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Not many want to metamorphosize! Even fewer realize that this path demands it!

I don’t care how ready you think you are, when someone finally comes along that actually has the potential to fit in your family it creates labor pains in every one of the parties involved.

Wives that are previously reserved but accepting of poly have to re-examine their trust in their husbands judgement and commitment to them and the family. That’s not a poly thing, that’s a people thing. For example, a wife that’s totally ok with one particular lady joining the home, may be reserved initially about a different lady or completely resistant to another.
And don’t get me started on the wives that fit the bobblehead category. When their crucible hits, Katy bar the door!

Husbands that are totally convinced that they’ve got it figured out find out that understanding theory and a commitment to being the greatest husband is just the nose under the tent flap.

Prospects that think they know exactly what they want realize (maybe) that they really have no clear idea of how to make it happen even when they’ve found the “perfect” family! It reminds me of the neighbors dog chasing cars, he wouldn’t know how to drive it if he caught it!

The point is that the metamorphosis for everyone is a litmus test of IF you can succeed at poly for life.

And butterflies aren’t made overnight. . . .

When I started studying poly 3 or so years ago, I had no idea that it would be as involved as it was or make so many changes in my life and christian walk.

One of the massive changes in my family’s life was that we were unwelcome in a church that we loved, and were actively participants in, and I had a large role teaching adults in.

We were summarily given the left foot of fellowship, simply because I had been studying this “taboo” topic, and had concluded in favor of it.  Not because we were looking for another wife or anything like that.  Simply studying it and accepting it as a theoretically, Biblically acceptable family structure was enough for people I’d considered friends for over a decade to do a Jekyl/Hyde transformation.  Only one person actually tried to look at the Bible with me over it and that was not the Pastor or Deacons.

My point with all of this, is that most of the time, for single Christian women who are hoping to marry into a family with a God fearing christian man, the possibility of continuing to be an active member of a church while being a plural wife is a very slim to none possibility.  At least if you are public about it in the very least.  

There are definitely alternative solutions to this issue, many home assemblies are ok with it, and many christian men who are poly for biblical reasons are a cut above most Corporate Christianity nodders, and should be more than capable of leading you into a closer walk with the Saviour.

Don’t let this discourage you from your search, just understand that there are more life changes to this than sharing a great man!

I am not looking to be 'added' to someone's life, I am not an extra or a thing.  I am a person, I have a life and family, I want a connection, I want a blending and joining together.  You will be brought into MY family just as much as I am brought into yours.

I am not an addition. 

Please be aware of the language you use, you are objectifying us and you don't even know it.

xx

We hope that everyone is staying safe with this virus that is going around, especially those in the most infected areas.  we are doing good and my wife tested negative for her test and we are waiting for my results to come in..  Once again we hope that everyone is staying extremely safe.

Hello I would like to introduce myself my name is Monique and I am brand new to the site I have been thinking about this for a while after I got divorced five years ago because lately I’ve been kind of the second will in a relationship so why keep such a gem a secret when she can be out in the open.

Well I’m back at this site again I had a really bad experience on here back in October but I promised my self I wouldn’t let her take me out of the game ... I saw she is back on here .. and I’m not going to let her bring me down ... also I am here to let people know watch ur back and everything u have she isn’t here for a relationship she is here to Destroy you and ur family ... keep ur eyes out for her as well I believe she changed her name she was kicked off her but she now goes by Kariann she was on here by sweetlikehoney or what not I have said in the passed just keep a eye out on her she a very evil ... but guys I hope u find out sooner than later don’t let her come over to ur house please bewear of her ....

For those who have had a taste of how good the poly life feels...then you know how right it feels. We the people have always known what is good for us. It is not governments who have initiated all of the great changes in society...it was always us! Everyone should have the right to choose...but more than that the freedom to be...whatever we wanna be. Coming on a site like this can be interesting and enjoyable, but until we come together to speak for our rights and to be forceful for our freedom; those who are interested in this life will never have true education on this life. There are no highlighted examples out there for them. Media is full of the same old failed monogamy examples. Lets get together and start expressing our desire to be free.  

Where should I start?

Never give up on your pursuit of this natural way of living. Monogamy is really not even seen in nature. For thousands of years humans lived polygamy. Recorded history shows that most human society have been polygamous. Rome forced the world into monogamy and today we are seeing so many relationship problems...as one young lady said to me " monogamy is just not working...what's out there is clearly not working". Normalisation is a process and soon rights will come but don't wait for that to live your freedom and to live what makes you happy.  

On this site u have to have a lot of forgiveness in your self and others or it won't work. You have to be willing to say I'm sorry! If it works , great. If not , move on. Their are other fish in the sea. You can't be Judgemental or mean on this site and get any where!