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JamieNatalie
In the past two years, as my wife and I have had deep conversations with one another, the picture became very clear that plural marriage was not only the answer for our family, but it literally felt like a matter of personal inspiration from God to both of us that this is correct for our family as we are literally entering a new era in this world. Perhaps some background is warranted here in order to explain where we are both coming from…

COVID has literally changed everything in this world. It has shown us just how quickly the world can change with supply shortages, violence, and the breakdown of society. For our family living on our ranch, it is obviously critical that our family build in numbers to reach self sufficiency in our ability to grow food, take care of animals, teach children, secure our land, and have additional children. A family in our situation must become a pride, or tribe of sorts. The ability to have additional wives multiplies the number of children and creates an environment where no wives or the husband is overwhelmed with responsibility. The adults literally bear one another’s burdens. The needs of companionship and help are met for everyone involved. Wives have each other’s back and complete loyalty. The joys of life are also multiplied many times over for everyone as long as there is no jealousy but rather in place, we all have complete selflessness and consecration.

Another facet in which plural marriage can be a benefit is that more women who wish to be loved and honorably married in this day and age have the chance. I’ve witnessed over the past 16 years in my line of professional work how many women are objectified by society in such a way that they are dehumanized and used for self gratifying pleasure. Many younger guys as well as an increasing number of older guys have been conditioned by modern society that having feelings for a woman and/or marriage is somehow a weakness. I’ve heard many women in their 20’s and 30’s complain that they can’t even get a guy to ask them out on a formal respectful date, yet he will not hesitate to ask her for physical benefits, or compromising pics/videos in a virtual only relationship. I’ve heard story after story about how many younger women reluctantly endure disrespectful and unnatural acts during sexual intimacy in a friends with benefits type of relationship. Pornography, the fashion industry, and Hollywood have poisoned the natural and loving behaviors between men and women in this modern and perverse world. It has caused unrealistic expectations in the way guys view the bodily aesthetics of a woman, and how he thinks her body should function sexually. Many of these women won’t admit to being used and mistreated while it’s happening, because there’s a part of her that is selfless and giving in hopes at some point that the guy will grow feelings toward her in return, as she allows him to do what he does. In most cases, him developing feelings for her and the chance at marriage never occurs. Inevitably, the guy moves on once she expresses her disappointment and hurt. She is dismissed in his mind as somehow being crazy or overly emotional. He cannot understand that sex is a powerful expression of love within her natural brain construct in which he has recklessly toyed with that powerful and divine set of emotions. This is not without consequence. It’s a vicious and cruel cycle of playing with fire. There is a simple antidote however… A component of true plural marriage is a man who clearly sees the realities of how men and woman should naturally interact lovingly and therefore, he’s in a more mature state of mind. A man who seeks plural marriage is deeply committed to the holy and sacred institution of marriage. His commitment to her is forever. He sees womanhood and motherhood as the most noble and sacred of all. He is capable of having and replicating feelings of true love. He is therefore respectful and willing to treat women as queens through marriage of each one. Every woman who wishes for the true happiness of love, marriage, and children in this world should have that chance. Every woman should have someone to protect and take care of her needs. Plural marriage can be a counterbalance to increase her chances of true love and honorable marriage due to the inability or lack of willingness in so many younger men now days.

In our deep and connecting conversations, my wife Natalie expressed her desire to have sisters in which she could share her life and husband with. For her, it’s a loyal support group of women necessary to combat life and this daily world together, while also supporting each other’s individual talents, needs, interests, and even careers. She has a very giving heart. She is full of sisterly love.

For myself, it’s the ability and need to love additional wives equally at 100%. It’s the desire to connect with the divine female mind and experience the lovely and diverse personality of each one. I love deep intellectual conversations with people as it is. Having multiple wives where I can share my thoughts, hear her thoughts, and discuss the universe with each one is a joy. For myself, it’s also the joy of making a woman laugh, to see the happy look in the eyes of each wife knowing she feels loved, safe, cherished, adored, and realize daily for certain that she is literally a queen in the eyes of her husband.

As my wife, and soon to be wives travel down this path, we have come to the realization that there will be some people who cannot or will refuse to understand why we choose to have our family in this seemingly non-traditional arrangement. Most within even my own faith cannot comprehend plural marriage despite it being an inseparable part of our history and still a core part of our doctrine. Additionally, the biblical roots of plural marriage are undeniable. It’s indeed interesting and troubling that so many in this world can disparage, mock, and be critical of plural marriage while also being hypocritical in championing affairs with multiple partners and groups involving any gender or declared gender.

What cannot be mistaken however is the proper and moral method of plural marriage. As with all good and holy things, this world will find ways to corrupt and cause counterfeits. Polygamy is a general term which is often used to describe any poly relationship. It does not however properly describe biblical plural marriage. As my wife and I discussed the rules of how we go about this, we assured one another that we would have strict standards of which we are both unanimous. We recognized that the only way would be specifically to practice “polygyny” which involves the husband and each wife to be strictly heterosexual. Polygyny is not one marriage where everyone is married as a group, but rather one marriage per wife and a different marriage bed per wife. Each marriage is between one man and one woman with the same husband in each marriage as the common factor as head of the family. Not to be a ruler but to be a leader and protector with each wife as equal. It is a Godly inspired order of patriarch and matriarch(s). Unfortunately this is a foreign concept today even though it has been the ways of God from the beginning.

