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Spiritual_Couple

     I'll try to make this as concise as possible without going too far off subject. There is so much out there in the world unknown to us that I'm not going to pretend that I even have a grasp of it. I do know that I do understand the things that directly affect me and the world I live in. Having said that, in terms of people and relationships specifically, polygamy seems to happen everyday, right in front of us, we're currently in them, and don't even realize it. If defining polygamy as a non-monogamous relationship is the basis, with the self-intended creation of a relationship being the cause, then in general, the following could be included:



    Baby-mama/ multiple marriages: If you are in/ have a past relationship that involves children that in the new/ current relationship requires you to be a part of their lives, then the new relationship is required to recognize/ accept the connections that bond you to the previous relationship, even if they have now become friendships. This only increases as new relationships are formed past the 2nd one, whether it was someone's 2nd to 3rd marriage with children in each of them, or if it was of the one-night stand situation, or even a combination of the two, AND this has NO bearing on any of the relationships being good OR bad.


     Mistresses/ Beau: Those of the political scene know that this is an accepted standard, where the politician is married, but has had extramarital affairs that they must now acknowledge, and /or is engaging in currently . The list is TOO long to even begin with, but you can start with the current president Trump, Clinton, heck, probably most of them fools on the hill, etc.  This also includes our own family members, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. Remember all the whispering at the family cookout when some kids show up that look VERY familiar, like you know them but this is the first time you've met them, then someone asks, "Who's your daddy?" 


     Extended families: This includes intended relationships that are there to support other friends, while creating bonds that are exclusive to that group of members. Think "The Fast And Furious", or even the village-style support for taking care of deceased friends and family-member's surviving spouses/ children, whether for emotional, financial, or physical support (Think Military/ Armed Forces Family). Being of a military family, I have seen a lot of that happen.


     Positive relationships with previous relationships: Exes, past boyfriends/ girlfriends that didn't work out when they were dating each other but they are better as friends, such intimate knowledge of each other may strengthen the relationship, but may cause some insecurity and jealousy of the new relationship, especially if your ex is your best friend.


     Please note, none of this is to be consider negative or positive. It is just an observation of the various relationship that I see happen everyday, yet the only LEGALLY accepted status is for the monogamous design. Curious as to why that is when polygamous situations happens more often than not.


barnerbeautiful
I have always fet in a part of me that this is how it is meant to be. 3 means so much in so many ancient texts and believes, why not in out lifes? More love, more support, a friend alsways by your side. I'm coming to bnelive it's not possible, all these dateing sites just want a hookup but thats not what this is about. I wanta wife, a sister wife. To love and cherish spoile. Ando sometimes I feel like Im crazy for it but who has the right to tell me this tisnt how its meant to be? Im fun, down to earth, educated, work a great job and fincially secure.
barnerbeautiful May 24 · Rate: 4.60 · Comments: 5
shanequas
I am new to the polygamy life but I have talked to many families and some felt promising but failed. I feel like a lot of the failure with the families were because the families wanted things to move too fast and wanted me to just go along with it. I want that connection and the certainty with the family that God brings to me so I feel like it shouldn’t be rushed. I have an opened mind to things but I don’t believe rushing into a family without security of forever not just in the moment. I will keep staying encouraged that the family I am looking for is out there!
shanequas May 20 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 2
iqbalanas

Can someone please tell me why it is unlawful in US and Canada to conduct polygamy. To me, it makes no sense. Aren't their special interest groups out there to abolish this unnecessary law?


To some extent, I can understand if the parliament does not want to consider the second spouse with regards to rules around child benefits, taxation etc. but having a law that prohibits polygamy seems so unnecessary.


Religiously speaking, polygamy is allowed in Islam and probably also allowed in other religions at least Christianity.


It seems like doing the right thing is frowned upon but the state does not find any problem with having strip clubs sand brothels.

iqbalanas May 12 · Comments: 10 · Tags: law, islam, christianity
GeeSoClean
We are back on here to try and find a co-wife.

After talking to a few different females, we decide to keep searching.

Trying to find a mentally / emotionally stable woman who is serious about this lifestyle is definitely a tedious task. 

Don't be shy, reach out, we don't bit unless you want us to!

Noblequest
I tend to glance at the list of users who have viewed our profile fairly regularly and saw a profile announcing that the site was full of "fakes and aggressive men" and it inspired me to write a blog post on a topic I have had in mind for a while.


I do not disagree with this person in the slightest in their assessment that the site...and all of the others are likely to be the same realistically... is full of fakes and aggressive men.

The fakes are frequently just simple scammers and honestly you have to be a full on lumphead to fall for the kind of obvious cut and paste from a translator bot message that will pop up. Seriously... does anybody really think that a bunch of girls from Ghana are clambering to get into plural families in the states? Anyway, scams happen all the time and this is the internet boys and girls,  it is part of the environment.  The actual troublesome ones are the fakes from the point of view that they are not serious and are just looking to get an ego stroke or to jack with those plig weirdos or whatever. Tonnes of them on these sites. 

With respect to the aggressive guys, I can just assume that they are the assholes who are either trying to larp polygamy because of some fantasy and again ego stroke issue or they are the sort of douche that has managed to bully or convince their frequently unwilling wives into this search with claims that God is talking to them directly in a big booming voice so he can use her faith against her or some other scam perhaps involving fear of losing financial support for her and her kids. The reason being in the end that he wishes to have regular sexual access to another woman. This sort of beta dickhead is not really going to come in many flavors but aggressive is certainly one of the most popular .

