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Another month and another string of scammers.  We have a huge farmhouse, are willing to accept women with small kids, and very open about rural life on our farmstead... yet....

We try to put a lot of effort into chatting and getting to know folks to see if they are a good match.

But, the vast majority are not actually here looking to become a sisterwife.  I don't know about the couples, but I am beginning to suspect that a lot of the couples are not either- just swingers searching for the next bit of 'fun'.

The latest scammer was purportedly from Northwest Ohio.  She literally started asking for $20 within 2 hours of starting to chat.  "living with my parents and they won't feed me".  

A video chat showed the reality: she has a wedding ring, a child, and lives in an apartment.  Later she started pushing for us to send money for a bus ticket - claimed she had no ID and had to buy it so she could use the eticket - the usual scammer nonsense.

I don't bother to name names - they always change them anyways.

Speaking of which: when they are identified they don't get deleted.  And when they come back, they don't get deleted.  So, you end up with the same ones again and again.

At least there is now a 'willing to relocate' info on profiles now.  Not that folks will be honest about that either, but it does help a bit.

Some of the things that have become glaringly clear to us in the last 3 months about the women looking:

1.  Several of them are mentally disabled.  They are either low IQ, or have other significant issues and in several cases have 'caregivers' or are in treatment centers.

2.  Several are serial seekers.  They go from family to family and in many cases are already chatting up several 'next stops' for when they decide to move on.  A variety of motivations fuel these ones but I'm betting that deep down they are looking for the fairy tale and or big score.

3.  Outright scammers - send me money for a ticket, etc.

4.  Bored and lonely.  Unhappy at home, lie about living circumstances, usually grossly obese, etc.

5.  Academics - these folks are researching the lifestyle and documenting the real folks on here and their responses to 'chats' for use in research papers and/or articles.  They are fake and are 'playing the part' to draw out the 'answers' they want.

6.  Knights in Armor - looking for low hanging fruit for prosecution "I have a 17 year old daughter with me that is interested in the lifestyle too", or just disrupt a lifestyle that they KNOW is wrong.  So far, every one of these I have seen is quickly and decisively deleted by the admins (wonder why they don't do that on the others?).

Most of these can be eliminated by ID verification.  Not sure why it hasn't been implemented.  But it sure would help.

Constantly vetting the scammers gets depressing.  And is a waste of time for paying users.

Hopefully things will change...

There are fakes that the admins kick fairly quickly but then there are those that fly under the radar for a day or two.

You should start watching the signs so you don't get played or just plain disappointed. 

* Messaged you out of nowhere but never looked at your profile

* Has just created the ad today but has several new "friends" all within just a few minutes 

* Profile details don't remotely match photo. My favorite was the pale blond blue eyed native American from Nigeria 

-feel free to add other obvious signs

Stop being suckered.

If you stop being an easy mark to these leeches then maybe it will cease to be such a target. At very minimum,  you will not feel like a prize dumba** for getting played. 

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Hello everyone, I am Esther and 42. I have had a pretty awful past and I am just wanting to be prt of a family where I have the support of sister wives and my husband to be. It’s very important to know that I am organised, I like being around people and I’m always willing to help whether go to work and financially help if do other jobs that make the home life better.

Seeking a lifetime with sisterwives in a Christian household just seems impossible

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I don't care which side of the political isle you are on (at least for the purposes of this blog post), we all know the economy is boned. If you don't know that it is going to get substantially worse and that we will be living through events like our great grandparents saw if not worse, then you need to pull your head out and look around. Seriously,  you should  e doing some prepping.

I see the fact that the economy, political divides, food insecurity and all the more chance of truly significant change being forced upon the world by globalist/elites/corporatists or weird mish mashes of communist, fascists and creepy as hell transhumanists all makes people scared for the future. The uncertainty in the world seems like a decent predictor for polygamy becoming a far more palettable choice for single women and couples moving forward. Safety in numbers, economic security and a larger base of support may start to seem pretty attractive. 

I don't know about the rest of y'all but it sure looks to me (in early August of 2022) that the number of women coming to the site seeking or investigating plural marriage seems to going up significantly. 

Yeah the number of established families looking for women may well be going up as well but I am not in as much of a position to notice. Maybe the site admin will see the post and comment about if I am right about the surge in single woman and if the same applies to families. 

Won't pretend that even though I don't want the economy and the world to go to hell, that I am not happy to see more woman considering plural marriage in general terms. It is after all likely the oldest form of marriage and was the most prominent form until semi recently as the history of humans goes (genetic record tells us that there have been far more moms than dads). 

So I just joined.  I've read the blogs and looked at some profiles.  I have no idea what ghosting is but I have said a few hi s and hellos to some.  I am ready for a full polygamous relationship.  I'm too old to have children but I want the companionship of a family.  I have no jealousy I just want calm peaceful relationships with sister wives and a man who treats all fairly... It sounds ideal and I think I deserve it ?

Lol! Pale skinned blond showing tonnes of cleavage in a professional photo is apparently Native American from Nigeria and here looking for plural marriage. Yeeeeah

I am putting the odds at 50/50 as to whether the account will exist by the time I get out of my next appointment and can look again.

I am making fun of the lame nature of some of these efforts at scamming but there are so many people that get hooked by these people and get screwed over in one form or another.

So stop being so thirty and eager to get a hose job.  Be cautious and not so gullible.