Vernons's blog

I can’t say that I’m a blog kind of guy, even though I enjoy writing from time to time, on my own behalf. This is an interesting way to give a little more context into what brought my wife and I into the understanding of this family structure (biblical polygyny).
What a weird thing to ever consider, I thought, coming from a traditional background that ostracizes those who didn’t adhere to the one wife for life normalcy bias.  But, for years this tug in my heart has persistently grown. Not being the kind of man that bends easily to the will of others, or impulsive, and understanding that I’m also not perfect in any way… I had doubts about moving in this direction. I’m a man who places my relationship with Jesus first, and if this was the direction He wants me to lead our family, I’m more than willing to devote myself to it.
While reading scripture and pondering the biblical applications of a moral relationship with several women within one household… I found this family structure to be fitting, but only to those who understand the responsibilities and devotion they require of a man. I asked the Lord, “If there is one thing in scripture contrary to this marital structure of wives, I will not continue this path but maintain the life-long commitment to my wife and our children, only.” Needless to say, I haven’t… My family knows that I’m an honorable man, and once I chose this path, my wife, children, mother and father are just as eager to see where this leads our family as I am.
What I’ve taken from my studies is, men are given three options when it comes to companionship with the opposite sex. One, celibacy… never taking a wife and maintain only the relationship he has with God. Two, monogamy… an unbreakable bond before God to one woman, after Christ. Three, polygyny… the unbreakable bond before God to several women, after Christ. Each choice is measured by the abilities and gifts of the man to endure, provide and the ability to maintain his relationship with God. Simply put, a humbled man in right standing with God understands his weakness or his strength in carrying the burden of wives, and choses his path to walk. And burden, isn’t to say that a woman is a burden, a Godly woman is as close as a man can get to the nature of God Himself on earth, but she is a responsibility of the husband to hold her and his family up and comfort them in a brutal world… to lay his life down as Christ did for the Church. Outside of Christ… this family structure will always succumb to the world.