An Open Letter to Men Considering Plural Marriage ( Biblical Families ) from Jojo's blog

"Man, you should be some sort of pimp!"


"I don't know how you do it. I can scarcely take great care of one!"

Those are the two sorts of reactions (other than the clear gaze) that are run of the mill when a man is 'turning out' to somebody about having a plural family. The littler gathering essentially accept that it's about the sex. The bigger gathering comprehends the duty that a Christian man has for the individuals from his family.

For the most part, in their reactions to the subject of polygamy, both men and ladies uncover something of what they consider the way of marriage and its expenses and advantages. Also, the truth of the matter is, you can't appreciate the diversion unless you concede to the tenets, and there's no reason for belligerence the relative benefits of polygamy with somebody that has a totally extraordinary esteem framework and comprehension of what marriage is than you do.

So in case you're engaging this nutty thought, be prompted that you would be advised to have your own particular esteems cleared up. A few people will acknowledge what you're doing on the grounds that they simply couldn't care less in particular, some have an "incline toward toleration" logic, and some will love you enough to at present love you notwithstanding when they think you've truly lost your brain. Yet, then again, some will believe you're odd funkily, some will believe you're irregular scarily, some will believe you're risky, and some will detest you.

All in all, our families and families we know have been tossed out of houses of worship, disregarded in their nearby groups, lost kids in care fights, had first spouses leave after it gets hard, been undermined with criminal arraignment (no feelings yet, express gratitude toward God), had developed youngsters cut us off, and in one case even had a demise risk. Not everyone, not in any case the vast majority, will despise you and attempt to hurt you. Simply enough individuals to keep it truly intriguing.

That is the awful news. The uplifting news is that this will improve you a man, a superior spouse, and a superior father. A superior sibling to other men in the collection of Christ. A more mindful adherent of the lessons of Jesus and a superior audience to the still, little voice of the Holy Spirit. In the event that you need this way of life to work—implanted in 21st century Western culture, with its open antagonistic vibe to and mistreatment of conventional parts and connections—you have no other decision.


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likethefeeling
Jan 21 '2019, 8:31 PM
The edicts of the Romans are still with us, aren't they.
Countryfam
Feb 1 '2019, 3:28 PM
Really spot on
Polypapa
May 1 '2022, 2:26 PM
Polygyny was the original form of commitment in almost every culture for over 5000 years. The Christian church (in France) effectively made monogamy law through its doctrine enacted in the early 800's, during the reign of Emperor Charlemagne. The church could no longer accept that the 'Holy Emperor' had four wives, and six concubines.Polygyny was the original form of commitment in almost every culture for over 5000 years. The Christian church (in France) effectively made monogamy law through its doctrine enacted in the early 800's...See more
Familyfocused
Jan 14 '2023, 11:27 AM
The reactions I have gotten from people I am not close to was the assumption about sex...buddy, you can have just as much sex with one wife as you can with two or twelve, there is only one of you. It is like nobody ever bothers to think it through before reacting. I was very lucky with my friends and family and the same goes for my wife's family. When we were open about plural marriage, we got nothing but support. My father was probably the most thoughtful on the topic in that his concerns were more for ensuring that good choices were made and that everyone was mutually supportive. That I would not be putting all of myself into trying to provide emotional support to additional wives if they were not going to support me in turn. I definitely understand his point but my thinking is that when you are searching for a wife whether plural or mono, that you have to do it very deliberately and intentionally. You talk to them and tell them explicitly and honestly what it is you have in mind for the future, who you are as a person...and you learn all about her as well. You find out if you genuinely could be a match or if you each should keep looking. You should absolutely Only date as an interview for life long partnership. Nobody wants a failed relationship, especially if children are involved.The reactions I have gotten from people I am not close to was the assumption about sex...buddy, you can have just as much sex with one wife as you can with two or twelve, there is only one of you. It ...See more
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