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Good morning, its late and i am about to go to bed.
I decided i would write a little about my hopes. I hope to meet a family that one to add another. That want a lifelong commitment. Not a passing fad, and nothing that will be instanst, but taking the time to know me as i learn about them. adding to one another, building a future together is my dream.
I know im older than most girls, im 47 now, but i hope im not too old. I would never be happy as just a single couple and i dont want that. I need a family. i am too old to have children, my about to hit menapause. I have no children. I have no debts, other than my student loan but thats not a big issue. My degree should allow me to move anywhere easily.
I have pets. I have a dog and two cats who i adore. I am a confident girl, I have travelled a lot. I think I have a lot to offer, if nothing else than my knowledge of backgammon.
I used to be in a poly, but sadly he died or i would still be there. Being poly was the happiest time of my life. It truely is an amazing way to be. I love having sister wives i can speak with and make friends with.
I hope one day perhaps with this web site i will connect with a new family. Tread once more upon this path.
The emotion of jealousy is normally triggered by feeling such as (is he going to give her more attention than me?) (Is she going to give him more attention than me?) These feelings also can be triggered by the lack of self worth.
When one feels jealousy, they need to openly discuss how they feel with their polygamous/polyamory family.
The family also must not overreact and should listen and talk about ways to make the other who is experiencing jealousy, feel more comfortable in the relationship. This is not easy, the as polygamist we have chosen a lifestyle which is not considered the norm in American society.
My current soulmate and I believe in this lifestyle, not so much for physical gratification, but because we believe by practicing polygamy, it shows and helps us grow, loving others unconditionally and not just one individual in our life.
Can feelings of jealousy creep up on individuals who are very balanced? the answer is yes.
But the results are the same, if jealousy is not recognized and expressed to the others involved in the family. It acts like a cancer bringing destruction in it's wake.
Growing up and being around polygamist families I saw both the good and the bad, the families that were well-adjusted and loved each other, confront issues like jealousy, finances, expectations of children and responsibilities openly. They understood that real love require having good communication skills with each other, and that these issues had to be confront it before they cause a problem in all relationships within the family.
The polygamist families that ended up splintering, leaving many individuals hurt during these break ups, contained individuals who did not know how to openly communicate their desires and feelings to each other. Polygamy requires communication it's just that simple, polygamy requires work, polygamy requires mutual respect regardless of gender of the individuals involved in the family.
Most of all polygamy requires compromise and unconditional love for all members of the family and understanding their personal viewpoint even though it may not be our own. I encourage all individuals who fill jealously to discuss their feelings with their family members. And for those individuals who are contemplating relationships, to fully understand that the relationships will ultimately fail, unless all involved possess good communication skills.
So the first step to even contemplating a polygamist marriage, or even polyamory relationship is to address our own individual communication skills first, Secondly it is highly suggested that family set aside time weekly, to discuss things openly that may be bothering individual and the family unit. When the children are approaching adult age, it is suggested that they are included in these discussions. This is to give them some guidance on how to use conflict resolution to work through problems that the family and family's experience.
With love and patience destructive emotions such a jealous can be confronted and even alleviated, I hope the small post has helped. We express our best wishes for all, Sincerely, Carrie and Charles
One aspect of healthy masculinity in polyamory is the ability to communicate openly and honestly with partners. This means being able to express one's needs and desires while also listening to and respecting the needs and desires of others. Communication is key in polyamorous relationships, and healthy masculinity involves being able to have difficult conversations and resolve conflicts in a constructive and respectful manner.
Another important aspect of healthy masculinity in polyamory is respecting boundaries. In a polyamorous relationship, each partner may have different boundaries and limits regarding physical intimacy, emotional connections, and time commitments. Healthy masculinity involves respecting these boundaries and not pressuring partners to do anything they are not comfortable with.
Trust is also a crucial component of healthy masculinity in polyamory. This means being reliable, accountable, and honest with partners. Men who practice healthy masculinity in polyamorous relationships understand that building trust takes time and effort, and they are committed to doing the work necessary to maintain the trust of their partners.
Finally, healthy masculinity in polyamory involves challenging toxic beliefs and behaviors. This can include challenging societal norms that promote possessiveness, jealousy, and competition among men. Men who practice healthy masculinity in polyamory are committed to creating a culture of respect and inclusivity where all partners feel valued and supported.
In conclusion, healthy masculinity in polyamory involves open communication, respecting boundaries, building trust, and challenging toxic beliefs and behaviors. By cultivating these qualities, men can become better partners in polyamorous relationships and contribute to a more positive and respectful culture.
Apparently I write too much when i send a multi paragraph introduction. I have no idea with the huge number of poly ie swinger hedonist types that are here vs woman seeking plural marriage, if it will make any difference. I guess I should limit myself to 3-4 lines and leave it be.
Will have to give that a try and see if it makes a difference.
Would appreciate some feedback from the woman who read through the blogs about what sort of introduction gets their attention. Well, positive attention.
You should start watching the signs so you don't get played or just plain disappointed.
* Messaged you out of nowhere but never looked at your profile
* Has just created the ad today but has several new "friends" all within just a few minutes
* Profile details don't remotely match photo. My favorite was the pale blond blue eyed native American from Nigeria
-feel free to add other obvious signs
Stop being suckered.
If you stop being an easy mark to these leeches then maybe it will cease to be such a target. At very minimum, you will not feel like a prize dumba** for getting played.
