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I have always fet in a part of me that this is how it is meant to be. 3 means so much in so many ancient texts and believes, why not in out lifes? More love, more support, a friend alsways by your side. I'm coming to bnelive it's not possible, all these dateing sites just want a hookup but thats not what this is about. I wanta wife, a sister wife. To love and cherish spoile. Ando sometimes I feel like Im crazy for it but who has the right to tell me this tisnt how its meant to be? Im fun, down to earth, educated, work a great job and fincially secure.

Good Morning to some of you, and by the time you read this... Good afternoon and or good evening! I logged on here this morning to check things, and see what is new! I haven't been on the new site too much so I am still learning to navigate, but over all I am super impressed and happy with the changes as I am sure most of you are too! So thank you Admin for working your tails off for us to all have a better site for potentially finding all of our "forevers" It dawned on me though (hence the reason I am writing and the "post subject") that sometimes we become complacent in our search, in our dreams and goals. We tend to zone out and zombify in some senses as we wait. I urge you to stay vigilant and keep those dreams and goals in front of your face! Never stop fighting, and praying hard for what you want. Live this life if it will truly make you happy, but I ask you to sit there and question yourself honestly to make sure it is what you want. Too many peoples lives, and emotions are at stake in the end if you find out after having gone very far in this and realize you are not ready or do not want this. Do what makes you happy, live this life to its fullest and never look back with regret. Pray daily and really dive into God and see what He has for you! these are just some thoughts I have had the past week or so and I am super glad I found an outlet for them to be. I hope that it helps and encourages even one person.

When I started studying poly 3 or so years ago, I had no idea that it would be as involved as it was or make so many changes in my life and christian walk.

One of the massive changes in my family’s life was that we were unwelcome in a church that we loved, and were actively participants in, and I had a large role teaching adults in.

We were summarily given the left foot of fellowship, simply because I had been studying this “taboo” topic, and had concluded in favor of it.  Not because we were looking for another wife or anything like that.  Simply studying it and accepting it as a theoretically, Biblically acceptable family structure was enough for people I’d considered friends for over a decade to do a Jekyl/Hyde transformation.  Only one person actually tried to look at the Bible with me over it and that was not the Pastor or Deacons.

My point with all of this, is that most of the time, for single Christian women who are hoping to marry into a family with a God fearing christian man, the possibility of continuing to be an active member of a church while being a plural wife is a very slim to none possibility.  At least if you are public about it in the very least.  

There are definitely alternative solutions to this issue, many home assemblies are ok with it, and many christian men who are poly for biblical reasons are a cut above most Corporate Christianity nodders, and should be more than capable of leading you into a closer walk with the Saviour.

Don’t let this discourage you from your search, just understand that there are more life changes to this than sharing a great man!

Hello Everyone, hope you are all keeping safe during these uncertain times. Just wanted to briefly say a few words about community building and friendships with those who seek this similar life of polygamy. Polygamy is found more in nature than monogamy (which barely exist). This means nature has a reason why this life of polygamy is innate and effective, However, we have for thousands of years been influenced by many philosophies and social behaviours that might not aid in a polygamous life. Many times the women or men we meet on here just do not work out because of those philosophies and social behaviour.  Don't expect to always find someone quickly. Build a mental community. Build bonds with people who know that you like this life. Figure each other out and get to know ways in which you can create a new path from the many different paths you are all coming from. My wife and I came from different paths, and we are able to be fully united and free from arguments because we got to know each other's path and form a new path. Monogamous relationships sometimes are painful and a lot of that has to do with the influence of society. Society transforms us into what it wants and oftentimes that conflicts with nature. This brings the many complex problems relationships face today. Polygamy is a beautiful but nature strategic way of living. It can be powerful, it can be effective, but should be done with joy and patience as we learn this new/old and natural way of living. 

We have been on this site for two years now.

We have met a few potentials in person and talked to many others on here, and done a lot of video chats.

We have found that a lot of people are here for unspoken reasons.. in our opinion, for the wrong reasons.

We are not judging anyone we are just posting our experiance with this site.

This site is not responsible for the people it attracts, to make that clear.

But if you're looking for a real fit for your family you should take time to make sure its 100% or your in a world of hurt.

So many just want to escape their current living situtations or join a existing family because of their poor choices.

Ultimately its up to you, what you want..

Don't compromise on your views because if you do, you will lose in the end.

We have a newborn and nothing matters more than God first and second our home..

