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"Man, you should be some sort of pimp!"

"I don't know how you do it. I can scarcely take great care of one!"

Those are the two sorts of reactions (other than the clear gaze) that are run of the mill when a man is 'turning out' to somebody about having a plural family. The littler gathering essentially accept that it's about the sex. The bigger gathering comprehends the duty that a Christian man has for the individuals from his family.

For the most part, in their reactions to the subject of polygamy, both men and ladies uncover something of what they consider the way of marriage and its expenses and advantages. Also, the truth of the matter is, you can't appreciate the diversion unless you concede to the tenets, and there's no reason for belligerence the relative benefits of polygamy with somebody that has a totally extraordinary esteem framework and comprehension of what marriage is than you do.

So in case you're engaging this nutty thought, be prompted that you would be advised to have your own particular esteems cleared up. A few people will acknowledge what you're doing on the grounds that they simply couldn't care less in particular, some have an "incline toward toleration" logic, and some will love you enough to at present love you notwithstanding when they think you've truly lost your brain. Yet, then again, some will believe you're odd funkily, some will believe you're irregular scarily, some will believe you're risky, and some will detest you.

All in all, our families and families we know have been tossed out of houses of worship, disregarded in their nearby groups, lost kids in care fights, had first spouses leave after it gets hard, been undermined with criminal arraignment (no feelings yet, express gratitude toward God), had developed youngsters cut us off, and in one case even had a demise risk. Not everyone, not in any case the vast majority, will despise you and attempt to hurt you. Simply enough individuals to keep it truly intriguing.

That is the awful news. The uplifting news is that this will improve you a man, a superior spouse, and a superior father. A superior sibling to other men in the collection of Christ. A more mindful adherent of the lessons of Jesus and a superior audience to the still, little voice of the Holy Spirit. In the event that you need this way of life to work—implanted in 21st century Western culture, with its open antagonistic vibe to and mistreatment of conventional parts and connections—you have no other decision.

Lol! Pale skinned blond showing tonnes of cleavage in a professional photo is apparently Native American from Nigeria and here looking for plural marriage. Yeeeeah

I am putting the odds at 50/50 as to whether the account will exist by the time I get out of my next appointment and can look again.

I am making fun of the lame nature of some of these efforts at scamming but there are so many people that get hooked by these people and get screwed over in one form or another.

So stop being so thirty and eager to get a hose job.  Be cautious and not so gullible. 

I just found this site today after trying others. Please don't anyone judgeme. Like I said I'm very new to this and still learning. On another site I did begin to talk to another couple. I started having feelings for the husband. Then I had a wake up call. It was not the marriage for me and I almost came close to packing up my bags and moving out of state to be with them. The reason I said it was not for me because that marriage was not about me being equal to the husband and first wife. Joining there family would have required me to change myself completely to fit what they desired and for me to be miserable because basically I had to fake it to be with them. It seemed like with the husband it was more about sex. I was considered selfish and unsubmissive if I didn't perform sexually the way he wanted. The wife....i was required to stay home, clean, cook and tend to their children while they worked. That's not what I had planned for myself, even in a monogamous relationship. I wss considered selfish and unsubmissive for not wanting to. Also I had to change my eating, my physical appearance, etc to suit him. I was not allowed to go anywhere outside the house without a family member. The excuse was that wanting to do things on my own was saying I didn't want to be with family. I felt like that was an excuse for just keeping me under watchful eyes. I mean every marriage is different. Some might be willing. I woke up and realise I felt like it was controlling, they was selfish, I was going to be a sex slave, maid and nanny. I was just a grown child. I had no say so, no compromising so I could be happy, nothing about that relationship included me in it. I might be wrong for feeling that way but I experienced other couples only about sex and wanting me to be bisexual. So can someone teach me the true marriage of Poly and set my mind at ease that this is the right thing for me. That all couples are not like that. 

Hello Everyone,

We hope this message finds you well. For those who may be unfamiliar, my partner Robyn and I are the proud owners and operators of Sister Wives, a dedicated platform designed to foster meaningful connections and facilitate successful matchmaking. Over the years, we have witnessed countless couples and groups find their perfect matches through our community, and it brings us immense joy to support individuals seeking a sister wife or expanding their family through our services.

However, like any matchmaking service, we encounter certain challenges along the way. One significant issue that frequently arises is the prevalence of games—both intentional and unintentional—that can complicate the matchmaking process. Today, I’d like to share some of our professional advice to help you navigate these challenges and minimize potential heartache.

