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We are new to this website, but we were somewhat surprised by the many conversations that concern jealousy. 

The emotion of jealousy is normally triggered by feeling such as (is he going to give her more attention than me?) (Is she going to give him more attention than me?) These feelings also can be triggered by the lack of self worth. 
When one feels jealousy, they need to openly discuss how they feel with their polygamous/polyamory family. 
The family also must not overreact and should listen and talk about ways to make the other who is experiencing jealousy, feel more comfortable in the relationship. This is not easy, the  as polygamist we have chosen a lifestyle which is not considered the norm in American society. 
My current soulmate and I  believe in this lifestyle, not so much for physical gratification, but because we believe by practicing polygamy, it shows and helps us grow, loving others unconditionally and not just one individual in our life.
Can feelings of jealousy creep up on individuals who are very balanced? the answer is yes. 
But the results are the same, if jealousy is not recognized and expressed to the others involved in the family. It acts like a cancer bringing destruction in it's wake.
Growing up and being around polygamist families I saw both the good and the bad, the families that were well-adjusted and loved each other, confront issues like jealousy, finances, expectations of children and responsibilities openly. They understood that real love require having good communication skills with each other, and that these issues had to be confront it before they cause a problem in all relationships within the family. 
The polygamist families that ended up splintering,  leaving many individuals hurt during these break ups, contained individuals who did not know how to openly communicate their desires and feelings to each other. Polygamy requires communication it's just that simple, polygamy requires work, polygamy requires mutual respect regardless of gender of the individuals involved in the family.
Most of all polygamy requires compromise and unconditional love for all members of the family and understanding their personal viewpoint even though it may not be our own. I encourage all individuals who fill jealously to discuss their feelings with their family members. And for those individuals who are contemplating relationships, to fully understand that the relationships will ultimately fail, unless all involved possess good communication skills. 
So the first step to even contemplating a polygamist marriage, or even polyamory relationship is to address our own individual communication skills first, Secondly it is highly suggested that family set aside time weekly, to discuss things openly that may be bothering individual and the family unit. When the children are approaching adult age, it is suggested that they are included in these discussions. This is to give them some guidance on how to use conflict resolution to work through problems that the family and family's experience. 
With love and patience destructive emotions such a jealous can be confronted and even alleviated, I hope the small post has helped. We express our best wishes for all, Sincerely, Carrie and Charles

So far we have not had much luck. Too many people start the chat then dissapear for a month then return and are like hey!!!!. Or they just don't make the time.  Hoping and praying to find our forever wife.

One of the things we like doing on our days off is our mini road trips along the river or through the foothills. We enjoy our regular places, stopping off here and there, but most of all, the different people we come across and the great conversations we get to have. Since it’s been raining or snowing with the roads blocked off, that’s been a no-go for the usual places.

It’s the little community of folks that we miss the most. Although, it’s also drawn us to check out new places which has brought us into new experiences! These mini getaways are not taken for granted. With all there is to see and do, we take time to stop and just be present in the moment. It’s been amazing.

And while we are open to seeing if we connect with someone specifically on this site, in all honesty, we are not holding our breath on that. It is a challenge to figure out the scammers, fakes and non-serious individuals. What we do appreciate is connecting with like minded people who have shared their insights and experiences in the poly community. Just reading through posts of those who’ve been willing to put it out there and give others a heads up, it has prevented us from negative outcomes. We have met great people, made some friends, and look forward to more friendships ahead!

Healthy masculinity is important in all types of relationships, including polyamorous ones. In polyamorous relationships, healthy masculinity is essential for maintaining open communication, respecting boundaries, and building trust.

One aspect of healthy masculinity in polyamory is the ability to communicate openly and honestly with partners. This means being able to express one's needs and desires while also listening to and respecting the needs and desires of others. Communication is key in polyamorous relationships, and healthy masculinity involves being able to have difficult conversations and resolve conflicts in a constructive and respectful manner.

Another important aspect of healthy masculinity in polyamory is respecting boundaries. In a polyamorous relationship, each partner may have different boundaries and limits regarding physical intimacy, emotional connections, and time commitments. Healthy masculinity involves respecting these boundaries and not pressuring partners to do anything they are not comfortable with.

