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DakotaRT
DakotaRT Oct 22 '18
Thank you for sharing. 
Quote from wolfc

I am a single female on this site and have been on this site for a few years off and on in my search for a couple or man willing to build a family with me (Since about early 2017). You would be surprised to learn that there are just as many bad “couples” and “men” as there are Fake “Female” profiles. I have sold and bought cars for a family, challenged my personal friends and biological family with this lifestyle, lost friends, lost family, moved in with a couple, quit jobs/found new jobs, broken leases, and even almost bought a house with a “couple” who I thought was 100% committed to me. 


As a potential sister wife, I have never once asked for money. I have travelled great distances on my own dime and even gone as far as taking out a credit card to pay for traveling costs. There is no rule book sold on Amazon, sister wife column in the local newspaper, or accepted social media platform dedicated to helping people interested in polygamy connect to one another (Trust me I have tried to find one). In my search, this website is profoundly the best platform I have ever come across. My advice to couples (as a single female with a bit of experience dating polygamous couples/men) is as follows: 


1). When you first message a single female, write a long 250+ word message saying what you liked about their profile, describe yourself and family a little bit, and tell her what you are looking for. Try and throw a joke in your message and keep it light hearted. Your lady wants to know that you read her profile and that you are a serious and real person too!


2). Make your message(s) presentable. Do NOT use “slang” or texting abbreviations. Use proper grammar and treat her like you would treat your best female friend…. (ahem) or wife. Be proper. Be a gentleman, but also casual. Try and think, “dressy casual” language. Note: Give her three days to respond. If she does not, move on. ***But Do NOT send her a “why didn’t you message me back?/do you not like me?/I guess you aren’t interested message!!!!!”*** This is so very passive aggressive and leaves us women feeling horrible that we didn’t respond and makes you or your wife look BAD. Again do not do it… move on.


3). After you have developed a dialogue, let her give you her phone number or let her ask for yours. If she does not ask or give hers, she is not interested…move on. Once you get that elusive phone number, communicate for a day or two over text message-try and send pictures to one another. This helps you flesh out who is real and who is not the quickest. If they have multiple pictures (They should send you past and current ones) you can tell if some is genuine or not! Note: Make sure the pictures you send are not just professional head shots. We want to see you are real too! So, send that hilarious photo or the one where your wife thinks you look adorable. Also, most of you men are much older than the women on this site, so please try and be adept at using social media. Take a current selfie while you are talking to her. It should not matter if you are on a bus, or at work, or even lounging on the couch. Send her a current one (text her with a, “I just took this!” text message) and I bet you 100% if she is real, she will send you one (just as current) back!


4). Then (after a day or two of texting) ask to FaceTime or Skype or video chat over Facebook (and I think even Gmail has a way as well). This day and age it is so easy to video chat. There is no excuse good enough to not spend 5 minutes on a video chat after a day or two of talking. If she video chats she is real and interested. If she offers to call you, but not video chat… call her and talk to her. She may just be cautious, but if she does not video chat in five days (feels comfortable enough to show her face to you over video and vice versa) … move on. There is something wrong with her or she feels there is something wrong with you. Not worth the trouble, find someone else.


Note: This is how you can flesh out who is real and who is not. Aka... if there is a fake profile/sister-wife on this website. 


Beyond the above advice, it is up to you and your gut instincts about a female/male/couple. For those who have lost money/time/emotions, I have too. It is not fun, and you feel used. I get it. But then did you think afterwards, “I had this {bad} feeling, but ignored it?” If you did, you did not trust your instincts. So, trust your gut. It is what I do.


Noblequest
Noblequest Jan 22 '19

On a now defunct site we would get periodic scammers attempting their silly games but as others have mentioned , they are generally easier to spot. 

We have only become paying members recently so we have only had one overt scammer so far but it was hilarious. The person claimed to be an American Army general stationed in Germany who was coming back soon and looking for love. It was full on Nigerian Prince level of lame and unbelievable and that just made it all the funnier.

On a personal level I am less worried about the overt scammer than I am the catfisher and the game players...the people who have no intent to ever meet you much less take the interactions you have had seriously and that certainly includes the marriage and happily ever after routine. Someone earlier in the thread mentioned the money they were out because of someone like this and while that does 100% suck, we really dislike the idea more from the point of view of having ones emotional guts ripped out. 

I would far rather never know them at all than to make the mistake of falling for a woman that does not truly exist. Coming to love someone and wishing to spend your life with them and then being ghosted or finding out they were not who or what they claimed is at least a little akin to that person having died to an extent. Meaning the person you thought you loved...the character that they were presenting to you who it turns out is either gone or was nothing more than a play act.


MojoJojo
MojoJojo Apr 8 '19

Your going to get that on pretty much every site, trust me, what burns my ass the most is the fake bots on sites, so they can fake spam members messages so that the member will sub to the site to read a potential message from someone only to find out they paid a months sub to read total "BS" message from a spam bot...

Another thing to EVERYONE, do a reverse image search...

