I think we're hearing pretty much the same tune: you adjust to me, but don't expect me to do any adjusting.My statement to them is that you are joining a family already in process/ progress.
This was a conversation between a couple of my Poly male friends about potential SW’s wanting to join the family.
For those of you who are believers, or know anything about Christianity, Does Christ accept you as you are? Of course! Do you really want to remain in the condition you were in when He accepted you into His family?
If your answer is that you dont want Christ to change you to be more like Him every day, then I’d humbly submit that you have bigger Spiritual problems. In my mind, that means you do not understand Christianity at its simplest form. Our goal as believers is to be transformed into someone that He can present to His Father without spot or wrinkle. This is just our reasonable service Romans 12:1&2
Joining a believing family is much the same idea. As husbands, our primary job is to be able and willing to cover and shelter women who want to know and be more like Christ, and to help steward them to be more like Him, and to be fruitful and multiply, both physically and spiritually.
Who doesnt believe that theres a better version of you just waiting and longing to emerge? Your New Years resolution just told on you! God gave the world husbands to facilitate that incredible transformation into your best you.
Just my .02, and not every married man is a husband, just like not every married woman is a wife.
Peace, Love and all the Fuzzy Stuff!
I'm Just keeping faith she'll come our way and wants a family that can offer her lots of love and compassion.someone hung up on in exterior looks but really seriously settling down and growing ❤ together. As a family.
Growing together spiritually as one big happy family.
I don’t care how ready you think you are, when someone finally comes along that actually has the potential to fit in your family it creates labor pains in every one of the parties involved.
Wives that are previously reserved but accepting of poly have to re-examine their trust in their husbands judgement and commitment to them and the family. That’s not a poly thing, that’s a people thing. For example, a wife that’s totally ok with one particular lady joining the home, may be reserved initially about a different lady or completely resistant to another.
And don’t get me started on the wives that fit the bobblehead category. When their crucible hits, Katy bar the door!
Husbands that are totally convinced that they’ve got it figured out find out that understanding theory and a commitment to being the greatest husband is just the nose under the tent flap.
Prospects that think they know exactly what they want realize (maybe) that they really have no clear idea of how to make it happen even when they’ve found the “perfect” family! It reminds me of the neighbors dog chasing cars, he wouldn’t know how to drive it if he caught it!
The point is that the metamorphosis for everyone is a litmus test of IF you can succeed at poly for life.
And butterflies aren’t made overnight. . . .