nounnoun: polygamy
the practice or custom of having more than one wife or husband at the same time.
So, what's so difficult about that? Well, personally, I don't think that's the full answer. I think being IN LOVE with more than one person is what polygamy is to me. I don't think being 'hot' for someone or having that all too familiar warm feeling in your pants is enough. Being truly in love with your partner(s) is FAR more important that a bit of paper from the government or your in the moment feeling for someone. Let's be honest here, just because you want to sleep with someone does not make it love, or mean that they would make a good partner.
I've noticed a trend on other sites, Bi-Cupid, MoreThanOne, Reddit etc...they all talk about Ethical Non-Monogamy like it's polygamy. They talk about having multiple partners and your metamor as if this is something more than what it is. I STRONGLY disagree. That's sleeping around on your partner or having an open relationship. I don't think that's what polygamy is. Misnomers aside I feel it's important to point this out. If you're looking at our profile, you should know who we are and what we're about. So here goes.
Angie and I have been together for 17 years now, we dated for 2 and then got married. We raised her 2 children and my 2 children. I've known from the beginning that my wife was bi-sexual, but I also know that she picked me, out of a world full of potentials. Since then we have been through a lot of crap together and it's made us strong. Our most recent battle was breast cancer. The day they told us they found a lump in her breast, my world stopped. I saw a future that didn't have my wife in it and I simply could not see that. I didn't want to. The sun rises and sets with her, at least it does for me. Thank all that is holy, we made it though that. They removed the lump and put her through chemo and radiation and then gave her a clean bill of health. So why are we here?
During all of this we would joke around about our lack of sex because of chemo meds. It started as a joke, but became a more serious conversation. As I said, I've known she was Bi from the beginning. Her desires are important to me and I have no issues trying to give her everything she wants. If I'm honest, I want that too. More importantly, we both feel like SOMEONE is missing from our relationship. That was the general consensus. It wasn't about, I want to sleep with someone else or she want's to sleep with someone else, it was the feeling that we have something missing in our lives and that something is a SOMEONE. I'm not saying we are unfulfilled or unhappy, quite the opposite. We are very happy with our lives and if it's only us for the rest or our days, this will go down as the "best life ever". I guess you could say we feel like we have enough love for us and someone else. LOL.
So, to make all of this a bit more clear. We have no issues with open relationships, we have no issue with people calling that poly. We just don't. It's not for us though. We know that. We don't want to sleep around, we want to have another partner. Partner...that's a big word. Again, according to the google dictionary..."either of a pair of people engaged together in the same activity.". We'll just ignore the pair part and say a group of people engaged together in the same activity. That feels more like what we are looking for. A real partner that will live our lives with us. Someone to join us "for better or worse, in sickness and in health". I know that's corny, so sue me.
For those out there reading our profile and thinking of messaging us, we are NOT unicorn hunters. We are NOT harem builders. We are NOT any of those things that make poly folks cringe(or at least I hope we're not). We are just a normal, genuine couple looking to add more love to our lives. If you read our profile, you know we're not looking for "hook-ups" or one night stands. We want to know you as a person, we want to love you before we make love to you. We want to have a relationship, then we want to add the physical relationship, when it make sense.
Oh and if you're a catfish...please don't. We won't send you money and playing with us will not get you what you want.
Thanks for taking the time to read my ramblings.
~John
One thing I’ve noticed on “dating” or “meet people” networks over some period of time is that it’s SO easy to “write people off”:
too much this, not enough that.
This site certainly has one major advantage: For those of us who understand the Biblical basis of marriage, and that without question (except by those who mostly won’t be here anyway!) Scripture permits a man to have more than one wife – one of those major hurdles is removed.
Which doesn’t mean there aren’t others. Such as, is this person even REAL? Not just bots or fakes, of course, but scams. And while that’s part of the mix anywhere (perhaps even more so, given an arguably wider audience of dupes) – it’s a major issue when the pool of candidates is smaller, and the real ones are thus even more discerning.
Which is, obviously, both a good thing, and the opposite. But it does mean we have to be more selective, not less.
Which takes me back to where I began.
How much MORE important, then, to not write off the real ones? (After all, we all have our flaws, and are capable of working on them anyway).
On a more personal level, that observation leads me in a different direction. And I hope the connection will be clear.
There are, without question, many here who aren’t looking for marital partners based on an understanding of what I would consider THE most important, even vital, considerations, but something arguably opposite. (Personally, I don’t see the appeal; prostitutes, gay bars, and palaces for ‘pans’ are all over, especially in the cesspool cities some of us have escaped from, so why bother sorting through bots?)
I/we came to an understanding of Scriptural marriage in parallel with realizing that “we have inherited lies from our fathers.” Most of what I’d been told in sun-god day skool was bunk, from Him having “done away with his own Law” (perhaps the biggest lie in human history, right up there with “you can be like god,” and “you will not die”) to having changed His sabbath and feast days that He said over and over again He would not do.
Eventually I realized His mama NEVER called him ‘jesus’ (that word didn’t even exist in the English language until after 1600 AD) and then what Paul (Shaul) was warning about only a few decades after He had walked among us: that they were then, and are still, pushing “another jesus whom we have not preached” (check that out for yourself in II Corinthians chapter 11 if you find that shocking).
If ‘jesus’ “did away with” his own law (actually, “torah” is the real word; it means instruction) and “nailed it to the cross” - then that one is a “liar and the truth is not in him.”
Which makes the point I was leading up to.
I was – like many of us – angry with what I still call the ‘whore church’ (the Bible does, too!) for just how Big that Lie turned out to be. And the lies about marriage (and the curses we now see in societies that swallow them) are just one big part of that.