But to help couples, we would stress, be a unit and Vet everyone you talk too.

Don't rush into anything because your family will pay the price.

If your certain this lifestyle is for you, what's wrong with taking your time? You have everything to gain, but also evrrything to lose if your man, lays with this new addition and she becomes his wife.. If she leaves, say hello to 18 years of child support your man is liable for. 

In otherwords, be aware of the wolves wrapped in sheepskin.

If your not careful you could invite the devil in your home, with your children and your responsible in the Lord's eyes for those children He loaned you! So be wise and not foolish.

If your a believer of the Word of God, seek the Lord.

You know, scripture teaches us, the Lord BROUGHT Adam his wife.. Adam did not go looking, and that is something why we stopped 'looking' and if He brings another He does. If not, let it fall at the wayside and stay focused on the Lord.

We are guilty of making a mess and then wanting the Lord to sort and fix it. Bless Him for fixing it for us all, but we should learn and grow, not remain like babies, but mature like adults do.

We learn a lot from Solmon who the Lord said, Do not take women from these tribes.

In otherwords, do not take a women from another faith outside the Lord, for she WILL turn his, yours, and your children's hearts from the Lord.

Also,

Look for good characteristics..

How she dresses speaks volumes of character.

A lady is not a women because she is a women.

Just like the Virtues Wife is a true real lady!

Dressing in provocative ways shows many things.

But scripture says, we should not put stumbling blocks infront of our brothers or sisters.

What is she politically?

Are you a Conservative and she a Liberal?

Your in for conflict.. or if your Liberal and she is Conservative your looking at the wrong "tribe".

We believe the Lord holds high regard for the home and it must be a well organised unit, not full of chaos...

We deal with enough chaos already, why bring it into your home?

I am not saying this to stop anyone from doing what their God given rights are to do. But instead putting some advice out there for couples or singles to consider and decide together how they want to proceede. 

Its good to have a good family dynamic and system in place.

So when you finally find the 'Right' one for you, she isn't thinking you people are crazy lol.

Also get a good list of important topics that could or are deal breakers, you will save yourself so much time.

Instead of not having that, you or your other says or does something that person is not for and there is a conflict.

I remember the first lady we had over, I was talking to her about politics and beliefs and we got into a debate over the LGBT topic and I refuse to have a wife that supports such a Abomination, but she didn't see it that way.

I want to teach the children the Lord loaned me, that the Rainbow is a sacred covenant the Lord made with the world.

Not, its about gay and lesbian rights.

See the conflict there??

Sure I could have compromised on God, but I am not that way, im stubborn and I won't have a wife that teaches any of my children the opposite of what I want.

A house that is divided will surely fall, and a house that stands together will not.

The Word of God is pure truth and those who do not agree will find the truth out for themselves the easy or hard way, in this life or the next to come.

So, 

Wrapping this up and hopping off..

We hope that this helps you couples who are looking tirelessly and helps you.. for we wish someone helped us when we were 'new' to this lifestyle and the search.

May the Lord of Hosts guide us all, and give us open ears and eyes that truly see.

Peace be with you all.

Hello I would like to introduce myself my name is Monique and I am brand new to the site I have been thinking about this for a while after I got divorced five years ago because lately I’ve been kind of the second will in a relationship so why keep such a gem a secret when she can be out in the open.

I am new to the polygamy life but I have talked to many families and some felt promising but failed. I feel like a lot of the failure with the families were because the families wanted things to move too fast and wanted me to just go along with it. I want that connection and the certainty with the family that God brings to me so I feel like it shouldn’t be rushed. I have an opened mind to things but I don’t believe rushing into a family without security of forever not just in the moment. I will keep staying encouraged that the family I am looking for is out there!

To each their own and all...

That being said, one of the things that is jumping out to me a fair amount is just how many profiles demonstrate that several people are here looking for a good time, for new partners for sexual liaison or seeing the plural marriage pop culture boom and thinking it would be some kind of yolo adventure and that it might be cool for a while. That is what I see in the single women's profiles. In some of the couples profiles however it is far more of the predatory to desperate spectrum and I do not even slightly wonder at the fact that many are mystified by the lack of any response. In other couples profiles you will see the it is all about the ego stroke for the man equation being played out.

At the end of the day, personally I don't particularly care about being perceived as judgemental when so many are approaching plural marriage for all the wrong reasons. All that it will end up with is games being played, hearts being broken and families pulled apart. 

