User blogs

VV76
Not many want to metamorphosize! Even fewer realize that this path demands it!


I don’t care how ready you think you are, when someone finally comes along that actually has the potential to fit in your family it creates labor pains in every one of the parties involved.


Wives that are previously reserved but accepting of poly have to re-examine their trust in their husbands judgement and commitment to them and the family. That’s not a poly thing, that’s a people thing. For example, a wife that’s totally ok with one particular lady joining the home, may be reserved initially about a different lady or completely resistant to another.
And don’t get me started on the wives that fit the bobblehead category. When their crucible hits, Katy bar the door!



Husbands that are totally convinced that they’ve got it figured out find out that understanding theory and a commitment to being the greatest husband is just the nose under the tent flap.


Prospects that think they know exactly what they want realize (maybe) that they really have no clear idea of how to make it happen even when they’ve found the “perfect” family! It reminds me of the neighbors dog chasing cars, he wouldn’t know how to drive it if he caught it!


The point is that the metamorphosis for everyone is a litmus test of IF you can succeed at poly for life.



And butterflies aren’t made overnight. . . .

VV76 May 23 '20 · Comments: 1
VV76
When I started studying poly 3 or so years ago, I had no idea that it would be as involved as it was or make so many changes in my life and christian walk.


One of the massive changes in my family’s life was that we were unwelcome in a church that we loved, and were actively participants in, and I had a large role teaching adults in.


We were summarily given the left foot of fellowship, simply because I had been studying this “taboo” topic, and had concluded in favor of it.  Not because we were looking for another wife or anything like that.  Simply studying it and accepting it as a theoretically, Biblically acceptable family structure was enough for people I’d considered friends for over a decade to do a Jekyl/Hyde transformation.  Only one person actually tried to look at the Bible with me over it and that was not the Pastor or Deacons.


My point with all of this, is that most of the time, for single Christian women who are hoping to marry into a family with a God fearing christian man, the possibility of continuing to be an active member of a church while being a plural wife is a very slim to none possibility.  At least if you are public about it in the very least.  


There are definitely alternative solutions to this issue, many home assemblies are ok with it, and many christian men who are poly for biblical reasons are a cut above most Corporate Christianity nodders, and should be more than capable of leading you into a closer walk with the Saviour.


Don’t let this discourage you from your search, just understand that there are more life changes to this than sharing a great man!

VV76 Apr 28 '20 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 1
Polywifen
I am not looking to be 'added' to someone's life, I am not an extra or a thing.  I am a person, I have a life and family, I want a connection, I want a blending and joining together.  You will be brought into MY family just as much as I am brought into yours.


I am not an addition. 


Please be aware of the language you use, you are objectifying us and you don't even know it.


xx

Polywifen Apr 19 '20 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 1 · Tags: polygamy, seeking, couple privilege
Cajun_N_Lily
We hope that everyone is staying safe with this virus that is going around, especially those in the most infected areas.  we are doing good and my wife tested negative for her test and we are waiting for my results to come in..  Once again we hope that everyone is staying extremely safe.
Cajun_N_Lily Mar 31 '20 · Comments: 1
Beautiful42
Hello I would like to introduce myself my name is Monique and I am brand new to the site I have been thinking about this for a while after I got divorced five years ago because lately I’ve been kind of the second will in a relationship so why keep such a gem a secret when she can be out in the open.
Beautiful42 Jan 18 '20 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 1
natashar
It'll save your life mind and soul lol..truly. Because the couple that made me his second wife did not do any research and just assumed they knew what it was and painfully 4 months later, were still dealing with a very insecure, toxic wife with very unstable insecurities with in herself & its taking a nasty toll on me and my poly first husband, daily, and weekly. She's obviously not prepared for this like she pretended to be. 

So prepare prepare prepare. Because thats the key to smoother happiness for everybody. Inner work on one self is the major key here and every relationship. Business or personal. Yup. Proof is in the pudding.

Bye for now.

Swinsons
Love is a funny thing to describe. We all think we know what it is, yet it always seems difficult to explain. Some say that love in a relationship is either there or it isn't. From personal experience, that is the lazy approach. 


