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I have been on a polygamous journey for over a decade now. I started investigating non monogamy and polyamory first, but decided the frequent partner changes and lack of permanence bothered me,  I wanted stability, I wanted a life with someone, not just a hobby relationship.  Back then, it was my understanding that polygamy was for only certain religions (Mormons and Muslims) and not for the rest of us so I thought it would not be for me.  But then came the internet message groups.  I started off on a yuku group not long after Big Love started airing (yes, I have been on the polynet WAAAAAYYYY too long) and finally found a home, a place where people were interested in Polygamy (mostly Polygyny) who were all different faiths (and none) and we were all new and ignorant, it was delightful.


I met my poly family on there when I was still new and ignorant. 

At this point I would usually make a joke about it 'not ending well' but tbh I think it ended fairly well, I went through a lot of negatives, but I also learnt a lot, grew and I have an even more enriched life now than I might have had, had I not gone through it so for that, I would say.  It went well enough.


Back to the polyweb then, not ready to seek but more in an advisory role while I healed and recovered.  I put most of my energy into my family and having a happy life.  


So now, many years later, I consider myself a bit of a single woman poly advocate, I am the loudmouth who challenges the anti polygamist narrative that claims that women are brainwashed into polygamy and they don't 'love themselves'.  I also advise couples against couple privileged behaviour which can be othering towards us single Potentials and leads to the destruction of healthy polygamous relationships (been there.....) If I say or have said anything to you, please don't take it badly, I see things from a singleton's point of view and it is important to know our mindset and how things might look to us, I am trying to help, not upset anyone.


I am very close to my extended family although we live in separate countries, I hope you would want to meet them though,  I have lived in many places in my Nation  (UK) and also spent a significant amount of time in the United States and my family live in Central Florida, if you are a great lover of the Disney/theme park experience, you will definitely be getting those holidays with me.  That being said, I do prefer staying on this side of the Atlantic for myriad reasons, but will move if the person/people and conditions are right.  I am especially fond of Canada, PNW and NZ sooooo I must have a thing for rain. ;o))


What I am seeking ideally is a classic polygynous relationship with a husband and wife/ves. Or a single poly minded man who I could be a first wife to and we can then build up our polygamous family from scratch.  I have zero interest in bedsharing or threesomes so no triads at all please.  I am not materialistic, I don't care if you are a bin man or a business man, I am not after riches, I am after a man who is strong, passionate, kind and likes to laugh.  Loves and emotionally invests in his family, child friendly and treats women and children with respect, not as slaves of his household. 


I am 5'10 and full figured/curvy, so you have to be into that I daresay. I am not necessarily looking for a man taller, but it is a benefit because I like to look up to a man, but with all else being equal, I don't really care that much. I tend to go for quite pale men, the ones who go red in the sun, with blue eyes and a warm smile. If during the summer you get lobster comparisons, we might be a match! Mentally fit and more positive than negative as I am a bit sensitive to emotions and find depressives draining. Honesty is of extreme importance to me, so if you are in the habit of lying to avoid confrontation, please pass me by.  I don't mind facial hair, a receding pate or beer gut, I am not looking for Adonis, I am looking for a good man and with confidence comes sex appeal. 


For my part, I love to treat my man like a King, to indulge and please him, tempered by a bit of lighthearted teasing j to keep him honest! ;o)  I like to go out and experience cultural things or family things. Not really much of a club type/nightlife. I prefer to spend time together in the evenings, talking together, eating and drinking in the mediterranean style manner into the late evening.   My hobbies include historical reenactments, costuming, watching films and geeky culture.  I love historical cooking too, though only plant based so no, the wild boar will not be on the menu!!  

I think spending time in each dyad is important though, but I am flexible with how those dates go, doesn't have to be night time, doesn't have to be something romantic.  It's just about building on our emotional intimacy and touching base.  Going out to eat, see a film or walking around a museum is fun for me, things need not be too structured or expensive, I just would like to spend time with you.


With regards to sister wives I do consider myself a woman's woman.  In that I value female friendships and crave that emotional connection in my life and family.  I am somewhat extroverted but  not emotionally overbearing, I have cultivated a very useful model to process jealousy and I would hope you have done some work with that yourself so as not to make it a big issue.  I am also into clear, honest communication.  There will be no expectation of telepathy with me, no giving the cold shoulder or dropping passive aggressive hints.  I will always be honest with you and expect the same in return.  I like spending time doing girlie things, I will paint your nails or dye your hair if you asked, I will gladly mix cocktails and watch that terrible romcom he didn't want to watch with you OR if you just want to sit and read your book alone, I will respect that,  it is about respecting the woman YOU are, not trying to force you into being the woman I want!