Plural marriage is first and foremost a marriage. It is about love, permanence, giving each other support and the bonds of family. Plural marriage is not about jumping on the latest fad, it is not about your sexual fantasies or pumping up your ego. 

Yeah yeah... standing on my soap box and preaching to an empty room. I know. Lame and pointless. It is frustrating though to browse through the site and see a handful of those who clearly take the idea of polygyny seriously and who are seeking their family or their new wife that are clearly having to wade through a sea of those who might be more suited to plenty of fish or some other hookup app. 

This is supposed to be about love and family not being part of a fad.

Dual monogamy comes in a couple of well-known forms. First up there’s the monogamous marriage and the other one in the affair. Then there’s the dual monogamy so frequently misunderstood as polygyny. Both these have incredible similarities and I’m certain my adult audience can use this brief blog post to launch into a more comprehensive list. Dual monogamy in the affair scenario is when the husband has two (or even more) women in his life but they are completely separate and the mistress cares for herself (mostly) and has him to herself on a very limited basis. Dual monogamy in the mind of many considering the polygyny marriage choice is where the second wife comes in with a list of demands which demonstrates more that she wants a good man on her terms other than a woman looking to “join a family”. The man sees polygyny as a means of having other women but not included within his family structure. Frequently the new wife’s demands include absolute equal sharing of the husband in her separate living quarters. Often eager husbands, who want another woman, will agree to this. This is not joining a family, this is finding a man/woman perhaps one moral step up from having an affair. Dual living quarters and completely separated lives despite the fact of the common husband is dual monogamy. This arrangement will destroy the husband, I speak from experience; this will drive him crazy let alone drain his bank accounts. Husbands who agree to this will have lots of trouble in the flesh. Folks, our view is that polygyny is family in marriage, not convenient arrangements to have a good man or another woman without respect to the other family members. Polygyny must not destroy but build up and make more wonderful. Polygyny is not satellite monogamy with minimal connection to the “other” wife and his family. If you are considering polygyny you are considering joining a family. The items I’d like on top of the polygyny consideration list are these; What does joining a family really mean? Do I really want to join a family or have a man on my terms? (Joining a family means just that, coming in and participating in the family from breakfast to supper, every day, not just on “my day”, or worse still, in my living quarters). What can I bring to the existing wife or wives and any children he might have? How can I enrich his life as a good father and husband? What will this marriage/family structure demand I give up and am I willing to give anything up? Polygyny is not a series of deal breakers but seal makers. What is it about having equally divided time that removes the husband’s right to initiate intimacy or to be with the one on his mind? Granting him the right to have her on your day is not giving him the spiritual headship in his family, in fact, quite the opposite. Would I demand equal “sharing” of the husband if monogamy was in view? (That is, would I list the days I would be available to him and demand equal time with his golfing buddies or work demands?). What does taking another wife really mean? Do I really want to expand my family or have another woman on my terms? (Expanding the family does not mean taking more time away from it to cater for the new wife and her whims). What can me and my family offer another lady? How can I enrich the new wife’s life while at the same time continue to enrich my existing family members? How can I avoid diminishing my love for my first wife? What will polygyny demand I give up? Do I have the strength and commitment to make this work? How can I love and reassure all my wives constantly and not fall into the divided equal time sharing disaster. How do I lead when both are making contrary demands? Do I have quality leadership skills? Is my first marriage strong? If not polygyny will destroy it. I’m praying these points help everyone as they consider this incredibly enriching marriage option. We thank God every day that He brought us together. Brian from the Kelson Family

hi everyone, and i'm pleased to be back.  

i'm not breaking any new ground when saying that this has been a very hard year.  i won't even get into politics, i promise :). it's been hard because it's been isolating, and things like depression can take over. i was active here in the spring, when at least as we emerged from the hard times of April, i felt some sense of hope, but then we had waves of challenges here in FL and other southern states, and it honestly made me withdraw.

that was a hard thing to do, and not the right thing either.  i could protect myself, but in doing so, i harmed myself by not allowing the exploration of the loving relationship with a Man and my sisters that i so deeply crave, and need, and that God has told me is the way to live.  it was humbling to admit that alone i do not have the strength, but in partnership with a Man and my sisters, i can find strength.

And so, here i am again!  i remain all the things i've come to know myself to be: smart and caring, humble and submissive, a believer in God and His way, and ready to be in service to my Husband.