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LifeInCostaRica
LifeInCostaRica Oct 11 '17
It doesn't matter what you do or where you are in the world, you WILL find corrupt people who will try to con you, trick you, or use you for one reason or another.Usually money is the root of the issue.

I'm curious...

Question #1: How many of YOU (couples) (single males) have been approached by FAKE women? Or you THINK you are communicating with someone who you THINK is a FAKE profile?


Question #2: What do you do or HOW do you protect yourself from the SCAMMERS who read your profile and pretend to be EXACTLY what you want...only in the end to ask for that Plane Ticket Money...and has wasted all your time.???

This has happened to me and....I think it happens on EVERY dating site, andmy HAT is OFF to the admin of this site who will investigate and remove people they think is a FAKE.



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robynk
robynk Oct 11 '17
Thanks, and if anyone is having an issue with this please reach out to us. This site like many others ask for help from our members it is only as good as you make it. If you are having problems please let us know with 100% certainty we will Suspend, Block and Ban anyone doing this. Please I know you are all eager to find your matches, But please remember do not send money to anyone, I understand wanting to help, If you want to offer money for tickets, Call it a "reimbursement" and if you choose to give this give it after they arrive. Think about it, If someone can not afford a ticket what are they bringing to a relationship? Again we are here for you all, we talk to many of our members and know almost all of them, there are new members that join daily and sometimes it takes a bit to be in communication with everyone, But if anyone sees or feels something isn't right let us know so we can look into things. Yes people are good and someone looking to scam they can get very good, But if we don't know we cant help. We are here for you all with any questions or issues, feel free to message us and we will get back to you as soon as possible. Happy searching and we wish everyone the best of luck on finding their match.
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TexasJD
TexasJD Oct 12 '17
Wow. I havent had that happen here. I've had it happen on other sites. Most of the time its easy to spot them though.
robynk
robynk Oct 12 '17
I don't hear of it happening here often we run a pretty tight approval process, sometimes they do get through but if you ever see this or feel something off just let us know so we can look into it.
The Forum post is edited by robynk Oct 12 '17
LifeInCostaRica
LifeInCostaRica Oct 12 '17
@TexasJD

I agree or I believe it MIGHT not happen much on this site...we hope. But what are those signs? What are those things from your opinion that makes it EASY to spot a FAKE.

Maybe with you, me and others involved we can make a collection of SIGNS that will help everyone involved spot FAKE people, FAKE profiles and make this site a better place to be.

Thanks for your input.
robynk
robynk Oct 12 '17
I would say first off anyone asking for money and looking for a match should be in a much better position, I know people go through hard times but one thing to ask yourself is do you want to take on an financial burden of paying for everything? We have quite a number of people that have matched here and are still going strong it makes us proud that we can see it happen, From the beginning, I could also suggest that younger members, under 25 if their family doesn't know of their lifestyle is a pretty big flag, Mostly because they are afraid of what their family will think of their lifestyle and ultimately in the end it doesn't work,
TexasJD
TexasJD Oct 13 '17
Well some major flags should be half assed profiles. To me nothing says fake stronger than a profile with like one picture and limited info. Big red flag there.

I do disagree with the family not knowing though. My family doesnt know neither do the need to know. But thats me. Me and my family arent on the best of terms. Happens when you do something which they consider satanic like become a pagan.
robynk
robynk Oct 13 '17
When a family doesn't know that has always been the biggest drawback. Yes there are people who aren't close to their families and it's usually understandable as to why in those cases. As far as profiles there are many people here that have high profile jobs a d security reasons as to why no photos. Anyone you ask without a photo should be ready to send one in private.
STARTINGMYOWN2018
STARTINGMYOWN2018 Oct 17 '17
So here's what happened to me......
There was never any money asked for nor offered so that wasn't our issue. I just feel like I was robbed of my time & emotions. Why seriously take the time to get to know someone if you don't really want to be with them?
     **Question is how do you know if someone is just wasting your time & not really serious in adding you to the family but only playing with your emotions & just stringing you along for as long as you'll ride?
LifeInCostaRica
LifeInCostaRica Oct 17 '17
@STARTINGMYOWN2018 Thanks for your input...I think wasting your time is nearly as bad, but I think the objective from those type in my opinion is to string you along for so long...you eventually ask them to join your family and THAT is when they ask for the money. The plane ticket and then they never come. However, I don't know if that was your case.


