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One of the things that constantly amazes us is that we keep running into the same fakes, flakes, scammers and other negative folks here.

They don't even change the profile names much.

And, since this is a 'pay' site, I have to wonder why they are still on here.

Also, how many of you get messages from 'ladies' that consist of just 'Hi'?  Or are just one liners that are fairly generic?  Or seem to have the same general answers from different ladies?

Bots perhaps?

After years of searching (and succeeding) we have pretty much come up with the golden rules.

1) first mention of needing money, dump them.

2) no audio call, dump them.

3) no video, dump them.

4) no social media?  dump them.  Really folks - no single woman today does NOT have social media.  If they say they don't, they are lying.

5) availability to communicate - if they have 'brown out times or blackout times or drop off abruptly, they have side games going, DUMP THEM.

I'm sure there are a few real women on here.  I'm sure that they get swamped by messages (flies on excrement, pirahnas on a hot dog, etc etc).  And lets face it: the swingers and party lifestyles and material enticements are what a lot of them are here for.  The remaining .001% that are real and great catches run away as fast as they can.

Notice the one thing really missing here: real stories of real success and can be verified.

So, on the off chance this is read by a REAL lady that is looking, message us.  If you are a scammer that we have dealt with or outed in the past, the internet never forgets.  

On that note, we will NOT be renewing till we see a positive change.  Don't hear anything about that anymore.... hmmm....

I don't know how many here are interested in paranormal investigations, but my daughter and I sure are. I am going through footage from our trip to investigate the Trans-Allegheny Lunatic Asylum in Weston, WV. Just from the little bit on her phone, we caught what sounds like a "hey" and "Hi!" also some long drawn out sighs after my daughter said she was done for the night. When I started, still have a ways to go, to watch some of her video recording, she caught what looks like orbs and caught on video the necromancer saying the name and age of a possible spirit. So far, all is looking great that we caught some fantastic evidence! I can't wait to finish her recordings and then check out to see what I caught! I do know that I went through at least 4, maybe 5 of my fully charged batteries while there. With one draining almost immediately after I installed it! Can't wait and will update later!

Now that my husband and I have decided we'd love to add another love into our lives, I learned quite quickly this will be no easy task. Finding A creative that's vibrant & willing to actually talk seems to be the impossible. 

Join me and Nikke as we go for our morning walk.  

I'll take you go one of my favorite places and show you WHY I like this spot so much.

I hope to see you soon!  Comment and let me know what you think about the Off Grid Homestead in Costa Rica!Would you enjoy being here?

I am getting a lot of people that are not really on here seeking a real unity. I am at the point where I have done the research in poly and pro and cons and then figured out this is truly what I am seeking in my journey. I have done the mental work with my life coach as far as toxic past relationships and just self love and now can be able to love someone else. I want not only a husband that I am able to be fully submissive to but also have my sister wife that we are able to come together and love the same king and just pour our love not only into home but also into the family unit I just want peace and positive energy.

Hi, I'm Allen.

I decided to do a few videos so you can get to know me and find out what I am doing.

Feel free to bookmark my profile, comment and follow along.  I'm sure you will enjoy learning about my Costa Rica Off-Grid Homestead

A friend here has been giving me some critiques from the single woman seeking point of view. 

Apparently I write too much when i send a multi paragraph introduction. I have no idea with the huge number of poly ie swinger hedonist types that are here vs woman seeking plural marriage, if it will make any difference. I guess I should limit myself to 3-4 lines and leave it be.

Will have to give that a try and see if it makes a difference. 

Would appreciate some feedback from the woman who read through the blogs about what sort of introduction gets their attention. Well, positive attention. 

Another month and another string of scammers.  We have a huge farmhouse, are willing to accept women with small kids, and very open about rural life on our farmstead... yet....

We try to put a lot of effort into chatting and getting to know folks to see if they are a good match.

But, the vast majority are not actually here looking to become a sisterwife.  I don't know about the couples, but I am beginning to suspect that a lot of the couples are not either- just swingers searching for the next bit of 'fun'.

The latest scammer was purportedly from Northwest Ohio.  She literally started asking for $20 within 2 hours of starting to chat.  "living with my parents and they won't feed me".  

A video chat showed the reality: she has a wedding ring, a child, and lives in an apartment.  Later she started pushing for us to send money for a bus ticket - claimed she had no ID and had to buy it so she could use the eticket - the usual scammer nonsense.

I don't bother to name names - they always change them anyways.

Speaking of which: when they are identified they don't get deleted.  And when they come back, they don't get deleted.  So, you end up with the same ones again and again.

At least there is now a 'willing to relocate' info on profiles now.  Not that folks will be honest about that either, but it does help a bit.

Some of the things that have become glaringly clear to us in the last 3 months about the women looking:

1.  Several of them are mentally disabled.  They are either low IQ, or have other significant issues and in several cases have 'caregivers' or are in treatment centers.

2.  Several are serial seekers.  They go from family to family and in many cases are already chatting up several 'next stops' for when they decide to move on.  A variety of motivations fuel these ones but I'm betting that deep down they are looking for the fairy tale and or big score.

3.  Outright scammers - send me money for a ticket, etc.

4.  Bored and lonely.  Unhappy at home, lie about living circumstances, usually grossly obese, etc.

5.  Academics - these folks are researching the lifestyle and documenting the real folks on here and their responses to 'chats' for use in research papers and/or articles.  They are fake and are 'playing the part' to draw out the 'answers' they want.

6.  Knights in Armor - looking for low hanging fruit for prosecution "I have a 17 year old daughter with me that is interested in the lifestyle too", or just disrupt a lifestyle that they KNOW is wrong.  So far, every one of these I have seen is quickly and decisively deleted by the admins (wonder why they don't do that on the others?).

Most of these can be eliminated by ID verification.  Not sure why it hasn't been implemented.  But it sure would help.

Constantly vetting the scammers gets depressing.  And is a waste of time for paying users.

Hopefully things will change...

There are fakes that the admins kick fairly quickly but then there are those that fly under the radar for a day or two.

You should start watching the signs so you don't get played or just plain disappointed. 

* Messaged you out of nowhere but never looked at your profile

* Has just created the ad today but has several new "friends" all within just a few minutes 

* Profile details don't remotely match photo. My favorite was the pale blond blue eyed native American from Nigeria 

-feel free to add other obvious signs

Stop being suckered.

If you stop being an easy mark to these leeches then maybe it will cease to be such a target. At very minimum,  you will not feel like a prize dumba** for getting played. 

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