Now don't get me wrong... I am not white  knighting the girls on here at all. They leave so much to be desired that it makes me all the more thankful that I met and married one of the few real gems that really was looking to be part of a plural family. 

The vast majority of woman on here are just simply ill mannered brats that I would not have at all. While a man is absolutely the head of the family, a man should not be forced to reraise a woman he has married and try to undo all of the apparently shoddy work that her parents did in teaching her the bone basics of how to treat people.

I know that just about every serious couple on here who is seeking a sisterwife has experienced the ghosting treatment from the singled women (presuming that they are A. Single B. Women ((what the hell is wrong with people that they have nothing better to do?)) C. Seriously looking for a family instead of screwing around.). They exchange a few messages and or emails and then puff of smoke and the girl is gone. No warning, no 'Thanks but I don't think we are a match' or anything.

Now don't get to thinking I am just being butthurt that some girls ghosted me. A. Noooope. See the profile. Not looking for another wife. Maybe someday but right now we are just trying to network with the community. B. As i previously mentioned, I would not have the ones with such bad manners gift wrapped. I do not wish to spend my life in a contentious marriage with a brat I have to reeducate on courtesy and consideration for others as opposed to the shallow narcissist who can not be bothered considering the time or feelings of others. There are some couples here who really get ahead of themselves emotionally after a few exchanges and while that is not some random girls fault, she should be aware of the effect just blowing them off has. Lots give up just because some woman was not interested in thinking beyond the end of her nose. I/we have been happy to meet and chat with women here but we sure are not going to come out of the gate as anything but plain old friendly and certainly not flirty or whatever.


Yeah I know... 'but a lot of guys are assholes and won't take a polite no'... or 'I get so many emails I am overwhelmed' etc etc. Yeah? Is this your first time on the internet as a female? These are such common issues with such common solutions that I don't see them as valid complaints. Just part of the equation with online seeking of any kind. 

So to my mind the couples who get ghosted by the women with bad manners, just move along and be glad. Glad that you found out about this character flaw after a couple of notes back and forth. Imagine how much worse it would be if it seemed to work out only to have the rug pulled out much further along... I mean that genuinely. It could be so so much worse. Nobody is here, whether it is as a single woman or a couple, to get their emotional guts ripped out. 



Noblequest May 8 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 6
latonyal
I just found this site today after trying others. Please don't anyone judgeme. Like I said I'm very new to this and still learning. On another site I did begin to talk to another couple. I started having feelings for the husband. Then I had a wake up call. It was not the marriage for me and I almost came close to packing up my bags and moving out of state to be with them. The reason I said it was not for me because that marriage was not about me being equal to the husband and first wife. Joining there family would have required me to change myself completely to fit what they desired and for me to be miserable because basically I had to fake it to be with them. It seemed like with the husband it was more about sex. I was considered selfish and unsubmissive if I didn't perform sexually the way he wanted. The wife....i was required to stay home, clean, cook and tend to their children while they worked. That's not what I had planned for myself, even in a monogamous relationship. I wss considered selfish and unsubmissive for not wanting to. Also I had to change my eating, my physical appearance, etc to suit him. I was not allowed to go anywhere outside the house without a family member. The excuse was that wanting to do things on my own was saying I didn't want to be with family. I felt like that was an excuse for just keeping me under watchful eyes. I mean every marriage is different. Some might be willing. I woke up and realise I felt like it was controlling, they was selfish, I was going to be a sex slave, maid and nanny. I was just a grown child. I had no say so, no compromising so I could be happy, nothing about that relationship included me in it. I might be wrong for feeling that way but I experienced other couples only about sex and wanting me to be bisexual. So can someone teach me the true marriage of Poly and set my mind at ease that this is the right thing for me. That all couples are not like that. 
latonyal Apr 25 · Comments: 6
TexasJD
Hello everyone,


It's been quite a while since last I was here. So much so that the site looks completely different. But I am back now for some time. I am in a new city with a new job.


I am in New Braunfels, TX which is in between Austin and San Antonio. I am 15 mins from 2 beautiful rivers which are a delight to spend the day relaxing on. This area in the Hill Country of TX is gorgeous.


I am still looking for those to call my family. 


If you are interested in talking don't hesitate to contact me.



TexasJD Apr 21 · Tags: hello, back, still looking
natashar
It'll save your life mind and soul lol..truly. Because the couple that made me his second wife did not do any research and just assumed they knew what it was and painfully 4 months later, were still dealing with a very insecure, toxic wife with very unstable insecurities with in herself & its taking a nasty toll on me and my poly first husband, daily, and weekly. She's obviously not prepared for this like she pretended to be. 

So prepare prepare prepare. Because thats the key to smoother happiness for everybody. Inner work on one self is the major key here and every relationship. Business or personal. Yup. Proof is in the pudding.

Bye for now.

Chaiel
Only recently accepted the fact that I could have a poly relationship and have come to embrace that. Now seeking to take the next step on that journey. Hookups are all so exciting, but I am looking for something more substantial. Are there any women out there seeking the same thing?
Chaiel Apr 19
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