Despite what the world and select friends/family may think in ignorance, our desire to practice plural marriage is not a result of some perverted mid life crisis to “spice up our marriage” as a group with a girlfriend or two. I did not pressure my wife Natalie into accepting plural marriage. She had more vision and understanding of it than even myself. She was quicker to adopt living this way than I was because she understands it so well. I on the other hand was more reserved in my timing to actually put it into motion. I married a very mature, wonderful, and wise woman beyond her years! I love being married to her ❤️
Jojo

What are you considering?! Is it true that you are insane?!?

Alright, simply joking. As insane as this truly sounds to the world, or to anyone that is first dealing with this question, those of us who have been through the move and lived to tell have taken in a couple of things, and in all actuality on the off chance that you can ace your weaknesses and venture up to this way of life, you will be luxuriously remunerated. You will be all the more liberated to act naturally and to seek after your interests. You will share the highs and lows of your existence with more individuals that genuinely cherish you and need the best for you and are on your side. Furthermore, you will be free from the annoying trepidation that your better half will abandon you some time or another for another person.

There's a considerable measure to consider, a great deal of issues. Numerous advantages and disadvantages to be weighed. Take as much time as is needed.

On the off chance that you are as of now wedded, and you and your significant other have begun discussing this, DON'T accept that your better half is quite recently searching for more sex, or is exhausted with you, or in any capacity considers less you a man and as a spouse. We can't represent precisely what's experiencing your better half's brain, however consider the accompanying cases:

A lady who has had a child, and that infant is currently two or three years of age, may wind up needing another infant. It doesn't mean she doesn't love her first tyke. She simply needs a greater amount of what she has, and to the degree she is a decent mother and is generally benevolent, she simply needs to dispatch all the more balanced youngsters into the world.

A business person who has enlisted a worker, whose business is as yet developing, may choose to enlist another representative. It doesn't mean there is anything amiss with the execution of the main worker. It just implies that the business is developing and needs more hands to deal with the work process.

An undergrad who has a companion she invests a great deal of energy with may meet another companion—somebody fascinating and invigorating that she needs to become more acquainted with better and thinks might be a decent long haul companion. The 'old companion' could get desirous and possessive and attempt to undermine the new relationship, or she could value the new companion, maybe build up her own relationship, and to the degree them three all appreciated each other's conversation and delighted in doing things together, they'd all be wealthier for it.

Clearly none of these cases hits precisely being a spouse. In any case, each in its own specific manner hits a piece of being a spouse. Regardless of whether it's the arrangement and insurance that a spouse offers a wife and a mother offers a youngster, or the feeling of cooperation and fellowship that describes solid business connections, or the basic fraternity of a decent companion, none of these connections is essentially debilitated by the expansion of more connections. When they're set well, "the more, the merrier".

In the event that you are thinking about turning into a man's second or third spouse, your circumstance is comparable in some ways, and diverse in others. You're measuring whether to surrender trusts and dreams in some relationship that hasn't happened yet; the primary spouse is managing feeling deceived, similar to some person changed the arrangement on her without inquiring. You're feeling sort of exceptional that your man would need to add you to his family; she's fondling somewhat utilized and dismissed that he would need to add you to the family, which is her family, as well, coincidentally. In any case a similar question presents itself: Where does your self-esteem originated from? What makes you like yourself and gives you seek after what's to come?

That is a ton to consider. Gone up against with the likelihood that what God needs for your life is drastically not quite the same as what you have been directed to expect, it's reasonable this would be a troublesome and some of the time enthusiastic process. Be that as it may, don't stop. Try not to surrender. What you're experiencing now will pass. Concentrate on what's valid about the affection for God and the will of God, "and reality might make you free".

Jojo Jun 5 '17 · Rate: 4.91 · Comments: 5 · Tags: biblical polygamy
Jojo

"Man, you should be some sort of pimp!"


"I don't know how you do it. I can scarcely take great care of one!"

Those are the two sorts of reactions (other than the clear gaze) that are run of the mill when a man is 'turning out' to somebody about having a plural family. The littler gathering essentially accept that it's about the sex. The bigger gathering comprehends the duty that a Christian man has for the individuals from his family.

For the most part, in their reactions to the subject of polygamy, both men and ladies uncover something of what they consider the way of marriage and its expenses and advantages. Also, the truth of the matter is, you can't appreciate the diversion unless you concede to the tenets, and there's no reason for belligerence the relative benefits of polygamy with somebody that has a totally extraordinary esteem framework and comprehension of what marriage is than you do.

So in case you're engaging this nutty thought, be prompted that you would be advised to have your own particular esteems cleared up. A few people will acknowledge what you're doing on the grounds that they simply couldn't care less in particular, some have an "incline toward toleration" logic, and some will love you enough to at present love you notwithstanding when they think you've truly lost your brain. Yet, then again, some will believe you're odd funkily, some will believe you're irregular scarily, some will believe you're risky, and some will detest you.

All in all, our families and families we know have been tossed out of houses of worship, disregarded in their nearby groups, lost kids in care fights, had first spouses leave after it gets hard, been undermined with criminal arraignment (no feelings yet, express gratitude toward God), had developed youngsters cut us off, and in one case even had a demise risk. Not everyone, not in any case the vast majority, will despise you and attempt to hurt you. Simply enough individuals to keep it truly intriguing.

That is the awful news. The uplifting news is that this will improve you a man, a superior spouse, and a superior father. A superior sibling to other men in the collection of Christ. A more mindful adherent of the lessons of Jesus and a superior audience to the still, little voice of the Holy Spirit. In the event that you need this way of life to work—implanted in 21st century Western culture, with its open antagonistic vibe to and mistreatment of conventional parts and connections—you have no other decision.

Jojo Jun 5 '17 · Rate: 4.67 · Comments: 4 · Tags: biblical polygamy
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