But as for the "scam, spam and fakes" on this site, i have had a few...

It's just going to be a part of every site... Even the one or two messages and POOF, nothing people...

TheServantofGod
TheServantofGod May 17 '19
I've been seeking for sometime and 99% of all women I've talked to are fake or lies, but also I'm very Religious and require that they follow G-ds Laws. You can read on my profile post for more information.
littlebitofnc
littlebitofnc Jul 1 '19
I'm not sure the 1 photo and limited information thing should be considered as someone having a fake profile.  The majority of the couple profiles on this site only have 1 photo and very limited information.  Most profiles also don't even load their profile photo into an album so that it can actually be seen well.  I find myself having to enlarge my screen all the time just to half way be able to see the profile photo.  
Personally, I would love to see all the profiles of those who are really serious about inviting someone into their family to have an album with a photo of everyone in the family.  Some wives have profiles with no photos of the husband.  The single females shouldn't be expected to go on blind faith if the couples are expecting the single females to have photos or multiple photos as proof they are real people.  Food for thought.....fairness goes both ways.
Quote from TexasJD Well some major flags should be half assed profiles. To me nothing says fake stronger than a profile with like one picture and limited info. Big red flag there.
I do disagree with the family not knowing though. My family doesnt know neither do the need to know. But thats me. Me and my family arent on the best of terms. Happens when you do something which they consider satanic like become a pagan.


Noblequest
Noblequest Jul 4 '19
I think one of the reasons a lot of families who are seeking don't have an album of photos showing who they are and a snapshot of what life is like in their family and home is just simple security. While the world has shifted a lot, this is still to an extent something of a taboo lifestyle as silly as the notion is... cause having more than just two parents to care for, educate and love children is apparently a totally loony idea... some companies and government busybody types will take it upon themselves to ruin your life if they do not approve of how you are living it. Or on other sites we have seen people who will doxx couples because they have just such a visceral disapproval of polygyny. So, while if our family were actively seeking another sisterwife I might very well like to share with potential partners an album of photos and loads of details about our lives etc... up to and including the fact that if she were ready to jump aboard our train that a big ugly ape like me would be driving it as full disclosure is in fact a positive, but I just don't see it as realistic or practical. It is a significant risk and the only way I see that one can minimize the risk (until polygamy is hopefully legalized or at least normalized) is a slow process of getting to know each other individually and maintaining a thick skin about the fact that there will be disappointments. 

Once polygamy can be out in the open, on a personal level I would like to see big gatherings of polygamous famies as well as singles and the curious in large weekend picnic/festival/carnival/symposium like scenarios. A place where we could all network and form community bonds even if they be with families from states away. There could be the opportunity for single women to meet and interact with families to determine if in fact this lifestyle is for them on a more personal level than just watching squirrelly reality tv shows. Perhaps talks on budgeting for very large families, homeschooling and head to head debates featuring the multiple house vs one large house factions. I could go on about this theme for some time. Till that is practicable in public without repercussions though, I think we are all stuck with fumbling in the dark as it were.

vegemite
vegemite Oct 16 '19
The Five Best Things About a Fake Sister Wife (FSW)


1. Use up your frequent flyer points before they expire:  too busy to travel?  points about to expire?  your salvation is at hand.  As luck has it, your FSW is a little short on cash right now but will pay you back as soon as she finishes hugging you tight at the airport.  Book her that flight now and use up those soon to expire points.


2. Obtain value from your health insurance: never really used medical services before?  tired of paying premiums for health insurance and seeing little in return?  blood tests show a lack of trust, right? don't worry, its payback time.  thanks to your hasty embrace of a FSW, you will be able to finally draw down from the community health resources in full...with interest.


3. Slow down time: ever felt that life is rushing by?  relax, life is about to take a slower pace, as you wait for your FSW to get back to you after you transferred those funds. By the way, how did the CT scan go for her uncle?


4. Engage with foreign cultures: never knew much about Ghana before, but always had a deep interest in Africa?  Its practically missionary work.  MWB, you might say.


5. Meet a Model: forget about plain janes or the girl next door, your FSW is hot to trot.  She looks as good as a model.  In fact she is a model.  But strangely reminiscent of someone you have seen before.  Wow, I never realised so many models were into polygamy.  My eyes have been opened.


Thank you, fake sister wives.

littlebitofnc
littlebitofnc Nov 13 '19

TexasJD, I'm not sure that we can go by the number of photos and profiles on this site as 90% or more of the couples on this site only have 1 photo on their profile and have written very little on their profiles.


Everyone should have at least 1 photo of each person in their dynamic in an album on their profile.  Those profile photos can't be zoomed in on to be of much real use.


Another thing that I totally dislike about this site and photos is that there is no option to keep your profile from being shown to the public.  That's why I changed my profile photo.  Jobs fire people these days for such because it "reflects poorly on the company image", even though it's really none of their business.


Quote from TexasJD

Well some major flags should be half assed profiles. To me nothing says fake stronger than a profile with like one picture and limited info. Big red flag there.

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