What I love seeing in profiles 

'Honesty is important' 'Love children' 'not looking for a specific type, just the right person' 'loyal' 'equality'.


What I dislike seeing in profiles


'Seeking a female'  'want a third' 'why is it so hard to find a woman?'  'looking to add to are (our) relationship'  'no kids/divorcees/single mothers' 'must be willing to have children for us' 'you must send me a full length picture and an essay on why i should pick you to be considered to be a part of my harem' and finally 'I am in charge of this profile, you must please me before I will let you talk to my husband because I can't trust him to make good decisions'...... 


Plus those who are racist, sexist or any ist who thinks just because I value a traditional type of relationship myself, that I insist that all women should be forced to live a way that doesn't suit them.  Any indication that your woman is not into polygamy and you are forcing her into it by threats of infidelity and a history of such with her making her fear a recurrence of such behaviour. Any desire for hierarchy amongst the wives, I have no interest in junior/secondary wife status or being treated as a concubine. I will forever be grateful to a first wife who was so kind as to want to share an amazing man with me, she would be a true Queen, but our status in the home will be equal, even if she will get the outside legal validation. 


So anyway, I hope this helps you understand me a bit, I am rather a big mouth poly woman on social media but don't let that scare you, I am just a woman who is open, passionate and a bit sarcastic, but most of it is tongue in cheek.  If anything connects with you, please do say hello.


Kind regards,

Natasha

2020

In quarantine black mirror episode

London, UK

xx




Polywifen Apr 19 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 2 · Tags: polygamy, polygyny, groups, single, potentials
Polywifen
I am not looking to be 'added' to someone's life, I am not an extra or a thing.  I am a person, I have a life and family, I want a connection, I want a blending and joining together.  You will be brought into MY family just as much as I am brought into yours.


I am not an addition. 


Please be aware of the language you use, you are objectifying us and you don't even know it.


xx

Polywifen Apr 19 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 1 · Tags: polygamy, seeking, couple privilege
LetsdoLove
Websites like this gives us the opportunity to build networks and relationships with people who are like minded with us. It is understood that we are here to find a match first and foremost, but we also have an opportunity to build networks and give support to each other. Don't be afraid to reach out to someone just to say hi, how is your search going? Platonic friendships here can also go a far way and lead to powerful relationships. 
LetsdoLove Mar 28 · Rate: 5
LetsdoLove
In this time of uncertainty; My wife and I are wishing all of you safety and freedom from sickness and the Coronavirus. This polygamy community is important to us and we want you all to be well in this time. Stay safe everyone. 
LetsdoLove Mar 16 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 2
Imhopie
Hello, I am new to this site. I am a straight white female?  Looking for a loving white couple already established who is willing to accept me for who I am. I have been thinking about being a sister wife for a couple years now. I am basically a happy person, comfortable with myself... yet feel like your love is my missing link... Would appreciate some advise from others. Thank you


Imhopie Feb 29 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 3
mtmercedes
Where should I start?
mtmercedes Oct 28 '19 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 1
Noblequest
I tend to glance at the list of users who have viewed our profile fairly regularly and saw a profile announcing that the site was full of "fakes and aggressive men" and it inspired me to write a blog post on a topic I have had in mind for a while.


I do not disagree with this person in the slightest in their assessment that the site...and all of the others are likely to be the same realistically... is full of fakes and aggressive men.

The fakes are frequently just simple scammers and honestly you have to be a full on lumphead to fall for the kind of obvious cut and paste from a translator bot message that will pop up. Seriously... does anybody really think that a bunch of girls from Ghana are clambering to get into plural families in the states? Anyway, scams happen all the time and this is the internet boys and girls,  it is part of the environment.  The actual troublesome ones are the fakes from the point of view that they are not serious and are just looking to get an ego stroke or to jack with those plig weirdos or whatever. Tonnes of them on these sites. 

With respect to the aggressive guys, I can just assume that they are the assholes who are either trying to larp polygamy because of some fantasy and again ego stroke issue or they are the sort of douche that has managed to bully or convince their frequently unwilling wives into this search with claims that God is talking to them directly in a big booming voice so he can use her faith against her or some other scam perhaps involving fear of losing financial support for her and her kids. The reason being in the end that he wishes to have regular sexual access to another woman. This sort of beta dickhead is not really going to come in many flavors but aggressive is certainly one of the most popular .

