I have long thought that flying in formation was a good metaphor for marriage.
Here are 8 specific points for you to consider:
1. How do they do it? The key is that there is one leader and the rest are followers. If there is no leader you are not flying in formation.
2. Due to advance communication everyone knows where they are going, but the leader leads and the followers have to keep a close eye on the leader.
3. The followers job is to position themselves correctly in relation to the leader.
4. The leader has to call the maneuvers so that the followers can expect the movements and react to them accordingly. They communicate constantly as needed.
5. There has to be at least two to fly in formation, but structurally you can add on more.
6. Not easily done. It takes intention and practice.
7. It is also mandatory for safety in aerial combat. Singles are picked off like sitting ducks.
8. You need someone to check your six. No individual has complete vision or situational awareness. But good teams are unbeatable in aerial combat.
When done well it is a beautiful thing. Formation flying is commonly seen at air shows for the appreciation of all.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuznBNZl6ME
That being said, one of the things that is jumping out to me a fair amount is just how many profiles demonstrate that several people are here looking for a good time, for new partners for sexual liaison or seeing the plural marriage pop culture boom and thinking it would be some kind of yolo adventure and that it might be cool for a while. That is what I see in the single women's profiles. In some of the couples profiles however it is far more of the predatory to desperate spectrum and I do not even slightly wonder at the fact that many are mystified by the lack of any response. In other couples profiles you will see the it is all about the ego stroke for the man equation being played out.
At the end of the day, personally I don't particularly care about being perceived as judgemental when so many are approaching plural marriage for all the wrong reasons. All that it will end up with is games being played, hearts being broken and families pulled apart.
Plural marriage is first and foremost a marriage. It is about love, permanence, giving each other support and the bonds of family. Plural marriage is not about jumping on the latest fad, it is not about your sexual fantasies or pumping up your ego.
Yeah yeah... standing on my soap box and preaching to an empty room. I know. Lame and pointless. It is frustrating though to browse through the site and see a handful of those who clearly take the idea of polygyny seriously and who are seeking their family or their new wife that are clearly having to wade through a sea of those who might be more suited to plenty of fish or some other hookup app.
This is supposed to be about love and family not being part of a fad.
Thoughts?
While special needs children can be challenging, they are worth every gram of effort put into them. Many times, parents just need a loyal friend to help them. Choosing to join a family with special needs makes you a rare person indeed. Toomany parents run away, leaving those children. But let me tell you that you as a parent get far more from your children, than they get from you.
Even if the Lord does not open up the door for a future wife, I hope that I can be an encouragement to others.
We have so much love to share and would take good care and show much love to our sister wife. We feel like part of us is missing. Does anyone have any advice or success stories they can share with us?