Trust is also a crucial component of healthy masculinity in polyamory. This means being reliable, accountable, and honest with partners. Men who practice healthy masculinity in polyamorous relationships understand that building trust takes time and effort, and they are committed to doing the work necessary to maintain the trust of their partners.

Finally, healthy masculinity in polyamory involves challenging toxic beliefs and behaviors. This can include challenging societal norms that promote possessiveness, jealousy, and competition among men. Men who practice healthy masculinity in polyamory are committed to creating a culture of respect and inclusivity where all partners feel valued and supported.

In conclusion, healthy masculinity in polyamory involves open communication, respecting boundaries, building trust, and challenging toxic beliefs and behaviors. By cultivating these qualities, men can become better partners in polyamorous relationships and contribute to a more positive and respectful culture.

The average person sees a dude with a Lambo.

Do they think:

"This man followed every rule. School, College, Uni. He did what he was told by society. Good for him!"

or

"This man broke all the rules! I could never afford that. How can you achieve so much without cheating or manipulating others? How do I look compared to him?"

When you hear someone hate on you as a man, or shame you as a woman, for living an abundant life, what do you really think is going through their mind?

"He must be manipulating these poor women! They only want his money!"

Or

"I could never have that life... I don't understand how that works.

People are MUCH more self absorbed than you think. 

They don't care about YOU, but rather how you make THEM feel...

When we can't "make sense" of something, can't wrap our minds around it... That is when we get frustrated and upset.

If people are not happy to see you thriving, it is because they are barely surviving. They are not living up to their egos. Because hate doesn't come from above.

I have found it VERY insightful to see who appreciates you, who's opinions you should value, and to know who sees you as a threat to their ego by just being honest in everything I do in life.

Don't associate with the hate.

Let the haters HATE while we CREATE!

If you have any stories about people not accepting your big family tell us how you overcame the situation. 

Hi I am Joshua. I just wanted to reach out and invite anyone who wants someone to talk to to hit me up. We can share experiences and grievances. We can chat about life or about nothing is up to you. Single, married couple, Would love to hear from you!

Asian couple here and looking for a female to connect with. Anyone here have any experience with this website? 

Can’t wait to find our sister wife to travel with us.  Two is fun, 3 is a party!  

One of the things that constantly amazes us is that we keep running into the same fakes, flakes, scammers and other negative folks here.

They don't even change the profile names much.

And, since this is a 'pay' site, I have to wonder why they are still on here.

Also, how many of you get messages from 'ladies' that consist of just 'Hi'?  Or are just one liners that are fairly generic?  Or seem to have the same general answers from different ladies?

Bots perhaps?

After years of searching (and succeeding) we have pretty much come up with the golden rules.

1) first mention of needing money, dump them.

2) no audio call, dump them.

3) no video, dump them.

4) no social media?  dump them.  Really folks - no single woman today does NOT have social media.  If they say they don't, they are lying.

5) availability to communicate - if they have 'brown out times or blackout times or drop off abruptly, they have side games going, DUMP THEM.

I'm sure there are a few real women on here.  I'm sure that they get swamped by messages (flies on excrement, pirahnas on a hot dog, etc etc).  And lets face it: the swingers and party lifestyles and material enticements are what a lot of them are here for.  The remaining .001% that are real and great catches run away as fast as they can.

Notice the one thing really missing here: real stories of real success and can be verified.

So, on the off chance this is read by a REAL lady that is looking, message us.  If you are a scammer that we have dealt with or outed in the past, the internet never forgets.  

On that note, we will NOT be renewing till we see a positive change.  Don't hear anything about that anymore.... hmmm....

I don't know how many here are interested in paranormal investigations, but my daughter and I sure are. I am going through footage from our trip to investigate the Trans-Allegheny Lunatic Asylum in Weston, WV. Just from the little bit on her phone, we caught what sounds like a "hey" and "Hi!" also some long drawn out sighs after my daughter said she was done for the night. When I started, still have a ways to go, to watch some of her video recording, she caught what looks like orbs and caught on video the necromancer saying the name and age of a possible spirit. So far, all is looking great that we caught some fantastic evidence! I can't wait to finish her recordings and then check out to see what I caught! I do know that I went through at least 4, maybe 5 of my fully charged batteries while there. With one draining almost immediately after I installed it! Can't wait and will update later!