Understanding the Landscape of Online Matchmaking

Online matchmaking offers a unique opportunity to connect with individuals you might not encounter in your everyday life. While this broadens the pool of potential matches, it also introduces complexities that require careful navigation. One of the most common obstacles we observe is the tendency for individuals to engage in games—whether through delayed communication, reluctance to move the relationship forward, or other behaviors that can stall the matchmaking process.

Our Commitment to Authentic Connections

At Sister Wives, we are committed to fostering authentic and sincere connections. We believe that transparency and prompt communication are foundational to building lasting relationships. Based on our extensive experience in poly matchmaking, we have developed a set of guidelines to help you identify and avoid common pitfalls that can lead to frustration and heartache.

Professional Advice to Minimize Heartache in Matchmaking

Below are four essential time frames and corresponding actions you should consider to ensure a healthy and progressive relationship development:

1. Prompt Communication: The Importance of Timeliness

Time Frame: Within 1-2 Days

Guideline: If your potential match is unwilling or unable to engage in a phone call within a day or two of initiating contact, it may be time to reassess the viability of the connection. Prompt communication is a strong indicator of genuine interest and commitment. If someone consistently delays or avoids phone conversations, it could signal a lack of seriousness or other underlying issues that may hinder the relationship’s progression.

Action: Don’t hesitate to move on if timely communication is not forthcoming. Your time and emotional energy are valuable, and it’s essential to invest them in relationships that show mutual respect and eagerness to connect.

2. Transition to Video Chat: Building Trust and Authenticity

Time Frame: Within 3-7 Days

Guideline: After exchanging messages for a few days, transitioning to a video chat is crucial. Video communication adds a layer of authenticity and helps in assessing compatibility beyond textual interactions. If your match hesitates or refuses to engage in a video call within a week, it might be a red flag. This reluctance could indicate potential catfishing or manipulative behavior, where the individual may not be who they claim to be.

Action: Prioritize moving to video chats to ensure that you are interacting with a genuine person. If resistance persists, it is advisable to discontinue the interaction to protect yourself from possible deception.

3. Meeting in Person: The Cornerstone of a Genuine Relationship

Time Frame: Within 1 Month

Guideline: The ultimate goal of any matchmaking process is to establish a meaningful, real-world relationship. If, after a month of communicating, your potential match is not willing to arrange an in-person meeting, it’s a clear indication that the relationship is stagnating. Virtual relationships, while convenient, lack the depth and connection that face-to-face interactions provide. Without taking the next step to meet in person, the relationship cannot fully develop or thrive.

Action: Encourage a meeting within the established time frame. If your match is hesitant or continuously postpones, it’s best to consider moving forward without them. Embracing the next step in courting and dating is essential for building a solid foundation.

4. Commitment to Proximity: Planning for the Future

Time Frame: Within 2-6 Months

Guideline: For relationships that progress beyond the initial stages, it is important to discuss and plan for future proximity. If, within six months, your partner is not willing to consider moving closer to you or making concrete plans for your future together, it may indicate a lack of long-term commitment. Successful relationships, especially in the context of polyamory and polygamous arrangements, require clear intentions and mutual effort to maintain closeness and unity.

Action: Evaluate the long-term potential of the relationship. If your partner is not ready to plan for a shared future, it might be time to reassess the relationship’s viability. Ensuring that both parties are aligned in their goals and willingness to make necessary adjustments is crucial for sustaining a healthy and fulfilling partnership.

Drawing from Personal Experience

These guidelines are not just theoretical; they are grounded in my personal experiences and the numerous relationships I have witnessed through Sister Wives. Managing a polyamorous matchmaking service has provided me with invaluable insights into human behavior and relationship dynamics. I understand firsthand the emotional investments involved and the importance of clear, honest communication in preventing unnecessary heartache.

Moving Forward with Confidence

Embarking on a matchmaking journey can be both exciting and daunting. By adhering to these professional guidelines, you can navigate the complexities of online matchmaking with greater confidence and clarity. Remember, your time and emotions are precious—invest them wisely in relationships that show genuine potential and mutual respect.

Final Thoughts

At Sister Wives, our mission is to support and guide you in finding meaningful connections that enrich your life. We are committed to continually improving our services and providing valuable resources to help you succeed in your matchmaking endeavors. Should you have any questions or need further assistance, please do not hesitate to reach out to us.

Best of luck to you all in your search for love and companionship.

Warm regards,

Christopher Alesich

CEO/President

Matchmakers Inc

Sister Wives

One thing I’ve noticed on “dating” or “meet people” networks over some period of time is that it’s SO easy to “write people off”:

too much this, not enough that.

This site certainly has one major advantage: For those of us who understand the Biblical basis of marriage, and that without question (except by those who mostly won’t be here anyway!) Scripture permits a man to have more than one wife – one of those major hurdles is removed.

