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vegemite
Reflecting as an adult on my childhood, I think my parents had two separate only children rather than two children, siblings.  My parents showered us both with a lot of love and attention, meeting all our needs.  Certainly that was a fantastic experience but left me unprepared in some ways for the cruel world and independent adulthood, where there is not always someone there to help you and fulfill your wishes.  There is an old saying that if you give a child and a pig everything they want, you will end up with a good pig.


What does this have to do with polygamy?


Do we have multiple independent husband and wife relationships, or a sharing, or both?


The two shall become one of Genesis implies a singularity of pairing, exclusive of others.  Extending that to polygamy would imply multiple one flesh pairings, each unique in its bonding.


But what of sister wives?


The name itself implies a relationship between wives.


How many women raised in western society really want the sister aspect of polygamy, rather than engaging in a tug of war with the other wives, the objective being to secure the greatest share of the man's time, energy and resources?


Is the maths simply 1+1, and another 1+1, and so on, an additive process?


Or are there synergies, sharings, benefits, where 1+1+1 = more than 3?


In chemical terms, the synergy would be covalent bonding with the women the atoms and the male the electron.


Surely the highest and best form of polygamy is where each person seeks to bring out the best in the others, being true agape.


Something to think about.




vegemite Sep 10 · Comments: 2
calypsoshade
I am new to the site ,, I don't really no where to start and kinda nervous. My husband gave me the idea to try this site after so many fumbles on other dating sites(looking for a girlfriend is hard smh), from women only wanting me to some only wanting him . Now I just hope to make at least a friendship out all this. So hit me up?
calypsoshade Aug 12 · Comments: 3
southernsass
On this site u have to have a lot of forgiveness in your self and others or it won't work. You have to be willing to say I'm sorry! If it works , great. If not , move on. Their are other fish in the sea. You can't be Judgemental or mean on this site and get any where!
southernsass Aug 4 · Comments: 2
JTaylor8084
Has anyone met anyone off this site? Successful? Unsuccessful?
JTaylor8084 Jun 30 · Comments: 4
theoneo
I was reading a Q&A site recently about polyamory.  In the middle of the response the answerer wrote:


"If you can't do monogamy, then you won't be able to do polygamy."


As tortological as it sounds, this person touched on an important point.  Some people come to polygamy from a desire to be freer than they would get from a monogamous relationship; to have less to do, less to consider or commit to, and more independence.


In polygamy there are more people and a tighter bond between them, which means yes, there are more people who can and will love you, and more people who can and will help you through anything, but that also means more people to care for, more people to be considerate of, more emotion, and more lives to contribute to.  This true for everyone, including the husband.


Many successful monogamous relationships have the same qualities that polygamous relationships do, and many failures of marriages are similar whether they be monogamous or polygamous.


This means, unfortunately, that women suitable for polygamy are probably already in monogamous relationships.  The good news is that this also means there are more women suited to polygamy in the general population than seek it out.  So don't hide your polygamy from people you trust just because they're happily monogamous.


If you're a natural giver, listener, and communicator, then you will find polygamy much easier than monogamy, and you probably already know this from the close friendships you nurture already. :-)

theoneo Jun 22 · Tags: thoughts, monogamy
tonig
I'm polyamorus/ Bisexual married woman looking for a partner and bad ass girly friend!!!??? My husband is an amazing father and partner!! We've been married 8 years friends 15yrs! 
tonig Jun 21
PecanTan29
New to this site
Don’t be rude
Say wassup besides that don’t bite unless asked lol
Sarah19
Life is really hating on my family right now...
Sarah19 Jun 17 · Comments: 2
Jpearce
Hubby enjoys making the most of the weekend. That includes road trips. He is an excellent driver which is wonderful because I really do not like driving! After settling some important business in NY he took me to an amazing outdoor/indoor museum near Princeton, NJ. It had wonderful sculptures outside throughout the acres. Massive abstract, realistic and sometime just plain odd sculptures all along paths that we could walk on.

The place is called Grounds for Sculptures or Sculpture gardens.  I had mentioned to him a few weeks back that a friend told me about the place and that I wanted to go. It was a lovely surprise.


Later he took us to Newtown, PA where we stayed overnight at a historic hotel and enjoyed time at the outdoor bar. Good food and excellent conversations.


Personally, I really look forward to wonderful loving woman that will join our family and we can take such excursions together and enjoy our life.


xox, Wifey

Jpearce Jun 5 · Tags: travel, food, art
Spiritual_Couple

     I'll try to make this as concise as possible without going too far off subject. There is so much out there in the world unknown to us that I'm not going to pretend that I even have a grasp of it. I do know that I do understand the things that directly affect me and the world I live in. Having said that, in terms of people and relationships specifically, polygamy seems to happen everyday, right in front of us, we're currently in them, and don't even realize it. If defining polygamy as a non-monogamous relationship is the basis, with the self-intended creation of a relationship being the cause, then in general, the following could be included:



    Baby-mama/ multiple marriages: If you are in/ have a past relationship that involves children that in the new/ current relationship requires you to be a part of their lives, then the new relationship is required to recognize/ accept the connections that bond you to the previous relationship, even if they have now become friendships. This only increases as new relationships are formed past the 2nd one, whether it was someone's 2nd to 3rd marriage with children in each of them, or if it was of the one-night stand situation, or even a combination of the two, AND this has NO bearing on any of the relationships being good OR bad.


     Mistresses/ Beau: Those of the political scene know that this is an accepted standard, where the politician is married, but has had extramarital affairs that they must now acknowledge, and /or is engaging in currently . The list is TOO long to even begin with, but you can start with the current president Trump, Clinton, heck, probably most of them fools on the hill, etc.  This also includes our own family members, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. Remember all the whispering at the family cookout when some kids show up that look VERY familiar, like you know them but this is the first time you've met them, then someone asks, "Who's your daddy?" 


     Extended families: This includes intended relationships that are there to support other friends, while creating bonds that are exclusive to that group of members. Think "The Fast And Furious", or even the village-style support for taking care of deceased friends and family-member's surviving spouses/ children, whether for emotional, financial, or physical support (Think Military/ Armed Forces Family). Being of a military family, I have seen a lot of that happen.


     Positive relationships with previous relationships: Exes, past boyfriends/ girlfriends that didn't work out when they were dating each other but they are better as friends, such intimate knowledge of each other may strengthen the relationship, but may cause some insecurity and jealousy of the new relationship, especially if your ex is your best friend.


     Please note, none of this is to be consider negative or positive. It is just an observation of the various relationship that I see happen everyday, yet the only LEGALLY accepted status is for the monogamous design. Curious as to why that is when polygamous situations happens more often than not.


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