Here is what I'm learning. Before I spend too much time...(less than a week talking)...I ask to get on a video chat. I've NEVER had anyone who I thought was a FAKE person agree to get on a video chat. That is usually when the talks end real quick.





countryfamily08
countryfamily08 Oct 19 '17
@startingmyown2018....YES!!! You nailed it on the head! Time and emotions are more personal then money and it seems most that's their new game.



TexasJD
TexasJD Oct 19 '17
Quote from robynk When a family doesn't know that has always been the biggest drawback. Yes there are people who aren't close to their families and it's usually understandable as to why in those cases. As far as profiles there are many people here that have high profile jobs a d security reasons as to why no photos. Anyone you ask without a photo should be ready to send one in private.
Yeah, I hear that nonsense with a lot of dating sites. They dont have photos because of their jobs. In like 95% sure no one thinks of this site when thinking of dating sites. Which is a good thing. The 5% of is that do... Well it's because we are interested in polygamy.
TexasJD
TexasJD Oct 19 '17
Quote from STARTINGMYOWN2018 So here's what happened to me......
There was never any money asked for nor offered so that wasn't our issue. I just feel like I was robbed of my time & emotions. Why seriously take the time to get to know someone if you don't really want to be with them?
     **Question is how do you know if someone is just wasting your time & not really serious in adding you to the family but only playing with your emotions & just stringing you along for as long as you'll ride?
That's true for monogamous relationships too. You just have to get a feel for the person. Talk on the phone as much as possible. Again, sadly, this happens more often that we would like to admit.
TexasJD
TexasJD Oct 19 '17
Quote from LifeInCostaRica @STARTINGMYOWN2018 Thanks for your input...I think wasting your time is nearly as bad, but I think the objective from those type in my opinion is to string you along for so long...you eventually ask them to join your family and THAT is when they ask for the money. The plane ticket and then they never come. However, I don't know if that was your case.


Here is what I'm learning. Before I spend too much time...(less than a week talking)...I ask to get on a video chat. I've NEVER had anyone who I thought was a FAKE person agree to get on a video chat. That is usually when the talks end real quick.





Very true. If and when its possible. I am talking to a member here, an absolutely wonderful girl from another country. I have yet to video chat with her but we have used Google duo to have hours long phone conversations. Its not always easy. For instance I work 12 hour days 6 days a week and rotate from 0800-2000 to 2000-0800 every Monday. My only day off is Sunday and thats the day I try to get everything I need to get done... well done. So its difficult for me to video chat this truly amazing girl because 1 I work a ton of hours. And 2 she lives in northern Europe and is like 8 hours ahead of me. Which makes it more difficult to talk because when I can video chat she is at work and vice versa.
However for those with normal lives and talking to someone only a couple states away. That by far will be the best way to weed out the phonies.
sdcouple
sdcouple Nov 9 '17
We think there are "bots" on this site. We received an email from a lady but because we were not a paying member we couldn't respond. So we became a paying member and wrote this lady back. You guessed it...we haven't heard a peep. We'll see if things get better - hope so.
robynk
robynk Nov 9 '17
Id just like to pint out that there are about 3x the couples then singles, Most women that join the site are bombarded with messages many times over 100 at a time. We check out our members here if you ever suspect anyone on here as being a fake please message us so we can look into this issue. There are usually very few and once we get them they are removed and blocked. If everyone contributed to making this site as good as we do it would be beneficial to everyone here looking to build their families. You also have to give it time and sometimes these types of relationships take time and work. 
LifeInCostaRica
LifeInCostaRica Nov 15 '17
Yes...Rich16Liz,  I agree, it does feel that way.  I know a lot of dating sites start out with lots of FAKE Profile in order to lure people and then the hope is that they get enough REAL PEOPLE that they delete or get rid of the FAKEs that they have created themselves.

