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robynk


A lingering question why can we not live in a polygamous relationship? Believing in the true meaning of love, who has the right to decide whom or how many people that is and what it looks like. There are all types of relationships in the world, monogamous, open relationships, homosexual relationships, transgendered, Gay, bisexual, straight, Etc. So why as a consenting adult is this allowed and accepted and not Polygamy?


I am free to choose whom to love and marry, Regardless of if it offends anyone because it is not the norm. If you remember correctly people in the LGBT culture back into the 80’s since that is as far back as I can remember, were not out in the open. Homosexual people were looked at as wrong, bad, weird and all other sorts of things.


Being in a LGBT relationship is finally accepted into our society, but not without a huge struggle to get there. Surely, there are still struggles with values that families hold at times, the judgement of others that do not agree with their lifestyle and many many other things. Nevertheless, they are free, free to be out in the open, free to love whom they choose, free to not hide and free to live their lives and there is nothing wrong with that.


So why is being in a polygamous relationship against everyone? Being Poly is not anything different than above, yet polygamists hide, shelter themselves, their children for fear of prosecution, Losing their children, careers, homes, friends, family. Why because others see it is wrong, disgusting, cheating, against the grain of what our society deems “normal”. Being in a committed relationship with one or multiple people is not wrong in any way if everyone is on the same page.


If everyone in the specific relationship, agrees and is ok with bringing in another partner weather male or female what is wrong with that? When a person is in a sound mind, not under the influence of a substance, and clear in the decision chosen he/she should be free to make that choice. Whos right is it to tell you that you cannot have that. Why is it up to the “system” to say no it is against the law, and you can be prosecuted, why when you are a legal abiding citizen this is the risk because of who you love?


The term Polygamy in itself is not all a bed of roses; there are a few things in my opinion that are a problem. The compounds/sects with multiple FLDS members, who follow some of the “profits” that are marrying off young minor children. The abuse that takes place in those situations is not ok, that is not Polygamy it is abuse and extremely wrong on every level.
Polygamy is a choice or a calling for many and as an individual you need to make that choice for yourself by being of legal age to do so, Polygamy should never be forced on anyone due to religion or beliefs. This should be on the individual making that sound choice.


Any polygamist family who has multiple partners and children because let us be honest many families in this world have quite a number of children, which is great if you can afford them. Applying for Governmental assistance as a poly family is not something that should be taking place.
As a family, decisions such as these need to be discussed as a group before having multiple children; if you cannot afford 10-20 children, you should not be having them. Adding children should be discussion in which every adult member is comfortable. These are two of the biggest issues I feel need to be addressed in polygamy.


However, many blessings come along with living in a plural marriage/commitment, multiple people for household duties, Lots of laughs, Commitment, Child rearing, and additional income for necessities. Being in a plural relationship can be a very magical thing. On the other side, if something devastating happened in the family and there was a death, there would be more than one parent that truly cares and loves each other to raise the children as a team. Having a best girlfriend an additional spouse that you are able to share your, thoughts, feelings, family, children and spouse with does work for many families.


When will it be that Polygamy is accepted as a personal choice? What is it that needs to take place, rallies, protests, and appeals to senators? Remember what the LGBT had to go through, maybe in the coming days, months, and years polygamy will be viewed as a choice, a free choice. As law abiding, tax paying, working citizen’s polygamists deserve the right to be happy, fulfilled, out of hiding, and free to make this choice. If you are looking for a Family or a female to join your family, or are just starting out visit sisterwives.com there are many wonderful people there. Sisterwives.com is a great place for community support, knowledge, a great platform for friendship and your potential forever family.

 

robynk Jun 15 '17 · Tags: polygamy
KelsonFamily
Dual monogamy comes in a couple of well-known forms. First up there’s the monogamous marriage and the other one in the affair. Then there’s the dual monogamy so frequently misunderstood as polygyny. Both these have incredible similarities and I’m certain my adult audience can use this brief blog post to launch into a more comprehensive list. Dual monogamy in the affair scenario is when the husband has two (or even more) women in his life but they are completely separate and the mistress cares for herself (mostly) and has him to herself on a very limited basis. Dual monogamy in the mind of many considering the polygyny marriage choice is where the second wife comes in with a list of demands which demonstrates more that she wants a good man on her terms other than a woman looking to “join a family”. The man sees polygyny as a means of having other women but not included within his family structure. Frequently the new wife’s demands include absolute equal sharing of the husband in her separate living quarters. Often eager husbands, who want another woman, will agree to this. This is not joining a family, this is finding a man/woman perhaps one moral step up from having an affair. Dual living quarters and completely separated lives despite the fact of the common husband is dual monogamy. This arrangement will destroy the husband, I speak from experience; this will drive him crazy let alone drain his bank accounts. Husbands who agree to this will have lots of trouble in the flesh. Folks, our view is that polygyny is family in marriage, not convenient arrangements to have a good man or another woman without respect to the other family members. Polygyny must not destroy but build up and make more wonderful. Polygyny is not satellite monogamy with minimal connection to the “other” wife and his family. If you are considering polygyny you are considering joining a family. The items I’d like on top of the polygyny consideration list are these; What does joining a family really mean? Do I really want to join a family or have a man on my terms? (Joining a family means just that, coming in and participating in the family from breakfast to supper, every day, not just on “my day”, or worse still, in my living quarters). What can I bring to the existing wife or wives and any children he might have? How can I enrich his life as a good father and husband? What will this marriage/family structure demand I give up and am I willing to give anything up? Polygyny is not a series of deal breakers but seal makers. What is it about having equally divided time that removes the husband’s right to initiate intimacy or to be with the one on his mind? Granting him the right to have her on your day is not giving him the spiritual headship in his family, in fact, quite the opposite. Would I demand equal “sharing” of the husband if monogamy was in view? (That is, would I list the days I would be available to him and demand equal time with his golfing buddies or work demands?). What does taking another wife really mean? Do I really want to expand my family or have another woman on my terms? (Expanding the family does not mean taking more time away from it to cater for the new wife and her whims). What can me and my family offer another lady? How can I enrich the new wife’s life while at the same time continue to enrich my existing family members? How can I avoid diminishing my love for my first wife? What will polygyny demand I give up? Do I have the strength and commitment to make this work? How can I love and reassure all my wives constantly and not fall into the divided equal time sharing disaster. How do I lead when both are making contrary demands? Do I have quality leadership skills? Is my first marriage strong? If not polygyny will destroy it. I’m praying these points help everyone as they consider this incredibly enriching marriage option. We thank God every day that He brought us together. Brian from the Kelson Family
KelsonFamily Jan 6 '17 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 4 · Tags: polygamy, polygyny, dual monogamy, divided time
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