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Noblequest
As people who hope to see wholesome polygamous marriages being normalized we have a vested nterest in sites like this one and others that are less focused on the matchmaking aspect. What we have seen rather a lot of is people who are considering polygyny for what we would consider the wrong reasons. A few but certainly not all of the reasons that I would consider wrong are the couple's who simply wish to find their live in sex toy which will apparently spice up their intimate activities and cure all relationship woes, the horny husband with the grudging wife couples where she is clearly just going along to get along so to speak (lots of these woman are in the position they are in because their religious faith is being used as a lever to force them into agreeing to something they do not want) and the scammer; we have all seen the douchebag guys who will pretend to be anything that will get them at least short term sexual access to any woman, the pure scammer looking for money, the catfish who will pretend to be anything just to keep themselves entertained regardless of the emotional toll they might extract and the busybody who has decided that they know better than you what is right and moral for your family even though you are strangers. All of these will make people cautious about interactions that ideally should be perfectly safe, straightforward and wholesome. Because of the bad actors we all end up being cautious to one degree or another... I personally will council women to be quite cautious in dealings here just like on any dating site nut by the same token I tend to be cautious myself and recommend the same to other plural families. While our vulnerabilities are not the same as single women, nobody wants to get scammed, catfished or worst of all enter into a relationship that is doomed to fail because the person they fell for was approaching this lifestyle as a lark that sounds like fun for a while. Is there a solution? I wish I knew one. In a perfect world I would think that in-person mixers would be great. I like the idea of a large picnic or something of that nature. Lots of fun ideas occur to me but coordinating what amounts to a plural family convention and matchmaking festival. You would probably find me behind the bar.
Noblequest Jan 21 '19 · Comments: 4
karend
Ask me anything. I promise I’ll be honest
karend Jan 21 '19
Swinson
Love is a funny thing to describe. We all think we know what it is, yet it always seems difficult to explain. Some say that love in a relationship is either there or it isn't. From personal experience, that is the lazy approach. 


Imagine that everyone is standing on a personal sized iceberg with ropes connecting them. The ropes are not unlimited and can fall off the icebergs if not held onto. When two people pick up the rope connecting them, if they do nothing else, they will remain that distance to each other. If one starts pulling, they will slowly come closer. If they both pull, the they will quickly come together. If one let's go and the other pulls, they will drift apart and the rope will run out. If one throws the rope away, same thing, only no chance of picking the rope up again.


Once the two are together, they simply need to maintain it until the icebergs become one. If the two become complacent and let the rope go, they will drift apart again. It could be fast or slow, but they will need to pull together again to not lose each other. 


This scenario can work for any amount of people, such as a relationship of three people. The more they all pull together, the more unified they will become. It must be noted that even with relationships containing more than two people, that each individual relationship must be nurtured. You can love any number of people, but if you do not pull together on both ends, it can be difficult.


Those that desire the love pull the rope. Those that don't truly care, don't even hold the rope. Those that reject the love throw the rope away. And those that want it, but limit their effort, merely hold the rope and there is no progression in the relationship. 

Swinson Jan 16 '19 · Comments: 2 · Tags: love&work
dwc
I am looking to starting in the polygamy lifestyle. It’s Something that I have always wanted and dreamed of. I think the bigger the family unit is the better. All members can contribute to the greater good of the family. It’s not about sex persay it’s about the family and the love that can be shared. I look forward to hearing from you.
dwc Jan 3 '19 · Comments: 1
bethandjames
my husband and i have been looking for a sister wife for a long time now our problem is that we live in central ohio and cant seem to find anyone any suggestions
bethandjames Nov 27 '18
sweet
hi max here,i am seeking life partner
sweet Oct 31 '18
Miluv
I've recently embark on a journey with a couple and in the beginning it was everything a girl could ask for ,until I began to discover that the wife of the relationship would say one thing and then it turned out to be another she wasn't ready to be a sister wife it was a pretty much total lead on the husband was all for  it. in the relationship getting to know me the courting  began. We took a trip the beginning of the trip was great but then due to her uncertainties and jealousy it became unbearable so you know I tried to give them a second chance  when i was  inviteded to their home and things were okay until the husband steppeded out and made a store run his wife approach me informing me that she didn't want this this is you know not what she expected or so I just brought me to know that I am very serious about living a polygamous of lifestyle I am seeking a sister wife and a husband I'm seeking a unit of unity so I am still kind of torn due to my past experience I don't want to quit I don't want to give up someone please help me what should I do.
Miluv Oct 24 '18 · Comments: 2 · Tags: help
loveandgratitude
How many people (families or singles) do you talk to at one time? At what point is it disrespectful to keep adding people? Think about it. (If anyone even reads this.) Think about yourself and also make sure to think about others! After all, we as a community are full of so much love. I need to focus my own love right now. I’ll keep you posted.
loveandgratitude Sep 22 '18 · Comments: 1
loveandgratitude
When you feel alone, you probably aren’t. When you don’t feel great about yourself, there is surely someone else who is there, too. If you have questions, remember there is indeed an answer. Also remember it may take a while to find it. Live your truth and everything will be okay.
loveandgratitude
What are red flags? Yellow flags? White? Do we create issues that aren’t even there because we are scared? Think about it. Everyone has a goal. A relationship they seek. Is it ok to go into the world blind in this lifestyle? What do people truly need to prepare? Do extended families need to know the plan? What secrets must you keep from the world in order to live a polygamist or polyamorous life? Is everyone on the same page or do some people not know their own page? What is self sabotage? I always question doubts. My own. Those of others. At what point does everyone go forward in the same direction? I agree that communication is everything. I think we all do.
loveandgratitude Sep 21 '18 · Comments: 2
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