Imagine that everyone is standing on a personal sized iceberg with ropes connecting them. The ropes are not unlimited and can fall off the icebergs if not held onto. When two people pick up the rope connecting them, if they do nothing else, they will remain that distance to each other. If one starts pulling, they will slowly come closer. If they both pull, the they will quickly come together. If one let's go and the other pulls, they will drift apart and the rope will run out. If one throws the rope away, same thing, only no chance of picking the rope up again.


Once the two are together, they simply need to maintain it until the icebergs become one. If the two become complacent and let the rope go, they will drift apart again. It could be fast or slow, but they will need to pull together again to not lose each other. 


This scenario can work for any amount of people, such as a relationship of three people. The more they all pull together, the more unified they will become. It must be noted that even with relationships containing more than two people, that each individual relationship must be nurtured. You can love any number of people, but if you do not pull together on both ends, it can be difficult.


Those that desire the love pull the rope. Those that don't truly care, don't even hold the rope. Those that reject the love throw the rope away. And those that want it, but limit their effort, merely hold the rope and there is no progression in the relationship. 

Swinsons Jan 16 '19 · Comments: 1 · Tags: love&work
dwc
I am looking to starting in the polygamy lifestyle. It’s Something that I have always wanted and dreamed of. I think the bigger the family unit is the better. All members can contribute to the greater good of the family. It’s not about sex persay it’s about the family and the love that can be shared. I look forward to hearing from you.
dwc Jan 3 '19 · Comments: 1
loveandgratitude
How many people (families or singles) do you talk to at one time? At what point is it disrespectful to keep adding people? Think about it. (If anyone even reads this.) Think about yourself and also make sure to think about others! After all, we as a community are full of so much love. I need to focus my own love right now. I’ll keep you posted.
loveandgratitude Sep 22 '18 · Comments: 1
loveandgratitude
Just kidding. Blah blah blah to come! Hmmm. I would like to start a blog about the experiences of a single woman who puts herself out there for love. There are a lot of us. We are doubted my many. Those who have come before us have broken a lot of hearts. We are questioned, even often interrogated. I suppose self-doubt is normal all the way around. Can you imagine things growing organically and openly? If you can, that’s great. Really, this needs to be done with resumes. People say things like about telling them your hobbies and how they will benefit the family in order to be “considered.” I just think it sounds funny. Considered. A job. Being a sister wife or in any form of polyamory is a job. We might as well be sitting in a waiting room with our lists of recommendations. And that goes on on both sides. I can try to wish it were different, but I guess this is our reality. Let’s do it with more warmth. Easier said than done. We get pressured. Sometimes we are inundated by emails. Sometimes we have zero. That almost compounds the feeling of pressure. On ourselves to be successful in love, loneliness. It’s like ”Hey wait, I am cute. Where did everybody go? How do I prove myself? Do I need to be cuter? Have more money? Where have I gone wrong?” It’s a silly thing, but so many of us feel it. Hmmmm. Plural love. Plural marriage. I was at dinner with the in-laws (if you read my profile, you’ll see I’ve been widowed 14 years. But the in-laws are always in-laws!). They started talking about polygamists in Utah. The typical talk: Disgust over FLDS. I looked over to my 17 year old daughter (who knows all about my beliefs and my search), and I opened my eyes widely to speak to her. I shaked my head. I thought, “Will you Stop speaking about the stereotypes from tv? This is different. What will happen when I meet the right family? Will they think I am even more of a weirdo? Will they talk about the Bible and monogamy? Will I have to go further into polygamy being normal in the Bible or keep my mouth shut? Will I just present it as ‘none of your business?’ Will they be disgusted?” That’s the internal pressure. Let. Me. Breathe. Love is freedom. Allowing oneself to believe in abundance. No limits to joy. Giving oneself the freedom to just live. Just be. Be love. Sigh. I know I am a romantic. But I am indeed alone. Climbing the rungs of self knowledge to the heights of sharing lives together. Those are my thoughts of the day.
loveandgratitude Sep 13 '18 · Comments: 1
Pages: « Previous ... 4 5 6 7 8 Next
Password protected photo
Password protected photo
Password protected photo