katy bar the door!



Husbands that are totally convinced that they’ve got it figured out find out that understanding theory and a commitment to being the greatest husband is just the nose under the tent flap.


Prospects that think they know exactly what they want realize (maybe) that they really have no clear idea of how to make it happen even when they’ve found the “perfect” family! It reminds me of the neighbors dog chasing cars, he wouldn’t know how to drive it if he caught it!


The point is that the metamorphosis for everyone is a litmus test of IF you can succeed at poly for life.



And butterflies aren’t made overnight. . . .

VV76 May 23 '20 · Comments: 1
Smarty41
My husband and I have spent our lives separate and together giving our all to make a difference in the world even if it’s only one person. We have a strong foundation and I will bet everything I own you would think I hit the lotto with my husband. We have been on our search for two years and we have so so many people waste our time, catfish us, and play awful games with my emotions. Our daughter followed our career path and is moving into her own place in 2 weeks and has her first meaningful job following our path. All we want is to share our love compassion and life with the right woman. Yes, SHOCKER I am Bi and have been my whole life so this is not a religious thing it’s a personal choice. I wanted to share this individual in private conversations but I slept on it and we are who we are so I see no harm in giving basics. We are looking for a perm 3rd in our marriage. I am type A high strung very dominant and no not in a bad way, he is type I don’t even know and would leave in his underwear with two different socks if I didn’t stop him. Grew up in the system and he loves purely and genuinely and wants nothing more than to give back. I am on a pedastool that no one can reach me on and I have him to thank for that. We are looking to live as one big happy family cuddles and snuggles for movie night at home, someone for me to cook with (his nickname is sparky so it’s just me and you girl lol), some to shop and do nails and toes and hair with, BUT here is the twist we will expect completely separate sexual relationships for bonding and privacy and in our experience it really helps eliminating jealously.
Can anyone relate to the struggle????
Smarty41 May 21 '20 · Tags: poly peeps read
tolvaer
Apparently, these world events are repetitive. From my parents time to ours, these seem to be speeding up up from one thing to another. All we can do is hug our love ones tighter and play with our kids.....lots and lots of sidewalk chalk really takes the edge off of things. Or if you can't do outdoor light life, Bob Ross will help in a pinch. I am getting tired of TV though.
minkoy
What is a man's estate? his wife or wife's. Why ? because the very foundation of an estate is the earth and the woman is the natural earth that produce the natural heirs of the earth estate. Without the woman there is no continuation of the estate. Now look at this closely, if we don't operate from the foundation of an estate our natural heirs, children become the property of someone else's estate by default. What am I talking about, in the natural system of the estate children are the natural production, property and labor of the estate of which become the natural heir of the estate within a constant cycle of the continuation of life. This is the family bloodline estate. Mostly supper wealthy people are known by their family name because to truly be wealthy you must function as a family unit like the Rothschilds, Dupont's etc
minkoy May 10 '20
minkoy
Family it's passed time to get our house in order. Family must operate as it's own governing body or some other governing body will by default. It is time to clan up! and rebuild our family institution. Civilization is built around commerce and the fundamental aspects of commerce is labor to develop good and perform services which is used to trade or barter. The woman is the key figure that equates to the family estate or estates because she produce the natural value of family commodities called children. Just as stocks, children are investments that has to mature in order to cash in on their labor which is a system and cycle of family enterprise that is pass down from generation to generation. If we fail to organize our children to work for us they will work for others by default and contribute to the wealth of another family estate and not truly benefit from their own labor as the heirs of their natural family estate.


Thoughts from Minko Yakaba

minkoy May 10 '20
HAPPYFLCOUPLE
Happy Victory Day for our Russian and Ukranian friends!
HAPPYFLCOUPLE May 9 '20
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