It’s why I now spend so much time teaching His Word, “as Written,” and advise all with “eyes to see,” and “ears to hear” to “come out of her.” (Revelation 18:4)
But it took me/us quite a while to get from there, and the lies we had inherited, and so much of the baggage of ‘xtianity’ to a place where we understand what He means by “return to Me.”
It’s not easy. And a whole world which literally HATES Him, and all that He Wrote, is making it harder by the day. He says “choose life!” (Deuteronomy chapter 30) - the world demands a choice of death. (Think I’m kidding? Tune into any of my news shows. Today, they want to poison kids under the age of 5. Before they ‘groom’ them, or get them to mutilate their genitalia and destroy their immune system and sexuality utterly. And from the 'poison poke' to the biggest economic meltdown in history, to the planned famine and next plandemic, the intent is to kill tens of millions.)
I understand that what He is asking us to do is not easy. It never was. But as the world literally becomes a ‘hell on earth’ - it will get far harder. And it was always a matter of life and death.
SO:
I/we aren’t looking for a ‘wife’ that already “knows it all.” I don’t claim to, but I do understand what “study to show yourself approved” means, and more than a bit about how that applies to everything from what is ‘money’ (hint: not fiat FRNs, but the Hebrew word ‘qesef’ means BOTH money and silver, just as the Constitution says, too) to what is ‘marriage’. And what’s coming, because He has given us no small amount of warning.
Most importantly, what we need to do now.
I suspect that the concentration of good women who understand that is probably higher than any other such platform around. Understanding something about polygyny is a good start. But only that. A belief in ‘Jesus’ as messiah can be, too, but He is much more, and that’s probably why Paul says “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.” (Philippians 2:12. After all – if saying a prayer once and getting dunked was all it took, why would Yahushua Himself say the “path is narrow, and FEW there be that find it”?)
Which leads me to the ‘big finish’. Moses wasn’t so much the “meekest” man ever (‘anav’ in the original Hebrew) – I suggest he was the most “teachable.”
He had a lot to learn. So do we.
And that’s what we’re looking for.
I just finished my regular live Thursday radio show and podcast, which I've been doing for many years, called, "Come out of her, My people," from the admonition in Revelation 18:4. It's about why, and especially HOW, we should be preparing to do that, in many ways - physically, spiritually, economically, and from a so-called 'church' that is more about religiousity, and in too many cases just plain paganism, than it is His Word, as Written. And the same goes for those that still think we have a Constitution in AmeriKa-with-a-K.
There are SO many things that are literally "coming to a head" THIS WEEK.
The suggestion I make, and the evidence to support that, is the subject of the show.
It has never been more important to be aware, and prepared, for what has BEEN coming, but is now HERE, in any of our lifetimes.
This may be the most important "Come out of Her" Show I've done:
"Come out of her, My people" Show for 10 March, 2022
https://hebrewnationonline.com/come-out-of-her-my-people-show-mark-call-weekly-130/
We've been a poly family for a decade or so - three of us. During the last 3 or four years we have been looking off and on.
We realized from the start that we have several things that limit our potential match pool. First of all, is the 'rural' issue - we are 35 miles from a city. We own our farmstead, so our 'match' needs to be willing to relocate. Additionally, we are in Texas, have kids, and dogs. We don't have huge disposable incomes and are the opposite of 'glamourous'. We are much more 'prepper' and 'off-grid'. Also, we are not into the party/drug/booze/swinging lifestyles. The one bright spot in our searching is that we are not set on a specific 'look' or age.
So, our potential match pool is pretty small no matter how you look at it.
Over the years we have learned that the vast majority of single women profiles are garbage. First off, there is a significant number that are outright fake - for whatever reason. These folks could be easily eliminated by the sites by ID verification, IP tracking, and text/phone verification. That would effectively eliminate duplicates and stop the majority of scammers, once identified, from starting over. But, that would reduce the number of 'members' which in turn is believed to reduce the incentive for couples to pay.... So no dating sites have really cracked down on it. In fact most of the software packages have 'fakes' bundled. Of the ones that are 'real', many are shopping for the best deal they can get and move from family to family. Others want to be 'pillow princesses'. And then there are some that are outright psycho or even mentally disabled that have seen the 'sisterwives' shows and feel that that is what they want. Some are even looking to actively attempt to destabilize existing poly families for personal gratification or the 'get even' for previous failed relationships (hell raisers).
About the term 'pillow princess' - both of the wives use this term to describe the women that feel that they can 'join' without bringing (or doing) anything other than playing in the bedroom. They expect to be taken care of - room, board, etc - yet contribute nothing to the family. If they work outside, they typically keep everything they earn and spend it on themselves (car, clothes, etc.)
We have run into every one of these many times. Yet, we still keep looking.
...and single mothers with children, especially young ones...
Hopefully by now you can see what's coming. Myself and others have been warning about it for a long time now, and we're there.
You have probably already seen empty shelves. It will get worse - much worse. And if you thought the riots were bad before, wait until this country sees genuine widespread hunger for the first time in its history. The major cities will be a nightmare.
Which is why I am thankful many here are able to see the benefit of a larger loving family. ESPECIALLY in a more rural area - and the further from major populations, the better.
I also encourage people to understand the fragility of the power grid (as an electronic engineer, this has been on my mind for well over a decade now). It's why we are 100% off-grid here, in every way (solar, primarily).
Be thinking now about what is coming, and what you are able to accomplish. By the time most people wake up to what has already happened, it will be too late.
Blessings...