Now don't get me wrong... I am not white  knighting the girls on here at all. They leave so much to be desired that it makes me all the more thankful that I met and married one of the few real gems that really was looking to be part of a plural family. 

The vast majority of woman on here are just simply ill mannered brats that I would not have at all. While a man is absolutely the head of the family, a man should not be forced to reraise a woman he has married and try to undo all of the apparently shoddy work that her parents did in teaching her the bone basics of how to treat people.

I know that just about every serious couple on here who is seeking a sisterwife has experienced the ghosting treatment from the singled women (presuming that they are A. Single B. Women ((what the hell is wrong with people that they have nothing better to do?)) C. Seriously looking for a family instead of screwing around.). They exchange a few messages and or emails and then puff of smoke and the girl is gone. No warning, no 'Thanks but I don't think we are a match' or anything.

Now don't get to thinking I am just being butthurt that some girls ghosted me. A. Noooope. See the profile. Not looking for another wife. Maybe someday but right now we are just trying to network with the community. B. As i previously mentioned, I would not have the ones with such bad manners gift wrapped. I do not wish to spend my life in a contentious marriage with a brat I have to reeducate on courtesy and consideration for others as opposed to the shallow narcissist who can not be bothered considering the time or feelings of others. There are some couples here who really get ahead of themselves emotionally after a few exchanges and while that is not some random girls fault, she should be aware of the effect just blowing them off has. Lots give up just because some woman was not interested in thinking beyond the end of her nose. I/we have been happy to meet and chat with women here but we sure are not going to come out of the gate as anything but plain old friendly and certainly not flirty or whatever.


Yeah I know... 'but a lot of guys are assholes and won't take a polite no'... or 'I get so many emails I am overwhelmed' etc etc. Yeah? Is this your first time on the internet as a female? These are such common issues with such common solutions that I don't see them as valid complaints. Just part of the equation with online seeking of any kind. 

So to my mind the couples who get ghosted by the women with bad manners, just move along and be glad. Glad that you found out about this character flaw after a couple of notes back and forth. Imagine how much worse it would be if it seemed to work out only to have the rug pulled out much further along... I mean that genuinely. It could be so so much worse. Nobody is here, whether it is as a single woman or a couple, to get their emotional guts ripped out. 



Noblequest May 8 '19 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 5
latonyal
I just found this site today after trying others. Please don't anyone judgeme. Like I said I'm very new to this and still learning. On another site I did begin to talk to another couple. I started having feelings for the husband. Then I had a wake up call. It was not the marriage for me and I almost came close to packing up my bags and moving out of state to be with them. The reason I said it was not for me because that marriage was not about me being equal to the husband and first wife. Joining there family would have required me to change myself completely to fit what they desired and for me to be miserable because basically I had to fake it to be with them. It seemed like with the husband it was more about sex. I was considered selfish and unsubmissive if I didn't perform sexually the way he wanted. The wife....i was required to stay home, clean, cook and tend to their children while they worked. That's not what I had planned for myself, even in a monogamous relationship. I wss considered selfish and unsubmissive for not wanting to. Also I had to change my eating, my physical appearance, etc to suit him. I was not allowed to go anywhere outside the house without a family member. The excuse was that wanting to do things on my own was saying I didn't want to be with family. I felt like that was an excuse for just keeping me under watchful eyes. I mean every marriage is different. Some might be willing. I woke up and realise I felt like it was controlling, they was selfish, I was going to be a sex slave, maid and nanny. I was just a grown child. I had no say so, no compromising so I could be happy, nothing about that relationship included me in it. I might be wrong for feeling that way but I experienced other couples only about sex and wanting me to be bisexual. So can someone teach me the true marriage of Poly and set my mind at ease that this is the right thing for me. That all couples are not like that. 
latonyal Apr 25 '19 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 8
cnystrom

I have long thought that flying in formation was a good metaphor for marriage.

Here are 8 specific points for you to consider:

1. How do they do it? The key is that there is one leader and the rest are followers. If there is no leader you are not flying in formation.

2. Due to advance communication everyone knows where they are going, but the leader leads and the followers have to keep a close eye on the leader.