Which doesn’t mean there aren’t others. Such as, is this person even REAL? Not just bots or fakes, of course, but scams. And while that’s part of the mix anywhere (perhaps even more so, given an arguably wider audience of dupes) – it’s a major issue when the pool of candidates is smaller, and the real ones are thus even more discerning.

Which is, obviously, both a good thing, and the opposite. But it does mean we have to be more selective, not less.

Which takes me back to where I began.

How much MORE important, then, to not write off the real ones? (After all, we all have our flaws, and are capable of working on them anyway).

On a more personal level, that observation leads me in a different direction. And I hope the connection will be clear.

There are, without question, many here who aren’t looking for marital partners based on an understanding of what I would consider THE most important, even vital, considerations, but something arguably opposite. (Personally, I don’t see the appeal; prostitutes, gay bars, and palaces for ‘pans’ are all over, especially in the cesspool cities some of us have escaped from, so why bother sorting through bots?)

I/we came to an understanding of Scriptural marriage in parallel with realizing that “we have inherited lies from our fathers.” Most of what I’d been told in sun-god day skool was bunk, from Him having “done away with his own Law” (perhaps the biggest lie in human history, right up there with “you can be like god,” and “you will not die”) to having changed His sabbath and feast days that He said over and over again He would not do.

Eventually I realized His mama NEVER called him ‘jesus’ (that word didn’t even exist in the English language until after 1600 AD) and then what Paul (Shaul) was warning about only a few decades after He had walked among us: that they were then, and are still, pushing “another jesus whom we have not preached” (check that out for yourself in II Corinthians chapter 11 if you find that shocking).

If ‘jesus’ “did away with” his own law (actually, “torah” is the real word; it means instruction) and “nailed it to the cross” - then that one is a “liar and the truth is not in him.”

Which makes the point I was leading up to.

I was – like many of us – angry with what I still call the ‘whore church’ (the Bible does, too!) for just how Big that Lie turned out to be. And the lies about marriage (and the curses we now see in societies that swallow them) are just one big part of that.

It’s why I now spend so much time teaching His Word, “as Written,” and advise all with “eyes to see,” and “ears to hear” to “come out of her.” (Revelation 18:4)

But it took me/us quite a while to get from there, and the lies we had inherited, and so much of the baggage of ‘xtianity’ to a place where we understand what He means by “return to Me.”

It’s not easy. And a whole world which literally HATES Him, and all that He Wrote, is making it harder by the day. He says “choose life!” (Deuteronomy chapter 30) - the world demands a choice of death. (Think I’m kidding? Tune into any of my news shows. Today, they want to poison kids under the age of 5. Before they ‘groom’ them, or get them to mutilate their genitalia and destroy their immune system and sexuality utterly.  And from the 'poison poke' to the biggest economic meltdown in history, to the planned famine and next plandemic, the intent is to kill tens of millions.)

I understand that what He is asking us to do is not easy. It never was. But as the world literally becomes a ‘hell on earth’ - it will get far harder. And it was always a matter of life and death.

SO:

I/we aren’t looking for a ‘wife’ that already “knows it all.” I don’t claim to, but I do understand what “study to show yourself approved” means, and more than a bit about how that applies to everything from what is ‘money’ (hint: not fiat FRNs, but the Hebrew word ‘qesef’ means BOTH money and silver, just as the Constitution says, too) to what is ‘marriage’. And what’s coming, because He has given us no small amount of warning.

Most importantly, what we need to do now.

I suspect that the concentration of good women who understand that is probably higher than any other such platform around. Understanding something about polygyny is a good start. But only that. A belief in ‘Jesus’ as messiah can be, too, but He is much more, and that’s probably why Paul says “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.” (Philippians 2:12. After all – if saying a prayer once and getting dunked was all it took, why would Yahushua Himself say the “path is narrow, and FEW there be that find it”?)

Which leads me to the ‘big finish’. Moses wasn’t so much the “meekest” man ever (‘anav’ in the original Hebrew) – I suggest he was the most “teachable.”

He had a lot to learn. So do we.

And that’s what we’re looking for.

hi there everyone.

i'm going to try to share a little about me on this blog, so you all can gain a better understanding of who i am, my past, and why it's lead me to be the person i am now and my desire to be a sister wife.

I'll try to write a little each day in an ongoing way, but let me start by saying a grew up in a very liberal and highly educated household. I love my parents deeply. They raised me in the things they believed, which were things like compassion for those less fortunate, empathy, and honesty.  They are feminists and also more left-learning, but they never demanded I be so as well.  They encouraged me to keep core values of love and faith, but to allow them to manifest however my beliefs evolved.

