I spy with my little eye...a bunch of not serious profiles from Familyfocused's blog

To each their own and all...

That being said, one of the things that is jumping out to me a fair amount is just how many profiles demonstrate that several people are here looking for a good time, for new partners for sexual liaison or seeing the plural marriage pop culture boom and thinking it would be some kind of yolo adventure and that it might be cool for a while. That is what I see in the single women's profiles. In some of the couples profiles however it is far more of the predatory to desperate spectrum and I do not even slightly wonder at the fact that many are mystified by the lack of any response. In other couples profiles you will see the it is all about the ego stroke for the man equation being played out.

At the end of the day, personally I don't particularly care about being perceived as judgemental when so many are approaching plural marriage for all the wrong reasons. All that it will end up with is games being played, hearts being broken and families pulled apart.

Plural marriage is first and foremost a marriage. It is about love, permanence, giving each other support and the bonds of family. Plural marriage is not about jumping on the latest fad, it is not about your sexual fantasies or pumping up your ego.

Yeah yeah... standing on my soap box and preaching to an empty room. I know. Lame and pointless. It is frustrating though to browse through the site and see a handful of those who clearly take the idea of polygyny seriously and who are seeking their family or their new wife that are clearly having to wade through a sea of those who might be more suited to plenty of fish or some other hookup app.

This is supposed to be about love and family not being part of a fad.

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Feb 21 '2019, 11:19 AM

robyn

I say all the time takes lots of different people to make the world go around, I see it as well but i just think if not interested in that profile to just keep scrolling, In time the right matches will match everyone here is looking for something different, every family is different every desire is different, eventually you will find what you are looking forI say all the time takes lots of different people to make the world go around, I see it as well but i just think if not interested in that profile to just keep scrolling, In time the right matches wil...See more

Feb 21 '2019, 11:44 AM

Familyfocused

I agree in general but disagree in the specific reference to family. The ones that frustrate me are those who clearly are not looking to be a part of or to grow a family with new members.

Feb 21 '2019, 2:35 PM

Familyfocused

@donb happy to oblige. I read it and like the fact that you are making yourselves people on the eyes of the reader rather than just another blank or short blurb profile. I am personally of the opinion that if you expect any positive results in a search like this then you need real content. Those who do not have the patience or interest in reading about someone who catches their eye will not tend 4th o have the patience or interest in making a new and potentially difficult relationship work. End result is that I think you are doing well in the profile and I know that I have seen your participation in the forums so you are already hitting the two primary bullet points that I would recommend to those who are searching...make yourself seam like real people via the content of your profiles and participate in the conversations. If there is no content out there then there is nothing to catch anyone's attention after all.@donb happy to oblige. I read it and like the fact that you are making yourselves people on the eyes of the reader rather than just another blank or short blurb profile. I am personally of the opinion...See more

Feb 21 '2019, 5:10 PM

Familyfocused

I has not scrolled down further than the text as I am still moderately new to this site and not used to looking for videos in this context. Anyway, I went back and watched most of them and I think that it does all the more to demonstrate the real people and real family aspect that I referenced earlier. It also makes it clear that the kids are up to speed on the search and that there are no overt dissenters in the group which will help a prospective partner feel a bit more secure about walking in on day one without fear that kids will be surprised and resentful. I take it as a good sign that you and your wife feel comfort publishing the video publicly. We do not hide what we are as such but do not publish the fact to any but family and friends. In the disinterested neighborhood where we live, we would have to do significantly more than have multiple women and one man to get anyone to take note or care. I do enjoy the fact that the stigma is waning but look forward to more progress in that regard and especially look forward to it not immediately resulting in salacious questions about the private aspects of one's married life.I has not scrolled down further than the text as I am still moderately new to this site and not used to looking for videos in this context. Anyway, I went back and watched most of them and I think tha...See more