I hope this is NOT the case here...but it sure feels like you are correct in this assumption.
robynk
robynk Nov 15 '17
I dont know what else to say we have been over this topic for quite a while now, Sisterwives is much different than most all dating sites we do not have bot profiles here where many others do.  If you are having an issue with a female please let us know so we can look into it. Every female that joins this site is checked on  in multiple places, Including if there is any suspicions Identification is asked for and checked, We stay on top of our members to make sure everyone is real. There are cases in a rare instance where 1 may slip through but we usually catch them and remove them. You have to remember when women sign up a lot of them get overwhelmed with messages, There are about 3 times the couples to the singles which we are working hard to change. Sisterwives is only as good as you make it, If you feel like someone here  is fake let us know and we will look further into it and get back with you, You can email us any time. 
countryfamily08
countryfamily08 Nov 15 '17


Quote from robynk I dont know what else to say we have been over this topic for quite a while now, Sisterwives is much different than most all dating sites we do not have bot profiles here where many others do.  If you are having an issue with a female please let us know so we can look into it. Every female that joins this site is checked on  in multiple places, Including if there is any suspicions Identification is asked for and checked, We stay on top of our members to make sure everyone is real. There are cases in a rare instance where 1 may slip through but we usually catch them and remove them. You have to remember when women sign up a lot of them get overwhelmed with messages, There are about 3 times the couples to the singles which we are working hard to change. Sisterwives is only as good as you make it, If you feel like someone here  is fake let us know and we will look further into it and get back with you, You can email us any time. 

I can attest to this post. We have contacted Admin on here Numerous times in regards to 'fake' profiles, issues with users, and other random things. They are very quick to check out the issues, and to correct them, or to delete the fake/scammer, etc. We even had one issue where someone was defaming our character, and that was so quickly dealt with that we didn't even know, or see what had been written only heard thru other users who were kind enough to give us a heads up. Robyn has been very good with getting profiles checked out...and suspending or deleting them if they are fakes, scammers, or have inappropriate content. If you suspect that someone is fake, send admin an email with the users name, or link to their page and they will get it checked out. YOU are the only one who can bring certain issues to view. And keep in mind...as stated many many times, the ratio of couples, and single men, to single women searching is staggering! If you don't believe me, do a search for yourself, count couples, single males, and then compare to the amount of single women profiles you see...and only compare the ones who are active at least in the past 3 days. Its literally 100-1. Those odds would scare me, and i don't scare easily. lol So when attempting to communicate with a new single lady user, be considerate of the fact that they are probably getting a message a minute, and if they reply, awesome, don't write them off if they don't reply back, maybe something scared them away, or in the case of one lady, she ended up having some serious problems that hindered her search for about a year, she was accused of being a fake, only to have it come to the fact that she isn't on here anymore cause the people accusing her refused to believe her when she had proof. there are a few who are only here to scam, or play games, but i do know there are those who are serious, just not given a chance do to fear of fakes. 

Don't short change the admin either, they are doing the best they can, but are only human, and don't interact with the users like we do, we MUST be proactive in reporting and bringing things up if we have any questions. It takes everyone to make this site different.



robynk
robynk Nov 16 '17
Thanks CountryFamily08 for your post, It surprises me sometimes lol Because I read comments and we stay extremely active on here and with our members, We try to get things done as quickly as possible if there are complaints, as you know. And your right I say it all the time if anyone suspects something is going on to let us know as you have and we appreciate that. On another note If the admin was putting out bots I would imagine there would be a whole lot more single females online. The numbers are growing and we are seeing more ladies come in but the ratio is still pretty high which I would suspect in this type of world, things are looking up at more coming but at the same time it will also bring more couples. We do our best and as I always say the site is as good as its members, If you help us we can help you. I hope everyone has a fabulous day and a great weekend and again if anyone has any issues please let the admin know. 
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