3. The followers job is to position themselves correctly in relation to the leader.

4. The leader has to call the maneuvers so that the followers can expect the movements and react to them accordingly. They communicate constantly as needed.

5. There has to be at least two to fly in formation, but structurally you can add on more.

6. Not easily done. It takes intention and practice.

7. It is also mandatory for safety in aerial combat. Singles are picked off like sitting ducks.

8. You need someone to check your six. No individual has complete vision or situational awareness. But good teams are unbeatable in aerial combat.

When done well it is a beautiful thing. Formation flying is commonly seen at air shows for the appreciation of all.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuznBNZl6ME
cnystrom Feb 24 '19 · Rate: 5 · Tags: marriage polygamy flying formation
Chris

There are actually so many challenges when you consider being in a polygamous relationship, that it would be great to just get a break every once in a while. For example, one of the most unpleasant situations that you could deal with when meeting people any other way rather than online would be being rejected when you tell them that you are looking for Sister Wives or that you are interested in having more than one loving partner. Rejection is the worst and can do a number on your self-esteem.


That is exactly why you should be thinking about choosing a far superior alternative to regular dating. The good news is that now you can decide to search for another woman or another man or maybe even a couple that you can start a new relationship with. It would be even better if you simply relied on a social network just like ours where you can find proper profiles of people that have similar interests. Especially when talking about your amorous beliefs, it is better to stay away from regular dating sites. This is how you can avoid disappointment after disappointment.


The individuals that do not have the same expectations and desires when it comes to their love life are not a good match, especially if they only believe in what is considered to be the norm – that a couple should be a connection between two persons and that is it. Most probably, you telling them that you are already in a relationship and that you want to add someone new in the mix is going to make them judge you and will hear all sorts of remarks. If you have tried this before on regular dating sites, you have probably already dealt with such a situation.


The same happens when you meet people the regular way, in a restaurant, on your way to work and so on. The hard part here is telling them that you prefer polygamous relationships. Fortunately, when you visit our website, you know exactly what kind of persons you will comes across here. Forget about them judging you for your preferences and be yourself. You will feel so relaxed knowing that there does not need to be an elephant in the room. Here everyone already know a bit you and what you want because these bits of information are available on your profile. 


If you are interested in being one of the Sister Wives that are already involved in a relationship or would like to find one, you can sign up on our website and create a profile. After sharing a bit about yourself, you can perform a simple search and see which of the existing members could be a perfect match. It might take a short while before you find exactly what you are looking for, depending on your preferences. Nevertheless, the entire process of chatting with all kinds of new people will be more than exciting and fun.


When it comes to Polygamy, you need to set some basic rules based on what you want and share them with the people that you meet. The best part about looking for these new matches online is that the entire process is simplified. Of course, the most important advantage in this case is that every single person that you are going to find on our website is looking for a polygamous relationship, one way or another. Some will be interested in starting a relationship with another woman or another man, while others will want to do that with a couple. 


Another major advantage that you will enjoy when you look for dates online, on our website would be the fact that you can flirt regardless of your location. You can be in the same country as the person that you are contacting or you can be half a world away. It does not really matter. Our site will allow you to talk to them for as long as you want. If you are wondering how you can get started, you should know that it is as easy as 1 – 2 – 3. 1 – Visit our website and create your account, 2 – Edit your profile and add a photo, 3 – Perform a search and contact the members that you like.


You might also want to keep in mind the fact that you can keep up with your notifications such as any messages that you might have received from people who you have already talked to or that have just contacted you for the first time. You would just need to log into your account on our social network on a daily basis. Regardless of your current location – you might be at home, at work, on the train or even in a park. As long as you have an internet connection, you can flirt away.


It is interesting to know that one of your soulmates might be a few clicks away. The question that you have to ask yourself is: why wait? Instead of wasting any more time that you could otherwise spend having amazing conversations with people that understand you, it would be a much better idea to just create your account. You will not believe just how many dating opportunities you will have once you have the option of contacting our members. 


At the same time, you might not even finish editing your profile and might get contacted by someone that shares your Polygamy values. Truth being told, the chances of finding love here are much greater than anywhere else. Why? Because in today’s society it is much easier to find someone who understands your principles if both of you meet in a place that was specifically created for individuals just as open minded as you are. Even if you have tried other social networks, you should give ours a try and see for yourself what makes us so different. If you have any additional questions regarding our social network, do not hesitate to leave us a message!


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