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I do not disagree with this person in the slightest in their assessment that the site...and all of the others are likely to be the same realistically... is full of fakes and aggressive men.
The fakes are frequently just simple scammers and honestly you have to be a full on lumphead to fall for the kind of obvious cut and paste from a translator bot message that will pop up. Seriously... does anybody really think that a bunch of girls from Ghana are clambering to get into plural families in the states? Anyway, scams happen all the time and this is the internet boys and girls, it is part of the environment. The actual troublesome ones are the fakes from the point of view that they are not serious and are just looking to get an ego stroke or to jack with those plig weirdos or whatever. Tonnes of them on these sites.
With respect to the aggressive guys, I can just assume that they are the assholes who are either trying to larp polygamy because of some fantasy and again ego stroke issue or they are the sort of douche that has managed to bully or convince their frequently unwilling wives into this search with claims that God is talking to them directly in a big booming voice so he can use her faith against her or some other scam perhaps involving fear of losing financial support for her and her kids. The reason being in the end that he wishes to have regular sexual access to another woman. This sort of beta dickhead is not really going to come in many flavors but aggressive is certainly one of the most popular .
Now don't get me wrong... I am not white knighting the girls on here at all. They leave so much to be desired that it makes me all the more thankful that I met and married one of the few real gems that really was looking to be part of a plural family.
The vast majority of woman on here are just simply ill mannered brats that I would not have at all. While a man is absolutely the head of the family, a man should not be forced to reraise a woman he has married and try to undo all of the apparently shoddy work that her parents did in teaching her the bone basics of how to treat people.
I know that just about every serious couple on here who is seeking a sisterwife has experienced the ghosting treatment from the singled women (presuming that they are A. Single B. Women ((what the hell is wrong with people that they have nothing better to do?)) C. Seriously looking for a family instead of screwing around.). They exchange a few messages and or emails and then puff of smoke and the girl is gone. No warning, no 'Thanks but I don't think we are a match' or anything.
Now don't get to thinking I am just being butthurt that some girls ghosted me. A. Noooope. See the profile. Not looking for another wife. Maybe someday but right now we are just trying to network with the community. B. As i previously mentioned, I would not have the ones with such bad manners gift wrapped. I do not wish to spend my life in a contentious marriage with a brat I have to reeducate on courtesy and consideration for others as opposed to the shallow narcissist who can not be bothered considering the time or feelings of others. There are some couples here who really get ahead of themselves emotionally after a few exchanges and while that is not some random girls fault, she should be aware of the effect just blowing them off has. Lots give up just because some woman was not interested in thinking beyond the end of her nose. I/we have been happy to meet and chat with women here but we sure are not going to come out of the gate as anything but plain old friendly and certainly not flirty or whatever.
Yeah I know... 'but a lot of guys are assholes and won't take a polite no'... or 'I get so many emails I am overwhelmed' etc etc. Yeah? Is this your first time on the internet as a female? These are such common issues with such common solutions that I don't see them as valid complaints. Just part of the equation with online seeking of any kind.
So to my mind the couples who get ghosted by the women with bad manners, just move along and be glad. Glad that you found out about this character flaw after a couple of notes back and forth. Imagine how much worse it would be if it seemed to work out only to have the rug pulled out much further along... I mean that genuinely. It could be so so much worse. Nobody is here, whether it is as a single woman or a couple, to get their emotional guts ripped out.
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We probably should have named this one Choosy Lovers or If we can't be lovers. Polygamy is a topic of hit debate nowadays. Join us as we discuss the fascination with people having more than one lover. The good, bad, and ugly. Is it selfish? Is it custom? Is it being open and honest? Is this what faithful is? We will have special guests from www.sisterwives.com on to speak to us about the concept and construct of how polygamy works.
...and single mothers with children, especially young ones...
Hopefully by now you can see what's coming. Myself and others have been warning about it for a long time now, and we're there.
You have probably already seen empty shelves. It will get worse - much worse. And if you thought the riots were bad before, wait until this country sees genuine widespread hunger for the first time in its history. The major cities will be a nightmare.
Which is why I am thankful many here are able to see the benefit of a larger loving family. ESPECIALLY in a more rural area - and the further from major populations, the better.
I also encourage people to understand the fragility of the power grid (as an electronic engineer, this has been on my mind for well over a decade now). It's why we are 100% off-grid here, in every way (solar, primarily).
Be thinking now about what is coming, and what you are able to accomplish. By the time most people wake up to what has already happened, it will be too late.
Blessings...
Dear Friends, To begin with, I am not judging those who are strictly or primarily interested in finding a sexual partner. That is your business and I think everyone understands that. Moreover, people have a lot of different types of lifestyles and beliefs and it is agreed that it is best to recognize that everyone should have the right to live as they wish.
What I am going to discuss today is the
question: when is the right time to talk about sex? The answer to that
is often times not so simple. Being as I am not into swinging I am going
to examine this question from the standpoint of someone who is really
looking for a permanent life partner.
To begin with, when I look over a profile one
of the things that puts me off is displaying sexual pictures. No matter
what the woman is really like, I tend to make assumption if I see too
much of body right off the bat. I like a woman's form as much as anyone
else, but if a woman reveals herself right away to me (an everyone else)
that sends the message that she is advertising her body for a romp in
the hay and not a really, lasting relationship (so to speak). Being as
fidelity is of paramount importance to me and my family, I ask myself,
"could I ever trust such a woman to be faithful?
Furthermore, if the first thing out of my mouth
(or in text) is a "come-on: full of sexual innuendo, am I worth a real
relationship with the person I'm talking to? Again, I think not.
In my opinion (which I realize is just that), I
don't think that women who are really wanting a good man, wants him to
zero in on her body or sexual acts right away. I suppose, if both
parties are just interested in hooking up, that would be a different
matter, but for those who are honestly looking for someone to add to
they hearts and home, that is not what we're looking.
Moreover, when people come at women, who are
seriously looking to join a family, with sex talk, that may tend to sour
them on the whole concept. Perhaps it even ends up driving them away
from this site and from the notion of poly altogether.
For me, personally, I will not talk about sex
with a woman until there is a relationship that warrants such a
conversation. The woman I want would not lead with sexuality either.
While we are both adults and intimacy is at the heart of any vibrant
relationship, getting to know her character and spirit, is the place to
start for me. Practically any woman can be very sexy if she is really
in love with the man she's with, so it is not necessary to advertise
that initially because it is a given.
Some women have learned that being sexy or,
appearing to be sexy, gets them a lot of attention. Furthermore, the
promise of sex with men can lead them to advantages in all sorts of
ways. However, given the choice between getting what they want through
advertising their bodies and having those things given to them freely by
a man who truly loves them as a person, I think many might prefer a
real relationship.
Also, and I think this is a valid point, just
wanting to use a woman (or a man) only for your pleasure degrades them as a
human being.
In conclusion, I think "sex talk" might be
better reserved for the time when their is a love relationship that is
appropriate for that kind of intimacy. Getting to know a woman or a man
well before sex is perhaps the safest way to know what you are getting
yourself in to.
Lastly, if hooking up is really all you want to do, are their not other places better suited for find such a situation? Why hide what you really want behind the facade of finding a sister wife if all you want is a sexual partner with little or no commitment?
Finally, everyone can do and be what they
want. I just know for myself, I want a woman good character, a sweet
heart, and a loyal disposition. If I can find that, everything else
will follow.
Big hugs and lots of love,
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