As it became clear to me, as i tried hard to fit in as a hair-under-the-armpits feminist that it just wasn't for me, they supported my decisions to become more involved in the christian church, to seek strong men who set the tone for me and our relationship, to be more conservative in my politics, and eventually to find my journey here, where i hope to find a loving Husband and His alpha wives where i can serve in a beta role. While they are proud of my career and support me, i don't think this is where they anticipated their daughter ending up.  But they love and support what i choose to be. And what i choose to be is a subservient and devoted wife to a King who can ensure my role is cherished but also i doing things in my proper place, at the feet of the Man i'm devoted to.

Hey all. Am new to this site and just trying to figure things out on here. If you have any ideas, recommendations or whatever. Let me know. Accepting of all. Just need some new friends who will accept me. Thanks, enjoy your day☺

Okay for those that love breakfast,  let's have debate.  Which breakfast is the best? 

A)  Poptart 

B) Cereal

C) Oatmeal 

D) Sausages/Bacon and eggs

I tend to glance at the list of users who have viewed our profile fairly regularly and saw a profile announcing that the site was full of "fakes and aggressive men" and it inspired me to write a blog post on a topic I have had in mind for a while.

I do not disagree with this person in the slightest in their assessment that the site...and all of the others are likely to be the same realistically... is full of fakes and aggressive men.

The fakes are frequently just simple scammers and honestly you have to be a full on lumphead to fall for the kind of obvious cut and paste from a translator bot message that will pop up. Seriously... does anybody really think that a bunch of girls from Ghana are clambering to get into plural families in the states? Anyway, scams happen all the time and this is the internet boys and girls,  it is part of the environment.  The actual troublesome ones are the fakes from the point of view that they are not serious and are just looking to get an ego stroke or to jack with those plig weirdos or whatever. Tonnes of them on these sites. 

With respect to the aggressive guys, I can just assume that they are the assholes who are either trying to larp polygamy because of some fantasy and again ego stroke issue or they are the sort of douche that has managed to bully or convince their frequently unwilling wives into this search with claims that God is talking to them directly in a big booming voice so he can use her faith against her or some other scam perhaps involving fear of losing financial support for her and her kids. The reason being in the end that he wishes to have regular sexual access to another woman. This sort of beta dickhead is not really going to come in many flavors but aggressive is certainly one of the most popular .

Now don't get me wrong... I am not white  knighting the girls on here at all. They leave so much to be desired that it makes me all the more thankful that I met and married one of the few real gems that really was looking to be part of a plural family. 

The vast majority of woman on here are just simply ill mannered brats that I would not have at all. While a man is absolutely the head of the family, a man should not be forced to reraise a woman he has married and try to undo all of the apparently shoddy work that her parents did in teaching her the bone basics of how to treat people.

I know that just about every serious couple on here who is seeking a sisterwife has experienced the ghosting treatment from the singled women (presuming that they are A. Single B. Women ((what the hell is wrong with people that they have nothing better to do?)) C. Seriously looking for a family instead of screwing around.). They exchange a few messages and or emails and then puff of smoke and the girl is gone. No warning, no 'Thanks but I don't think we are a match' or anything.

Now don't get to thinking I am just being butthurt that some girls ghosted me. A. Noooope. See the profile. Not looking for another wife. Maybe someday but right now we are just trying to network with the community. B. As i previously mentioned, I would not have the ones with such bad manners gift wrapped. I do not wish to spend my life in a contentious marriage with a brat I have to reeducate on courtesy and consideration for others as opposed to the shallow narcissist who can not be bothered considering the time or feelings of others. There are some couples here who really get ahead of themselves emotionally after a few exchanges and while that is not some random girls fault, she should be aware of the effect just blowing them off has. Lots give up just because some woman was not interested in thinking beyond the end of her nose. I/we have been happy to meet and chat with women here but we sure are not going to come out of the gate as anything but plain old friendly and certainly not flirty or whatever.

Yeah I know... 'but a lot of guys are assholes and won't take a polite no'... or 'I get so many emails I am overwhelmed' etc etc. Yeah? Is this your first time on the internet as a female? These are such common issues with such common solutions that I don't see them as valid complaints. Just part of the equation with online seeking of any kind. 

So to my mind the couples who get ghosted by the women with bad manners, just move along and be glad. Glad that you found out about this character flaw after a couple of notes back and forth. Imagine how much worse it would be if it seemed to work out only to have the rug pulled out much further along... I mean that genuinely. It could be so so much worse. Nobody is here, whether it is as a single woman or a couple, to get their emotional guts ripped out. 

We would love to know, If you had one thing that you really wanted to see or one function you really wanted, What would you want to add to sisterwives.us