When I saw the tents posted by #vegemite I remembered a drawing I made, all the way back in 2012, after watching an episode of Sister Wives. Maybe someone here will find it useful, or at least enjoy thinking about it :-)
When I saw the tents posted by #vegemite I remembered a drawing I made, all the way back in 2012, after watching an episode of Sister Wives. Maybe someone here will find it useful, or at least enjoy thinking about it :-)I'm in love! For real attached private wings with a central communal area is my favourite poly arranged accommodation. I think it serves both those introverts who like their private space and extroverts who want to be in the thick of things. It means there is a central area which no one claims is theirs alone, so there is non of this 'feeling like you are a guest in someone else's home' when you want to eat or talk together. My desire would be for regular meetings to discuss family things or just touch base, regular movie/games nights and regular dinners. This is best facilitated in a communal area and less stressful too. Thanks for that drawing.
Yeah the big house with room for each wife to have a suite of some kind would still be great but now I tend to think that making sure whatever house you have, be it grand or humbe, is on enough land to support your family.
I find myself thinking more about fencing, cross fencing, rabbit hutches, chicken tractors (if you don't know what it is, look it up as they are a cool concept), mob grazing, carrying capacity per acre and water access more than a fancy house. A man's first concern should be to make sure that his wives and children can be fed and have a roof over their heads. The world is going squirrelly and it shifts ones priorities quite a bit.
After having not been off the site for a while and the world changing a lot, my vision of what the perfect circumstances would be for a plural family.The world going squirrelly matches my thoughts exactly. I want a large timber frame house (think large log cabin but nicer). Each adult gets their own bedroom/bathroom with a large common area in the center of the home for kitchen dinning and living space. The second floor is all bedroom/bathrooms around the outside with inside a walkway with bannister and open to the center of the home.Yeah the big house with room for each wife to have a suite of some kind would still be great but now I tend to think that making sure whatever house you have, be it grand or humbe, is on enough land to support your family.
I find myself thinking more about fencing, cross fencing, rabbit hutches, chicken tractors (if you don't know what it is, look it up as they are a cool concept), mob grazing, carrying capacity per acre and water access more than a fancy house. A man's first concern should be to make sure that his wives and children can be fed and have a roof over their heads. The world is going squirrelly and it shifts ones priorities quite a bit.
I also want guinea hens (they eat ticks), turkeys (bigger eggs), goats, pigs, and some sheep. Of course we will need a couple of livestock protection dogs (Great Pyrenees) and a couple of herding dogs. A large garden to feed a large family. I am looking at about 100 acres timber lots in KY and WV right now. Will be buying soon. I could sure use the help of a 2 or 3 women who this type of life would appeal to.
When I chose my existing house it was because there were two wives in the family and we had a need for two master bedrooms and two living rooms.
I can see your point about being seen by others...or at least I believe I interpret your point correctly in that you wish to demonstrate that plural families are normal. That there are no weird issues to be had here...look at us, it is normal save for the number sor of thing.
Having lived it, I can tell you that almost nobody notices. A surprising amount of not noticing or caring goes on I am happy to report. Even my ex wife's obgyn doc when she of necessity was told just smiled and said that it was nice to meet others doing the same...ie she was in a plural marriage. Pleasant surprise.
But, I am guessing you are right on a day to day bases things just blend in, once things get off the ground. From my experience though, there is a steep learning curve to try and fit in once things start. There is a lot of adjusting that has to happen. And some people out side of a starting family face many pitfalls, internally and externally. I think once others can see that its pretty normal, then some of those pitfalls may be eliminated, and then families can go through the normal relationship building any other relationship has to go through.
I wonder how many other families would come out of the woodwork if it was know that plural families are ok.
Oh, and I have a strong faith in the true Christian belief that is based on a relationship with God instead of the manmade Christian religion that tries to judge other peoples lives. These are two different things. But these things are probably to involved for discussions here.
Anyway, I understand why you had to keep low.
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Huge and private space for everyone
Aiming at some acreage for as close as we can manage to self sufficient homesteading sort of a thing but with enough extra room to have extra homes as well as infrastructure buildings for the running of the farm/ranch functions.
The extra houses for elder relatives potentially as well as as kids get old enough to want some additional space, they could still be close by if they like. Ideally enough acreage to allow kids to build their own larger homes later and space for building their own family.
Getting to be a tougher proposition. The prices in Texas have spiked and don't seem like they will be coming down again. Searching every day for that place with potential though.